Litiquette VII

[ChainedUp]

This place has gotten pretty quiet as of late. As the OP, I think the rule book says something about me being required to rally the thread.

It’s a well documented fact that 99.99% of us want something we can’t have. It’s human nature, it’s why we have dreams and fantasies. I’m not sure I’d want to be in a place where I could get any & every thing I wanted. Eventually the chase would have to come to an end and then what? What’s the one bit of gold at the end of your rainbow that while you’d love to experience it, you know you’re better off keeping it as a fantasy, keeping at the end of the rainbow?

 

[The_gladiator]

This place has gotten pretty quiet as of late. As the OP, I think the rule book says something about me being required to rally the thread.

It’s a well documented fact that 99.99% of us want something we can’t have. It’s human nature, it’s why we have dreams and fantasies. I’m not sure I’d want to be in a place where I could get any & every thing I wanted. Eventually the chase would have to come to an end and then what? What’s the one bit of gold at the end of your rainbow that while you’d love to experience it, you know you’re better off keeping it as a fantasy, keeping at the end of the rainbow?

this is a tough one for me. I have long wanted to be without my disability. I won't speak to the nature of it anymore on threads because this is the one place I allow that to not be a factor, everywhere else I go offline that is the first thing people notice about me. There are many who know what it is and details of it, and if you do enough research it's all over my early posts. That's not the point though.
I have long wished for technology or for gene therapy to make me able bodied, yet it would profoundly change who I am. It could flavor simple things from how do I function to remembering that some of my beliefs about life and other people are shaped by my disability. So honestly I think that is the thing that if I got it would help me so much yet at the same time destroy profoundly some part of who I am.



not sure if that's exactly what you meant with the question, but that was just what came to my mind.

 

[Trekka]

not sure if that's exactly what you meant with the question, but that was just what came to my mind.

Same here.
I’d like a nice, straight, functional spine please.

And thanks for picking this up, Chained

 

[QuietCanadian]

Zero stress? I feel like that's not a bad thing to attain though.

 

[ChainedUp]

It’s not what you want, it’s what you want but know you’re better off not having.

 

[The_gladiator]

Same here.
I’d like a nice, straight, functional spine please.

And thanks for picking this up, Chained

so is that something you want but know you shouldn't have, or that you just want?

 

[Trekka]

It’s not what you want, it’s what you want but know you’re better off not having.

Like a never ending supply of salted caramel cupcakes?

so is that something you want but know you shouldn't have, or that you just want?

Dont really want it. Kinda need it.

 

[QuietCanadian]

Like a never ending supply of salted caramel cupcakes

This makes more sense. Donuts. Gourmet donuts.

 

[Trekka]

This makes more sense. Donuts. Gourmet donuts.

As I was typing this? I thought donuts. But then I went cupcakes.
But now I realize both are wrong and the proper answer is cannolis.

 

[QuietCanadian]

As I was typing this? I thought donuts. But then I went cupcakes.
But now I realize both are wrong and the proper answer is cannolis.

You're probably right. There's a law of diminishing returns on donuts, potentially not cannolis.

 

[Trekka]

You're probably right. There's a law of diminishing returns on donuts, potentially not cannolis.

Cannolis are the most versatile of all desserts.
Yes I said versatile.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I’m not sure.
And not quite ready to put anything in that category yet either. Somedays a few things gets tossed in or/and out, isn’t that how it usually goes.
Can we just leave the big pot and sneak away with a few coins?
I mean, everything in moderation works too. Don’t gotta be all crazy greedy.

I love the mountains, and know standing at Mt Everest even at 17,000ft. would be pretty spectacular. Like mind blowing wow. But I know I can’t climb it. Just not possible and I’m okay with that.
So is the view or the climb the pot of gold?

*Plays video footage of the mountain on my 80ft projector screen. This is pretty fantastic too and makes me smile big.
I’m okay with this too*

Carrot cupcakes with cream cheese frosting would be very dangerous for me.
Cannolis are good, yeah...

 

[QuietCanadian]

I’m not sure.
And not quite ready to put anything in that category yet either. Somedays a few things gets tossed in or/and out, isn’t that how it usually goes.
Can we just leave the big pot and sneak away with a few coins?
I mean, everything in moderation works too. Don’t gotta be all crazy greedy.

