Litiquette2

[Shadowmist99]

There are two kinds of strengths: the strength to lead, and the strength to follow; the strength to control, and the strength to yield. There are two kinds of power: the power to strip another's soul bare, and the power to stand naked. Do not mistake following for weakness, for it is not. Do not mistake yielding for weakness, for in yielding there is resilience. Do not mistake the submissive's need for relatedness for inability to be alone. Submissive women are not weaklings. They are sensitive people who have a great deal of resilience in the face of their particular challenges. Submissiveness is a strength seeking a proper context.

Quoted from Yaldah Tovah, the writer of an article titled "The Healthy Submissive"

I was told it was offensive because it insinuated that to be submissive one had to be healthy, and that not all submissives are emotionally healthy. Not exactly, but something along those lines. I did not ever have a clear understanding of why it was offensive, but over in the BDSM talk section there is a thread called "Healthy Sub", I believe, which was started in direct reference to my sig. There was some heated discussion in the thread, but all in all, the discussion that followed was pretty thought provoking. *shrug*

ETA: I don't want to derail this thread, which is why I referenced the thread that was started in the BDSM section for anyone who is further curious.

In the end, there was interesting debate. Although, no one ever really agreed with my position, one of the gentleman that posted on the thread never disagreed with my position. Because he happens to be someone that I respect immensely on this site, that was enough for me to feel somewhat vindicated, I guess, but I still took my sig off.

Thank you for posting it. I find nothing offensive about it, and in fact, I do recall seeing it now that you've refreshed my memory. I'm sorry you got grief for it. People are too sensitive I think.

 

[All_4_Love]

Thank you for posting it. I find nothing offensive about it, and in fact, I do recall seeing it now that you've refreshed my memory. I'm sorry you got grief for it. People are too sensitive I think.

Thank you, sweet lady. I think it's a beautiful quote. It speaks straight to my heart.

 

[Mindfondler]

... if there was one thing you could change about your time at Lit, what would it be?

More meaningful conversations and discussions and less time spent on the superficial. Some of us are here to go deep (no pun intended ... perhaps a little) and some are not. You do have to get to know someone and the games and banter are ways of doing that. I crave talking without masks as I do it so infrequently. Perhaps that is selfish of me to say, but talking without any masks and just being myself wholly is very freeing to me, personally.

That's interesting, because I've reached the opposite conclusion.

In the past, I spent a lot of time trying to compose "meaningful" posts, and I tended to ignore the "superficial" threads. Often, I discarded a draft post because it didn't seem "worthy". Now I recognise that I need to lighten up, because most Litsters aren't particularly interested in deep talk or lasting friendships -- they just want to share in some fun (and there's nothing wrong with that).

Also, as Tim says, it's possible to get to know people through so-called "superficial" games and banter. I think I'm learning that gradually.
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[SpicySweets]

More meaningful conversations and discussions and less time spent on the superficial. Some of us are here to go deep (no pun intended ... perhaps a little) and some are not. You do have to get to know someone and the games and banter are ways of doing that. I crave talking without masks as I do it so infrequently. Perhaps that is selfish of me to say, but talking without any masks and just being myself wholly is very freeing to me, personally.

That's interesting, because I've reached the opposite conclusion.

In the past, I spent a lot of time trying to compose "meaningful" posts, and I tended to ignore the "superficial" threads. Often, I discarded a draft post because it didn't seem "worthy". Now I recognise that I need to lighten up, because most Litsters aren't particularly interested in deep talk or lasting friendships -- they just want to share in some fun (and there's nothing wrong with that).

Also, as Tim says, it's possible to get to know people through so-called "superficial" games and banter. I think I'm learning that gradually.
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I think there are plenty of people who are interested in both the meaningful conversations and the playful fun.

 

[Shadowmist99]

I think there are plenty of people who are interested in both the meaningful conversations and the playful fun.

Spicy and I seem to agree a lot today. Lol.

 

[lexieredefined]

There are two kinds of strengths: the strength to lead, and the strength to follow; the strength to control, and the strength to yield. There are two kinds of power: the power to strip another's soul bare, and the power to stand naked. Do not mistake following for weakness, for it is not. Do not mistake yielding for weakness, for in yielding there is resilience. Do not mistake the submissive's need for relatedness for inability to be alone. Submissive women are not weaklings. They are sensitive people who have a great deal of resilience in the face of their particular challenges. Submissiveness is a strength seeking a proper context.

