Litiquette VII

[SummerStar]

Happy Friday.

Sleep. Last night was the first time I crawled into bed before 1:30am all week.
7hr of sleep and I’m feeling glorious this morning.

How much sleep to you need to have a productive day?
Do you have set bedtimes to make sure you’re getting the zzzzz’s?
Weekday sleeping vs weekend, how does yours differ?
And, are you a grouch if you’re tired?

Oddly enough, when I get 4ish hours of sleep I find I function really well the next day. Until I crash. I think 7-8 is my ideal, but I’m just not a morning person so I almost always wake up tired. I also find a 20-40 minute nap helps my fatigue and productivity a lot.
I think my ideal bedtime with my current schedule is 11:00pm. It’s really hit or miss whether I get to bed then or not because I’m a night person and once 8:00pm hits I’m just not tired anymore.
Sleep doesn’t differ on weekdays and weekends.
I’m tired just about every day so I don’t think it makes me too much of a grump, just lazy.

 

[njguy1002]

Oddly enough, when I get 4ish hours of sleep I find I function really well the next day. Until I crash. I think 7-8 is my ideal, but I’m just not a morning person so I almost always wake up tired. I also find a 20-40 minute nap helps my fatigue and productivity a lot.
I think my ideal bedtime with my current schedule is 11:00pm. It’s really hit or miss whether I get to bed then or not because I’m a night person and once 8:00pm hits I’m just not tired anymore.
Sleep doesn’t differ on weekdays and weekends.
I’m tired just about every day so I don’t think it makes me too much of a grump, just lazy.

Being tired doesn’t mean you are lazy.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Happy Friday.

Sleep. Last night was the first time I crawled into bed before 1:30am all week.
7hr of sleep and I’m feeling glorious this morning.

How much sleep to you need to have a productive day?
Do you have set bedtimes to make sure you’re getting the zzzzz’s?
Weekday sleeping vs weekend, how does yours differ?
And, are you a grouch if you’re tired?

I've had insomnia for years. I've gone through sleep studies, sleep therapy, etc.. So I don't have any kind of "Normal"
I'm not sure I even know what a good number is for me anymore, because I rarely ever sleep through the night. I often sleep in shifts. So. I'm always tired, which yes, makes me grumpy. Some days more than others.

I used to dream a lot. I don't dream as often anymore, because I'm not getting into a deep enough sleep. I miss those.


I'm jealous of my husband who can get in bed and fall asleep instantly.. Then function on such a little amount of sleep. He can get up and go after 4 hours of sleep.

 

[QuietCanadian]

Happy Friday.

Sleep. Last night was the first time I crawled into bed before 1:30am all week.
7hr of sleep and I’m feeling glorious this morning.

How much sleep to you need to have a productive day?
Do you have set bedtimes to make sure you’re getting the zzzzz’s?
Weekday sleeping vs weekend, how does yours differ?
And, are you a grouch if you’re tired?

Hmmm... I can get by for one day on not a lot of I have to, but I don't like it. I normally go to bed fairly early (depends on your definition, really) to stick to routine and make sure I get about 7, which is good. I'm up early so to bed early. Weekend changes a bit, stay up later but still up early, internal clock and all.

I'm a grouch for a little bit when I wake up regardless. Just need a bit to get going, so I'll be quiet for a while. Not grouchy, I suppose, but I'll need a little bit to be myself.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I need 17 hours of sleep a day. Unfortunately, I rarely get more than 5-6 hours anymore. I’m not a grouch, I’ve worked being exhausted into my everyday routine. I’ve been working non-stop for the last month or so and it has really worn me down. Probably not a great health strategy during a pandemic, but you know. . .

 

[GiggLeGasm]

I wake at about 5:30 without an alarm clock..
every day

some days, I'll take a nap -
Usual bedtime is 10ish.. but I've been known to get distracted

 

[SummerStar]

Being tired doesn’t mean you are lazy.

True. But also, I’m lazy.

 

[QuietCanadian]

I wake at about 5:30 without an alarm clock..
every day

some days, I'll take a nap -
Usual bedtime is 10ish.. but I've been known to get distracted

I don't often take them, but a good nap is wonderful.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I need at least 8 hours. And I prioritize rest so that I get it.

I'm not at all fun to be around when I'm tired. In fact, I'm downright awful. I go to bed a little after 10 and wake up around 7:30. Weekends are the same routine.

 

[njguy1002]

True. But also, I’m lazy.

Lazy is ok as long as you don’t blame it on tired.

 

[Trekka]

SMNaughty askin about sleep?
Last time she was at my house I recall getting TWO HOURS one night. In bed at sunrise.
She’s such a bad influence.

