Litiquette VII

[hotwords229_A]

Agreed. The only thing for me is that I can't be friend with a man (like real friend) and have sex with him. Once you are in my friendzone, I just can't. I don't see you that way, I am not attracted to you sexually. We can become friends after, but not before.

There is a weird thing about friendship and sex. Is it because we might be more inhibited to let our guard down? It seems like sex would be the next step after friendship, but it’s the opposite. Strange.

 

[Orchidea73]

There is a weird thing about friendship and sex. Is it because we might be more inhibited to let our guard down? It seems like sex would be the next step after friendship, but it’s the opposite. Strange.

Nah, it's not about letting the guard down. At least as far as I'm concerned. On the contrary. I would think that for the purpose of a threesome, especially, friends would be perfect because you do trust them. I think I'm just not able to feel for a real friend a sexual attraction as well. It has happened that from a friendship it became something more. But we fell in love and it became a serious relationship.

Having a "casual" sexual encounter, however, it's a different thing entirely. I can have that with a "stranger" but it seems that I don't feel any lust or attraction for a friend. I did it once, many moons ago. He was gorgeous physically, confident and funny, and a gentleman. On paper, he had all the qualities that would make him very attractive to me. Which was also the reason that I did talk myself into it, when he started to make the advances. I knew women who were drooling after him. So I was like: Are you crazy? He's fantastic. You know each other and you are not in love with him. This is going to be one time thing, so it's perfect. Don't overthink it.

Oh boy, was I wrong!!! It was one of the most awkward things I have ever done, I think. There was nothing wrong with him in bed either. But all I could think of was; Ewww, this is not making me any good. This is how it must feel to have sex with your brother. Let's be done with it, and quickly. lol Never again! Not worthy.

 

[hotwords229_A]

^^^That makes much more sense than what I said, and, I guess, that’s more of what I meant. Maybe it’s that friends know each other too well and having sex with them “complicates” things (as people say). It’s almost too intimate and personal to share with someone you truly care for in a different way. That’s the weirdness that I meant. Like you said it’s like having sex with your brother.

To me, it’s strange that sex is almost easier with a “stranger” than an intimate friend. I’m still not saying it right, but I think everyone knows what I mean.

Now pardon me, I’m late to my Glory Hole

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I feel like there might be a story here….



You cannot be that old.

The story being that I always wanted to try it and a pandemic is kind of the perfect time to give something new a go.

The added bonus is easier hair care rituals when navigating life with a newborn.

 

[Trekka]

HW left a 3some question as bait
SMNaughty left some salacious tidbits
Enny showed up and gave her two cents whilst feeling uncomfortable
Orchi and NRJ brought up the poly question
Yda even made a Litiquette appearance

But it’s Aussie’s shaved head that officially lured me back in.
At least for the moment.

Hugs, everyone!

 

[hotwords229_A]

HW left a 3some question as bait
SMNaughty left some salacious tidbits
Enny showed up and gave her two cents whilst feeling uncomfortable
Orchi and NRJ brought up the poly question
Yda even made a Litiquette appearance

But it’s Aussie’s shaved head that officially lured me back in.
At least for the moment.

Hugs, everyone!

So that’s what it takes—shaving body parts?
Good to know.

Aussie makes head shaving look hot

 

[QuietCanadian]

HW left a 3some question as bait
SMNaughty left some salacious tidbits
Enny showed up and gave her two cents whilst feeling uncomfortable
Orchi and NRJ brought up the poly question
Yda even made a Litiquette appearance

But it’s Aussie’s shaved head that officially lured me back in.
At least for the moment.

Hugs, everyone!

Aussie's shaved head is bitchin'. Do people still say that? Does it still mean something good? Fuck, I need to consult urban dictionary.

Also, hugs.


Update from urban dictionary: "Not just great, but bad-ass fine." incredibly appropriate.

 

[Endless_Night]

Aussie. Damn. Bold. Beautiful.

Very Persis Khamabtta*.

I'm sensing a possible trend. Ladies?



*Geeky Star Trek reference to a character from a race so attractive an oath of celibacy was required for them to serve in Star Fleet.