*snip*

Thanks for sharing. I rather like that, but I can see how that would go many ways. I'm sure it did lead to an interesting debate.

I think there are plenty of people who are interested in both the meaningful conversations and the playful fun.

I completely agree. Personally I want some conversation and witty banter before the playful fun. I'm old fashioned, I guess.

 

[alt_ego]

Personally I want some conversation and witty banter before the playful fun. I'm old fashioned, I guess.

I like to believe I can be a cunning linguist. How can I reach you?

 

[lexieredefined]

I like to believe I can be a cunning linguist. How can I reach you?

Psst... it's called a PM.

 

[SpicySweets]

Spicy and I seem to agree a lot today. Lol.

Yes, we do!

 

[Mindfondler]

I think there are plenty of people who are interested in both the meaningful conversations and the playful fun.

Heh... I was hoping that someone would refute my earlier assertion.

Spicy and I seem to agree a lot today. Lol.

I completely agree. Personally I want some conversation and witty banter before the playful fun. I'm old fashioned, I guess.

Okay... I give in! It's a mixture of both, isn't it?
*accepts caning* :caning:
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[Callmetim]

I think there are plenty of people who are interested in both the meaningful conversations and the playful fun.

The question was to change one thing and perhaps it was the balance of the two would be a better way to say it. The word games are fun, but I would not do only those. Discussions and conversations about varied topics are enjoyable as well; I've just been feeling lacking in that department, but I've been away for a while so I guess I'm my own worst enemy.

 

[dutchrain]

As we awaken to Monday, I wonder how many of us are glad the weekend is over. Sometimes, I need a Monday to recover from my weekend. Often times my work day pace is slower than my weekend pace. I think it's all from trying to cram so much into 2 days. I think I would like a permanent 3day weekend, I might feel more refreshed. Or be even more tired.

All that to ask, if there was one thing you could change about your time at Lit, what would it be?

My time on Lit is quite nice as it is. But I was a bit naive when I was a Newbie.

I vote for 3-day weekends and 6-hour work days, all while making the same salary.

The one thing I would change, like Shadowmist, is my naïveté in the beginning. I was treating the new friends I made on Lit similarly to those in real life. I learned rather quickly to practice more caution here in making these friends. But even now, there are one or two who still haunt me.

Seconds the vote.

The question was to change one thing and perhaps it was the balance of the two would be a better way to say it. The word games are fun, but I would not do only those. Discussions and conversations about varied topics are enjoyable as well; I've just been feeling lacking in that department, but I've been away for a while so I guess I'm my own worst enemy.

Mm, I miss more threads like "Litiquette" too. More threads with serious discussions about all kinds of topics would be nice. On the GB it always gets "mweh".

 

[SweetSam42]

All that to ask, if there was one thing you could change about your time at Lit, what would it be?

I'd pick a better user name. Didn't realize I was going to be hanging around as much as I have been, and I didn't really think about it.

Mm, I miss more threads like "Litiquette" too. More threads with serious discussions about all kinds of topics would be nice. On the GB it always gets "mweh".

I'd like this too - but most times when someone starts an interesting thread on the PG, one of two things seems to happen:

1. It quickly gets lost onto page 2, then 3, then 4, then it's gone unless the OP or someone else nurtures it daily (like this one). Just so many people posting quickly in the PG.

2. The thread is eventually hijacked and I lose interest in posting.

If I want to talk about something in dept, I typically will post it in the Dark Room. Less foot traffic there, so the threads stay on the first page longer, but less foot traffic also means much fewer posts. Oh well.

 

[Lord Pmann]

This thread is nice for some actual discussion. It's not often the Playground has threads where you can actually interact and talk.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I vote for 3-day weekends and 6-hour work days, all while making the same salary.

The one thing I would change, like Shadowmist, is my naïveté in the beginning. I was treating the new friends I made on Lit similarly to those in real life. I learned rather quickly to practice more caution here in making these friends. But even now, there are one or two who still haunt me.

I second this..

 

[Mindfondler]

If I want to talk about something in dept, I typically will post it in the Dark Room. Less foot traffic there, so the threads stay on the first page longer, but less foot traffic also means much fewer posts. Oh well.

Ah... interesting! *scribbles note to self*
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[ChainedUp]

Good morning Litiquette-izans. I hope you find Tuesday as the song goes "...a many splendored thing".

