Litiquette VII

[Endless_Night]

Peopling is full of misunderstandings.

For me - and bearing in mind that I am quite impossible to deal with - the relationships that carry weight and last are the ones where communication is a priority. In fact, the only priority.

And, it may just be me *shrugs* but I have no issue apologizing if I've hurt someone through inadvertence or miscommunication. A hurt doesn't have do be done deliberately to deserve, idk…a little kindness? Generosity?

A cool down period might help in the situation you're describing.

 

[Dribble]

How do you deal with a situation where the problem is that both parties are misunderstanding what the other party thinks, says, or means? If the issue is a "hot button" for each, it's probably hard for one to say "this is what I think you said or meant, am I correct?" or admits he/she misunderstood the other (how do they know?). And is an amend, as such, warranted if both parties are guilty of a misunderstanding?

Sorry if that's confusing, but such has led to relationship disruptions in the past. Guess it has to happen at least once before one can step back and ask if there is misunderstanding in the middle of it all.

I can only speak for myself. An amend is for me. It has nothing to do with their part in the disagreement. Why waste time discussing hot button topics if you know it will only end in an argument? Why do "i" need to be "right"? Why do "i" need to be "heard"? This is how i identify whether an amends is due. If I can't answer those types of questions rationally...I was wrong to escalate the argument. Amends isn't about being wrong concerning the topic of argument. Amends is about how I handled the topic of argument.

Edit: another good question...why do I need to have the last word?

 

[Trekka]

Busts in all hopped up on Filthy Friday
Not even gonna try and segue

Sex: how messy do you like it?

Everyone usually says “no food in bed!”
Fuck that noise.
I’ll cover you in honey and lick it off and you can thank me later all wrapped up in sticky sheets.
Cum, lady juices— just not in my eyes please. Rude.
Sex after the gym? Hot and sweaty? Why not.

For y’all neatniks in the bed, whaddya do when you find yourself in the sack with a filthy animal?

(I can hear Aussie running for the hills as I type this)

Bonus points for describing the biggest sex mess you’ve ever been a party to!

 

[Orchidea73]

Yeah, I like messy and have no problems with it. I can't be cautious in bed. Feck that chit.

 

[Trekka]

Yeah, I like messy and have no problems with it. I can't be cautious in bed. Feck that chit.

Rough n Tumbler

Food in bed: thoughts?

 

[Orchidea73]

Rough n Tumbler

Food in bed: thoughts?

Yup.

Love it. Many people don't tho. Fun killers.

 

[Trekka]

Yup.

Love it. Many people don't tho. Fun killers.

They clearly have never been licked clean by us

 

[Orchidea73]

They clearly have never been licked clean by us

I do like to drink whiskey, cognac or calvados while you know, sucking or licking. Not often but sometimes. And I've had complains that it burns. Meh...pussy.

 

[RickTango]

I do like to drink whiskey, cognac or calvados while you know, sucking or licking. Not often but sometimes. And I've had complains that it burns. Meh...pussy.

Ahhhhh, I can’t imagine a better combination....

 

[Trekka]

I do like to drink whiskey, cognac or calvados while you know, sucking or licking. Not often but sometimes. And I've had complains that it burns. Meh...pussy.

Oh hell
Just slide an ice cube over their skin and shut them right up

 

[Orchidea73]

Oh hell
Just slide an ice cube over their skin and shut them right up

The thing is that with some people, be that men or women, they don't get it that it isn't just a matter of making you feel good per se, physically. I've let my partners do things to me that I wasn't necessarily aroused or felt good physically. But the very fact that it did aroused them and they liked it, that is something that I love. The fact that I am the object of their desire and plaything is thrilling and exciting. I don't need more. It's more of a mental thing rather than whatever you are doing.

 

[investor2020]

Peopling is full of misunderstandings.

Ah, the essence of it all . . .

 

[Dribble]

There are people that prefer clean sex? I guess everyone has their kink. Man...those be sick people

 

[Orchidea73]

There are people that prefer clean sex? I guess everyone has their kink. Man...those be sick people

LOL

I had a roomie in Rome for a period. We shared the house. She used to keep a box of tissues by her bed. The odd thing was that she will let the man cum in her mouth, but then immediately spit it out on the tissue. I understand that you might not want to swallow it. But spit it out and play with it. Don't make it look like you just had something gross in your mouth by accident. Rather than a pleasure it makes it look like you did it as an obligation.

 

[EroticRomanticMan]

LOL

I had a roomie in Rome for a period. We shared the house. She used to keep a box of tissues by her bed. The odd thing was that she will let the man cum in her mouth, but then immediately spit it out on the tissue. I understand that you might not want to swallow it. But spit it out and play with it. Don't make it look like you just had something gross in your mouth by accident. Rather than a pleasure it makes it look like you did it as an obligation.