#usedtobeatrekkie

 

[QuietCanadian]

Aussie. Damn. Bold. Beautiful.

Very Persis Khamabtta*.

I'm sensing a possible trend. Ladies?



*Geeky Star Trek reference to a character from a race so attractive an oath of celibacy was required for them to serve in Star Fleet.

#usedtobeatrekkie

I did not read that as "persis" the first time.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

HW left a 3some question as bait
SMNaughty left some salacious tidbits
Enny showed up and gave her two cents whilst feeling uncomfortable
Orchi and NRJ brought up the poly question
Yda even made a Litiquette appearance

But it’s Aussie’s shaved head that officially lured me back in.
At least for the moment.

Hugs, everyone!

*Pounce*

It's good to see you
It's been forever since we've spoken and I miss you

So that’s what it takes—shaving body parts?
Good to know.

Aussie makes head shaving look hot

Certain body parts
And thanks

AGGs shaved head also lured me back. Bold as, Aussie.

Cheers, Mamacita. It's been an experience.

Aussie's shaved head is bitchin'. Do people still say that? Does it still mean something good? Fuck, I need to consult urban dictionary.

Also, hugs.


Update from urban dictionary: "Not just great, but bad-ass fine." incredibly appropriate.

I'll take bitchin'
I do have a dog in heat at the moment so it seems oddly fitting.

Aussie. Damn. Bold. Beautiful.

Very Persis Khamabtta*.

I'm sensing a possible trend. Ladies?



*Geeky Star Trek reference to a character from a race so attractive an oath of celibacy was required for them to serve in Star Fleet.

#usedtobeatrekkie

I'm going to go have to look that up. And thanks, lovely

Beautiful! I love it. Nice to see you around: D

Ditto. It's good to see so many familiar faces. I've missed you all

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I did not read that as "persis" the first time.

https://64.media.tumblr.com/b9a5a3e8196fab005ae03a0b060d46da/65db92be746e5115-28/s400x600/449d00d764fce9ec83fe0c88c85fdabfc8865f9c.gifv

 

[Endless_Night]

My bad, I should have posted a pic. For the non-Trekkie thread perusers.

I do believe she was a beauty queen, or some such.

http://images2.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20090212232903/memoryalpha/de/images/2/26/Ilia.jpg

 

[investor2020]

As another longtime trekkie, it's difficult to forget Lt. Ilia - a former Miss India, (or, for that matter, Seven of Nine in the Voyager spin-off).

 

[Endless_Night]

I did not read that as "persis" the first time.

*hands you glasses*

Because I am all helpful.

(Why is there no halo icon?)

I totally knew all of this.

#trekkieforlife

I know you did.

 

[Endless_Night]

As another longtime trekkie, it's difficult to forget Lt. Ilia - a former Miss India, (or, for that matter, Seven of Nine in the Voyager spin-off).

India! I knew it was from somewhere (obvs) but couldn't remember where. She was a certainly a stunner.

 

[QuietCanadian]

*hands you glasses*

Because I am all helpful.

(Why is there no halo icon?)

They are a bit dirty, could you blow on them for me?

https://64.media.tumblr.com/b9a5a3e8196fab005ae03a0b060d46da/65db92be746e5115-28/s400x600/449d00d764fce9ec83fe0c88c85fdabfc8865f9c.gifv

This made me smile, thank you. But you could see how one could read that, right?

https://media1.tenor.com/images/0d705fedc47be6e2c5b74fc63af6cc87/tenor.gif

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Happy Friday.

A few weeks ago I walked by a POS women calling her grandson ugly and fat repeatedly as her cart half blocked the exit doors. I was shocked and upset all in about 1.6 seconds.
I turned around, looked at that little boy and said “I think you’re amazing and don’t let anyone ever tell you different.”
Grandma had a few choice words for me as I walked away.
Sat in my car and got teary eyed over it all.

Trekka told me this week she called the police on a man drinking and verbally abusive to his kids sitting in a car parked in the park.