You read and you react, sometimes outwardly, sometimes only to yourself. But what causes you to type out a reply. Is it just to be seen, is it because you have great wisdom to impart, is it because you know your post will make so done laugh? Or is it to simply draw attention to yourself.

So what's your motivation to post?

 

[elli1]

Good morning Litiquette-izans. I hope you find Tuesday as the song goes "...a many splendored thing".

You read and you react, sometimes outwardly, sometimes only to yourself. But what causes you to type out a reply. Is it just to be seen, is it because you have great wisdom to impart, is it because you know your post will make so done laugh? Or is it to simply draw attention to yourself.

So what's your motivation to post?

i'm clever and funny and the world needs to know.

 

[lexieredefined]

So what's your motivation to post?

Sometimes, I admit it is just to be seen. Mostly it's about having fun and engaging with my fellow Litsters. I do enjoy threads like this one where you have a deeper conversation as opposed to kissing the person above you. I also like threads where a good debate is going on, but can't stand when people get nasty.

The reason I post isn't one simple answer, which I think would be the case for many people here. If I had to sum it up, I would say that I post for the ability to interact with the community here whether it be silly or serious posts.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Good morning Litiquette-izans. I hope you find Tuesday as the song goes "...a many splendored thing".

You read and you react, sometimes outwardly, sometimes only to yourself. But what causes you to type out a reply. Is it just to be seen, is it because you have great wisdom to impart, is it because you know your post will make so done laugh? Or is it to simply draw attention to yourself.

So what's your motivation to post?

It depends. Sometimes I really have something I think will be helpful, but that's usually on the How To forum. Most of my posts are for fun though. Or to just goof off.

I rarely have any motive other than those two things.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I also like threads where a good debate is going on, but can't stand when people get nasty.

Oh man, I do love getting involved in a good debate here and there. I've been known to dive head first into a few of them.

 

[jusgoodcleanfun]

I post in the face threads in the hopes of seeing people's faces.

I post otherwise in the Playground to pass time or for shits and giggles.

I post in the How To because i love the peeps there and often have something to say.

I post hoping to meet a new friend

 

[SpicySweets]

Good morning Litiquette-izans. I hope you find Tuesday as the song goes "...a many splendored thing".

You read and you react, sometimes outwardly, sometimes only to yourself. But what causes you to type out a reply. Is it just to be seen, is it because you have great wisdom to impart, is it because you know your post will make so done laugh? Or is it to simply draw attention to yourself.

So what's your motivation to post?

Sometimes I post because I feel like flirting, other times because I have something to say. It all depends on my mood, the topics, and whether or not I feel I have something to contribute. Often I just lurk around and enjoy what I'm reading.

 

[jackdaw]

Good morning Litiquette-izans. I hope you find Tuesday as the song goes "...a many splendored thing".

You read and you react, sometimes outwardly, sometimes only to yourself. But what causes you to type out a reply. Is it just to be seen, is it because you have great wisdom to impart, is it because you know your post will make so done laugh? Or is it to simply draw attention to yourself.

So what's your motivation to post?

As a rule I keep myself to myself . . .

(I think that's known as lurking; though, personally, I find that term on the spooky side. I'd prefer it to be known as 'mingling', which sounds friendlier.)

. . . public posting is for when I have something to say: serious, or dry-humoured, or, occasionally to lark about on a playground thread. In general I find those intimidating though – constantly anxious about posting the wrong letter of the alphabet, or connecting with the wrong part of the wrong word!

Just occasionally my posts don't fit any of these criteria: these are sudden, inexplicable wild moments. And perhaps to prove to myself that I can hold my head high if I choose: a kind of experiment in extroversion – like this very post, I guess!

 

[may_I_please]

Good morning Litiquette-izans. I hope you find Tuesday as the song goes "...a many splendored thing".

You read and you react, sometimes outwardly, sometimes only to yourself. But what causes you to type out a reply. Is it just to be seen, is it because you have great wisdom to impart, is it because you know your post will make so done laugh? Or is it to simply draw attention to yourself.

So what's your motivation to post?

Sometimes it's to make people laugh; sometimes to make people feel good. Generally it's just to play and flirt ...and the payoff is the flirting and playing back ...

"Draw attention to oneself" is so imbued with negative connotations I think we all do it because we want that connection with others - whether to play, flirt, converse or even bicker