Happy Saturday folks!
Soooo doing things in order.
I was talking to someone this morning about listening to this particular album I love in order. This day and age? I shuffle music and playlists all the time. But every now and again I listen to an actual album. And then there’s a sub-set of albums that I *must* listen to in order.

What things do you do, that you must do, in a certain order? Anything you do in a non traditional order?

My mom used to routinely read the end of a book first to make sure she’d like the ending. She’s a sick puppy!

What about sex? Ever notice that you’ve gotten into a cycle of doing The Sexy Things in a certain order? Must you do them in that order? Ever throw caution to the wind and fuck first, kiss later?

 

[Jd192235]

I’m a caution to the wind kind of guy
Some of my best sex has been fuck first, ask question.... I mean kiss later. Then usually fuck again. And repeat.

I do find I’m a creature of habit fishing, if I’m fishing a lake I’ve fished before I tend to hit the same spots in the same order??

 

[QuietCanadian]

What things do you do, that you must do, in a certain order? Anything you do in a non traditional order?

Fair warning, here comes a TL;DR post.

Albums. Thanks to some great recommendations recently from a friend, I'm back into listening to albums. I have to go in order the first time and there are a great many that I just always have to listen to from beginning to end in order. Abbey Road comes to mind first. Even in a playlist, if I hear Oh! Darling, I want to go start from the beginning and listen all the way. I do listen to a lot of shuffled stuff, but the album is still a thing and love when artists today remember that/try that. It's so easy to be about singles and just getting a song that hits a mood. I love an album that hits you and has a certain flow or story to it. The Born to Run - Darkness on the Edge of Town - The River run comes to mind, too. Even Nebraska, but you gotta be in a mood for that.

Other stuffs, I have a touch anxiety (understatement), so lots of things. Often times only to make myself remember I did the thing later when I'm worrying about it. Could be something like closing the door with my left hand or could just be doing work in order to know I hit everything.

When it comes to sports, all the routine. It's more about doing things the same way every time for executions sake, but even warming up. Hell, even putting on my hockey equipment. Since I was a kid, left foot first into the skate, left foot first onto the ice, same routine once I hit the ice. I find it helps me know when I'm on or when I'm off and I can figure things out about the surface. Like if it feels different, the ice is slow or fast, or it's a new rink to me and has different dimensions or sightlines. Not that we'll be playing hockey any time soon.

So ya, little bit of routine in my life, I'd say. Not that I can't be spontaneous, it just doesn't come as naturally.

Sexy stuff? No set routine, though there's normally a natural progression to things. But I concur that fuck now, kiss later can be a wonderful thing.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

SMNaughty askin about sleep?
Last time she was at my house I recall getting TWO HOURS one night. In bed at sunrise.
She’s such a bad influence.

Happy Saturday folks!
Soooo doing things in order.
I was talking to someone this morning about listening to this particular album I love in order. This day and age? I shuffle music and playlists all the time. But every now and again I listen to an actual album. And then there’s a sub-set of albums that I *must* listen to in order.

What things do you do, that you must do, in a certain order? Anything you do in a non traditional order?

My mom used to routinely read the end of a book first to make sure she’d like the ending. She’s a sick puppy!

What about sex? Ever notice that you’ve gotten into a cycle of doing The Sexy Things in a certain order? Must you do them in that order? Ever throw caution to the wind and fuck first, kiss later?

So, we should be better behave next month when I see you? Maybe.

Let’s see, cooking there’s definitely an order. And cleaning, yup.
Listen to an album in order, nah.
I’m too much of a free spirit, non traditional in about 77% of my life.
Maybe my next life I’ll be a rule follower.

Sex, yeah. It’s all over the board.

 

[BongoGal]

Also Pet Sounds should be listened to all at once as a complete work.

I am prone to skip 'Sloop John B'. It's not a bad song, but to me, it feels tacked on.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Whst are you thoughts on profanity?
Does it feel like everyone now days talks like a sailor and it’s accepted?
Are there people, places or events you feel it’s inappropriate?
Certain words that you only say when it’s about to get real?
Your kids let the f bomb drop in front of you?

 

[QuietCanadian]

Whst are you thoughts on profanity?
Does it feel like everyone now days talks like a sailor and it’s accepted?
Are there people, places or events you feel it’s inappropriate?
Certain words that you only say when it’s about to get real?
Your kids let the f bomb drop in front of you?

My thoughts are that I fucking swear a lot if I know it's a safe zone. I don't at work, but I think it's becoming more acceptable there as well between the team. The younger leaders seem to swear in conversation, which I find a little weird. It doesn't bother me, however.