How often do you step in on a situation and say/do something that doesn’t feel right?
Stand up for a matter that doesn’t affect your life directly, but you feel that pull because it’s the right thing to do?
Did you feel better afterwards?
Was their backlash?
Or maybe you didn’t act and hours later it’s still on your mind.

 

[QuietCanadian]

WTH, I thought it was filthy Friday, this is deep SMN!

I can't say that I remember the last time I was in this type of situation, but the older I get the more I'm likely to say something. Usually I find it more around homophobic or racist type things, when you're with some people and someone says something that is one of those things. Sometimes they mean it, sometimes they say it like a joke and don't even realize it, that's where I'll definitely say something. And Canada has been a pretty big atrocity the last few weeks of discoveries and/or horrific events and far too many people brushing it aside or saying ridiculous things.

The behaviors that you let slide, turn a blind eye to, say "oh that's not what they meant" are behaviors that you begin to endorse. I'm certainly no saint, nor am I calling out every awful thing I hear or see, but I'm better than I would've been when I was 25, or even last year.

I find the reaction is usually "fuck, you're right, that is offensive," but not always. I still get the double down on the comment, or the "give me a break, man", or what you received SMN. But we're still better for having said it. I don't feel good or bad about it, really. I guess I feel bad, not about saying something, but about how far society has yet to come, but that's another topic.

Proud of you and Trekka. It's not easy to do when not in a group of friends or you don't know the person. Good people you two are.

 

[Corbal]

I've managed to get two neighbors that LOVE to beat on their wives. One wife can hold her own and tears shit up... the other, not so much. I can't do anything when it happens in their home because I don't know its happening, but when these people get out in their front yards and are going at it, I call the cops, and then go outside and get right in the middle of their shit. No man is going to beat on his wife in my presence, and if I can't whoop his ass, my GLOCK can.

For other situations, I step in when I think I need to, and if a child is involved, well... all bets are off. Last year when we were working out in our garage b/c of the pandemic, my asshole-wife-punching neighbor (who is now in prison) was outside trying to teach his daughter to roller-skate. She was terrified, crying, and about 7 years old. We were doing farmer's carries down the street and back and he was ripping on her, not physically abusing her, but def getting down on her mentally. I listened each time I made a pass, and on my last go I had heard enough. I dropped my kettlebells, grabbed her hand and walked side-by-side with her while she rolled on the sidewalk. When we got to the end, I turned right back around and told his big, dumb ass to chill the fuck out talking to her like that or me and his wife were gonna take turns hitting his bitch ass with a baseball bat.

My point is; one day someone is going to kill me for chesting up to a man. That knowledge won't stop me from doing what's fucking right.

 

[QuietCanadian]

I've managed to get two neighbors that LOVE to beat on their wives. One wife can hold her own and tears shit up... the other, not so much. I can't do anything when it happens in their home because I don't know its happening, but when these people get out in their front yards and are going at it, I call the cops, and then go outside and get right in the middle of their shit. No man is going to beat on his wife in my presence, and if I can't whoop his ass, my GLOCK can.

For other situations, I step in when I think I need to, and if a child is involved, well... all bets are off. Last year when we were working out in our garage b/c of the pandemic, my asshole-wife-punching neighbor (who is now in prison) was outside trying to teach his daughter to roller-skate. She was terrified, crying, and about 7 years old. We were doing farmer's carries down the street and back and he was ripping on her, not physically abusing her, but def getting down on her mentally. I listened each time I made a pass, and on my last go I had heard enough. I dropped my kettlebells, grabbed her hand and walked side-by-side with her while she rolled on the sidewalk. When we got to the end, I turned right back around and told his big, dumb ass to chill the fuck out talking to her like that or me and his wife were gonna take turns hitting his bitch ass with a baseball bat.

My point is; one day someone is going to kill me for chesting up to a man. That knowledge won't stop me from doing what's fucking right.

So rehearsals for the comedy road show in my neighborhood then?

 

[Corbal]

So rehearsals for the comedy road show in my neighborhood then?

Nah. My neighborhood makes it spicy.