I love the mountains, and know standing at Mt Everest even at 17,000ft. would be pretty spectacular. Like mind blowing wow. But I know I can’t climb it. Just not possible and I’m okay with that.
So is the view or the climb the pot of gold?

*Plays video footage of the mountain on my 80ft projector screen. This is pretty fantastic too and makes me smile big.
I’m okay with this too*

Carrot cupcakes with cream cheese frosting would be very dangerous for me.
Cannolis are good, yeah...

We could climb Mount Kilimanjaro though. Just saying.

 

[Corbal]

We could climb Mount Kilimanjaro though. Just saying.

You don't have time for that and the comic porn roadshow.

 

[QuietCanadian]

You don't have time for that and the comic porn roadshow.

Fuck, you're probably right. Climbing a mountain with a paper bag on my head is probably difficult too.

 

[Trekka]

Fuck, you're probably right. Climbing a mountain with a paper bag on my head is probably difficult too.

Especially when you’re balancing a tray of cannolis in one hand

 

[Corbal]

Especially when you’re balancing a tray of cannolis in one hand

...and trying to stick his tongue down my throat through the little hole in the paper bag.

I mean, I'm not saying he can't, but I'm a realist.

 

[Trekka]

...and trying to stick his tongue down my throat through the little hole in the paper bag.

I mean, I'm not saying he can't, but I'm a realist.

Well if he misses, mine is nearby.
You’re welcome.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Morning.

At times we all need some support and cheerleading when struggling mentally or physically with something.
What works best for you- the tough love approach, a slap on the ass and let’s snap out of it?
Or soft encouraging words, slow and at your own pace and please just let me be a hot mess?

 

[SassySheDevil]

Morning.

At times we all need some support and cheerleading when struggling mentally or physically with something.
What works best for you- the tough love approach, a slap on the ass and let’s snap out of it?
Or soft encouraging words, slow and at your own pace and please just let me be a hot mess?

Depends on the person offering it for me. Each person can cheer me up in different ways. I can say that the tough love approach, never snaps me out of it. Most times, it just pisses me off more and I shut down and distance myself.

For me. I usually shut down and distance myself. I'm sort of in the middle of this now, trying to climb my way out. So I push people away.

The good ones who understand me, never let me go far, but understand this process and give me a little space. I withdraw because I'm often more biting when I'm in this mood and will bite heads off. So I don't want to do that to people that done deserve this.

One thing about having my PMs off (or mostly off) is I can come Lit, and not commit. I can have my socializing to keep me from totally crawling under the covers and not coming out, but not commit to regular conversations that are draining for me while I work through the mess in my head.

 

[QuietCanadian]

Morning.

At times we all need some support and cheerleading when struggling mentally or physically with something.
What works best for you- the tough love approach, a slap on the ass and let’s snap out of it?
Or soft encouraging words, slow and at your own pace and please just let me be a hot mess?

Good morning.

Tough love isn't really my thing, but like Sassy said, it really depends on who. I wouldn't say I need a whole lot of cheerleading, rational conversations are the least likely to piss me off and most likely to help. My brain works in a very logical way, so helping me see the data so to speak is the best bet.

So when there isn't a logical answer, that's when it gets dicey for me. That's when I probably need a cheerleader and not someone to give me tough love.

 

[Trekka]

This reminds me of the languages of love convo:
Acts of service and words of praise.

Bring me a casserole, give me a ride, take something off my plate.

And tell me everything is gonna be okay. Even if it’s not, just lie to me.
Maybe tell me I’m pretty too. That I look good in my big girl pants. Or that you enjoy my company. Or that you think I’m perfectly sane. Again, feel free to lie.
My need for external validation is a *lil teensy bit* high when I’m going through it.

No tough love please.
I promise, I’m tough enough on myself already.

 

[hotwords229_A]

The best thing for me is: Don’t help.
In those situations I basically need time, space and air. There is a lot to be said for someone who can walk away and let me deal with nonsense on my own and be there when I’m done being a stressed out dick—usually a couple hours.

I mostly just want to hug a dog in stressful times. Their calm silence suits me right.

 

[Orchidea73]

I do need my time and space. Having said that, tough love approach is the best for me. I can be a hot mess on my own, I do not need encouraging from my friends on that department.
Tough love keeps me grounded and not descent into self pity, which I hate.

 

[Corbal]

I’ve never gotten anything but a slap on the ass and, “get it fucking done.”

I wouldn’t know if anything else works.

I was raised by savages.