I’ve only cum in a woman’s mouth three times in my life, all were long ago and one time deals! I’d love to obligation cum in a woman’s mouth any day! I see your point though!

 

[Endless_Night]

I have absolutely nothing to add to this conversation. Which seems entirely fair, considering how much I blathered on yesterday.


*catches up to and passes Aussie*

 

[Trekka]

LOL

I had a roomie in Rome for a period. We shared the house. She used to keep a box of tissues by her bed. The odd thing was that she will let the man cum in her mouth, but then immediately spit it out on the tissue. I understand that you might not want to swallow it. But spit it out and play with it. Don't make it look like you just had something gross in your mouth by accident. Rather than a pleasure it makes it look like you did it as an obligation.

This dumbfounds me.

I’ve only cum in a woman’s mouth three times in my life, all were long ago and one time deals! I’d love to obligation cum in a woman’s mouth any day! I see your point though!

This dumbfounds me.

I have absolutely nothing to add to this conversation. Which seems entirely fair, considering how much I blathered on yesterday.


*catches up to and passes Aussie*

Oh Enny (*coughs* former mud wrestler *coughs again*) get back here!
Didja ever hear the tale of The DayGlo Body Paint?
Where’s SMNaughty?!
I’m still finding paint splatters in little tiny corners of my bedroom six months later!

 

[Orchidea73]

This dumbfounds me.
This dumbfounds me.

LMAO!

Oh Enny (*coughs* former mud wrestler *coughs again*) get back here!
Didja ever hear the tale of The DayGlo Body Paint?
Where’s SMNaughty?!
I’m still finding paint splatters in little tiny corners of my bedroom six months later!

I saw the picture. That was an work of art though. Nothing amateurish.

 

[QuietCanadian]

Sheets, pillows, floors, walls, bodies wash. Get messy.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Busts in all hopped up on Filthy Friday
Not even gonna try and segue

Sex: how messy do you like it?

Everyone usually says “no food in bed!”
Fuck that noise.
I’ll cover you in honey and lick it off and you can thank me later all wrapped up in sticky sheets.
Cum, lady juices— just not in my eyes please. Rude.
Sex after the gym? Hot and sweaty? Why not.

For y’all neatniks in the bed, whaddya do when you find yourself in the sack with a filthy animal?

(I can hear Aussie running for the hills as I type this)

Bonus points for describing the biggest sex mess you’ve ever been a party to!

I'm all for messes. I was a little protective when the bed was new. But now that it's passed its return date. Bring on the messy stuff.

I've never been a fan of cum in my hair. But I can shower. Same with all other sticky substances.

 

[tnman03]

Busts in all hopped up on Filthy Friday
Not even gonna try and segue

Sex: how messy do you like it?

Everyone usually says “no food in bed!”
Fuck that noise.
I’ll cover you in honey and lick it off and you can thank me later all wrapped up in sticky sheets.
Cum, lady juices— just not in my eyes please. Rude.
Sex after the gym? Hot and sweaty? Why not.

For y’all neatniks in the bed, whaddya do when you find yourself in the sack with a filthy animal?

(I can hear Aussie running for the hills as I type this)

Bonus points for describing the biggest sex mess you’ve ever been a party to!

Bed linens are meant to be changed frequently, so the messier the better. That's just another way to justify buying top quality linens, washers, and dryers. But by all means, do use a good top mattress cover.

Messiest? Well, that would be one of two separate times. Neither being particularly original. One was covering both of us with warm baby oil and discovering that sex was almost too slippery that way. The other was heated milk chocolate, whipped cream, and strawberries all placed in strategic, erogenous positions.

 

[Orchidea73]

I've never been a fan of cum in my hair. But I can shower. Same with all other sticky substances.

I'm not a fan of that either. But as you said, I can shower after. As long as it doesn't damage my hair, I'm game.

 

[catherinewheel77]

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[Orchidea73]

LMAO ^ I can relate to that actually.

Hey, Catherine. Long time no see. I hope you are well.

 

[Endless_Night]

< Oh Enny (*coughs* former mud wrestler *coughs again*) get back here!
Didja ever hear the tale of The DayGlo Body Paint?
Where’s SMNaughty?!
I’m still finding paint splatters in little tiny corners of my bedroom six months later!

IT WAS FOR CHARITY

CHARITY

Eesh.

Besides, there was no sex involved. No sex! Nor nudity. I was dressed, I mean, sort of. (a bikini counts, right?)

Besides, there were multiple showers after. Multiple. It is amazing where mud can get….



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I do believe there might have been a pic glimpse of DayGlo shenanigan posted on the board, the tale, however, is yet to be heard.

Regale us, missy.