 

[BSwett060]

I've managed to get two neighbors that LOVE to beat on their wives. One wife can hold her own and tears shit up... the other, not so much. I can't do anything when it happens in their home because I don't know its happening, but when these people get out in their front yards and are going at it, I call the cops, and then go outside and get right in the middle of their shit. No man is going to beat on his wife in my presence, and if I can't whoop his ass, my GLOCK can.

For other situations, I step in when I think I need to, and if a child is involved, well... all bets are off. Last year when we were working out in our garage b/c of the pandemic, my asshole-wife-punching neighbor (who is now in prison) was outside trying to teach his daughter to roller-skate. She was terrified, crying, and about 7 years old. We were doing farmer's carries down the street and back and he was ripping on her, not physically abusing her, but def getting down on her mentally. I listened each time I made a pass, and on my last go I had heard enough. I dropped my kettlebells, grabbed her hand and walked side-by-side with her while she rolled on the sidewalk. When we got to the end, I turned right back around and told his big, dumb ass to chill the fuck out talking to her like that or me and his wife were gonna take turns hitting his bitch ass with a baseball bat.

My point is; one day someone is going to kill me for chesting up to a man. That knowledge won't stop me from doing what's fucking right.

Congrats and thank you for doing what’s right, Corbal. There’s no excuse for these abusive scumbags.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I can go from zero to a billion in a split second (rage-wise), so I try to avoid conflict, or ever getting involved in anything—ever.
If I have to I will, if there’s an actual threat of physical danger, or a kid is in trouble, or something like that, but generally I usually hope someone else will act before I have to.
I not Superman as much as I’m the guy who hears cries for help, looks around and thinks “Oh come on . . . Seriously? . . . Why do I have to . . . Son-of-a . . .”

 

[Acktion]

Happy Friday.

A few weeks ago I walked by a POS women calling her grandson ugly and fat repeatedly as her cart half blocked the exit doors. I was shocked and upset all in about 1.6 seconds.
I turned around, looked at that little boy and said “I think you’re amazing and don’t let anyone ever tell you different.”
Grandma had a few choice words for me as I walked away.
Sat in my car and got teary eyed over it all.

Trekka told me this week she called the police on a man drinking and verbally abusive to his kids sitting in a car parked in the park.

How often do you step in on a situation and say/do something that doesn’t feel right?
Stand up for a matter that doesn’t affect your life directly, but you feel that pull because it’s the right thing to do?
Did you feel better afterwards?
Was their backlash?
Or maybe you didn’t act and hours later it’s still on your mind.

I'm an old broken and battered former detention officer. I use a cane to get around outside the house. And I catch a lot of shit from people who care about me because I still don't back down from a damn thing.

And that horseshit "mind your business!" Fucker, doing it in front of me MAKES it my business. If I can see you and I can hear you, then I am just as culpable for what you're doing. Unless I step up.

***shrug*** By the same token, and at the risk of sounding a hypocrite, I don't encourage anyone else to do what I've done either. You're not gonna do anyone any good if you get yourself killed. And, yeah. I say that knowing full well there is documented evidence out there (or at least was a while back... drawing a blank on how long until trial evidence is destroyed) of me taking a loaded gun from somebody and breaking their jaw with it. For fuck's sake, don't be stupid!

And, yeah... there has been backlash. Sometimes immediate and violent. Sometimes dragging out in the form of after action hearings.

But, the thing is... Okay, so I was bullied as a child up to and including being waterboarded the first time when I was just seven (and missing over a month of school fighting pneumonia on top of other health issues). I'm also a survivor of sexual abuse before I even started kindergarten. But, from about the time I was eleven when I put an adult man, and not a small one, on his ass for grabbing my arm without my permission, it is exceedingly rare across the decades that I've seen or heard something wrong happening that I haven't intervened.

And, yes, those few times have haunted me across the decades all the way down to today.

And I owe it, to myself and to the others I let down at some point, to put myself, however broken and battered I may be, between someone and something they shouldn't have to find what it's like to endure.

 

[QuietCanadian]

Nah. My neighborhood makes it spicy.

I'm more worried about your glock aim with a bag over your head.