I don't really in front of those I know don't like it or also don't. I'm the worst offender of doing it when I shouldn't when friends have their kids with them. Otherwise I can kind of turn it on and off. But do I know you curse too? Look out.

 

[tnman03]

Profanity is one of those things which should be avoided but slip-ups happen so one should be aware of their surroundings. Professionally or in front of children are situations where it shouldn’t be used.

I do know people who cannot have any form of conversation without the endless use of profanity, regardless of location.

Have I and do I use profanity at times? Yes, but rarely so nowadays and then only when angry or startled. Even then though, not in front of children or in a public setting so I’ll substitute something else in the utterance.

 

[Mr_bogey]

When my youngest graduated HS, my kids had never heard me curse. 3 years later, none of them can say that. It came up fairly recently and I was asked about it during a covid dinner (when the empty nest was filled again). I told them it was a conscious decision not to because I wanted to set an example. My dad didn't curse in front of me until I was an adult and still rarely did. I still don't think I've heard an Fbomb from him in his 90 years. He told me that swearing was for people not capable of finding the correct words to.express how they feel. I thought that was an interesting take. I dont think he's right. I think fuck and shit sometimes express exactly how I feel.
My kids asked me.what changed that i will now swear in front of them. I told them that I see them swearing on social media and have heard them curse, so I didn't see the point in prolonging an example they weren't following. Besides, I find it gets their attention now because it still catches them off guard. "Shut the fuck up" tends to be much more effective than "please be quiet."

 

[SummerStar]

Whst are you thoughts on profanity?
Does it feel like everyone now days talks like a sailor and it’s accepted?
Are there people, places or events you feel it’s inappropriate?
Certain words that you only say when it’s about to get real?
Your kids let the f bomb drop in front of you?

I feel like I swear too much. I tend to parrot my environment (when I had an angelic Christian roommate there were a lot of those ‘shut the front door’ type phrases) but my husband’s family, who I spend the majority of my time speaking with, swears like crazy so it feels like every other word I say is fuck. I do like to think my situational awareness is pretty good though and reel it in when talking with new people.

I wouldn’t say there’s any words reserved for shit hitting the fan situations. It’s more about tone of voice than the words I use in those scenarios.

So, my kids are 3 and 1, the younger one isn’t talking yet. We are trying to teach the toddler what is and is not appropriate for her to say. We use the phrase ‘grown up words’ because I don’t like labeling words as ‘bad’. That being said, I have a hard time keeping a straight face when her tiny little voice says bitch. One of the first times she ever swore, we had just pulled in the driveway after an hour or so drive in which she fell asleep. She woke up groggy, looked out the window at a tree that was blossoming and losing petals to the wind and said sleepily ‘what the fuck is that?’ I giggled profusely for a solid 30 seconds.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I think, like all words, swearing has its place and time. If you use profanities too much they lose all their power. When used properly and precisely they can be downright exquisite.

Not in front of the kids. Old people. Family—unless necessary, quoting some historic reference “Dang the torpedos, full speed ahead” would be dumb in any setting.

I think restraint is best, but when it’s time to whip them out—whip them out hard!

 

[QuietCanadian]

I feel like that last line is sage advice in other insurances as well. Like churning butter or whipping cream.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Agree with HW, say them too much and they're a fizzle-dizzle.
Use them in everyday conversation habitually and I’ll assume one is lacking in sociability and etiquette. Time and place for everything.

I didn't swear very often in front of my kids when they were younger.
I’ll drop the f bomb or POS every now and then, but nothing jaw dropping.
Of course I can get on a rant and spew them out like nobody’s business, doesn’t happen very often tho.

 

[LizVegas79]

I curse like a demon sometimes - but it's usually it's only because I'm horny AF lol

(but never in front of the kids - okay, rarely - look, I try my best okay?)

 

[Lord Pmann]

Whst are you thoughts on profanity?
Does it feel like everyone now days talks like a sailor and it’s accepted?
Are there people, places or events you feel it’s inappropriate?
Certain words that you only say when it’s about to get real?
Your kids let the f bomb drop in front of you?

I use profanity here more than in my day to day life. Reason being, I have no way to use tone to convey my message. So, sometimes I use it for descriptive persons.

I’ve never once used profanity at work. I am incredibly cautious about things there. I would never say I was going to grab someone by the pussy. I would say vagina.

But seriously, I don’t use profanity at work. Never have. Never will.

I don’t have kids, but if I did, those lil fuckers better keep their wiener mouths shut.