Litiquette VII

[SassySheDevil]

I love orange juice. I drink a glass every morning. I prefer to makes my own, fresh. But if I have to buy it, I want something with zero added sugar. Happy there are plenty I can find here. I love oranges and lemons. I also eat them raw, peels included, like you would eat an apple.

you eat the peels? fascinating.
my grandfather did that....

I do this too. My family thinks I'm crazy. I love the peels. My Mom always told me that was where the most vitamins are. Once I became an adult and googled it. I realized I wasn't as weird as I thought for eating them. But it was different benefits of eating them.

 

[Mr_bogey]

Lazy morning. Still not fully caffeinated.

I just lazed through this article and it got my gears turning.

TLDR? Free land programs across the US -- mostly in underpopulated midwestern towns or very remote areas of the US (think california deserts and alaskan wilderness) -- they give you the land if you meet certain requirements.

Give it to you. For free.
Most require you to build a house on it (sheds and lean-to's don't count!) within a certain timeframe.

Whaddya think?

Do you ever fantasize about packing it up and moving to the boonies? Why or why not?
You think you could make it out there? Physically, financially, mentally, emotionally, socially?

What's your Free Land Dream House look like? (Suz, I'm lookin at you! How may goats are we talkin', here? )

If this fantasy gives you hives, rolly eyes, or makes you wanna hurl, expand on that.

It's Free Land Fantasy Dream House Discussion Day!

I have no desire to live in Flyover, USA. I'm not religious. My only interest in farming is eating what the farms produce. I'm sure there are a lot of quality people that I would enjoy hanging out with and I could make friends there but unless it was Colorado or Kentucky (bourbon and horses are a weakness), I dont think I'd want to live there. I need a change of seasons but I don't care for tornadoes. I love being near the beach and mountains, having big cities with access to everything I could want/need but close enough to get away into nature. I'm an easy drive to where I grew up and still have family. Bottom line is I'm pretty fucking happy right where I am.

 

[Orchidea73]

you eat the peels? fascinating.
my grandfather did that....

Oh yes. Lemon peels are my favorite, then orange, mandarin and lime. In that order. Sometimes I'm not sure what I like the most. The pulp, what's inside, or the peels.

I do this too. My family thinks I'm crazy. I love the peels. My Mom always told me that was where the most vitamins are. Once I became an adult and googled it. I realized I wasn't as weird as I thought for eating them. But it was different benefits of eating them.

People still think I'm weird because when I see them trying to throw them away, I'm like: No, no, don't. Give it to me.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I’ve been interested in this for awhile. I thought all the free land was in Alaska, I didn’t realize it was also available in so many other places.

I wouldn’t want to live there, but I would be excited to be involved in creating a new town and doing it right for once.

I actually have big plans for building a community for the future. It’s a pretty cool idea. I should write it down someday. But I probably won’t.

 

[Endless_Night]

*hands Hotwords a pencil*


I haven't read the article, but I'm totally down.

Getting out of the city is something I've been considering for a while. Just the ways and means and trying to decide what and where I want. I'd live there, too. The city is enjoyable, but it's not like you can't travel back for the important stuff.

Like shopping.

 

[Suz_anne]

Do you ever fantasize about packing it up and moving to the boonies? Why or why not?
You think you could make it out there? Physically, financially, mentally, emotionally, socially?

What's your Free Land Dream House look like? (Suz, I'm lookin at you! How may goats are we talkin', here? )

If this fantasy gives you hives, rolly eyes, or makes you wanna hurl, expand on that.

It's Free Land Fantasy Dream House Discussion Day!

I'm not sure that I'd want to live in the desert or on a glacier outcropping (although that pic was beautiful). But I would love to move to the boonies. Or at least boonier than where I live now.

The dream of being off grid and self sufficient is titillating, but the reality of it would suck. It's a lot of work.

My ideal spot would be 25-50 acres that are wooded, but with a big grassy area for pasturing animals (goats, cows, chickens). I'd like it to be on a lake, but a river would be acceptable.
https://66.media.tumblr.com/85b83bdd84022501764f3373438ed470/tumblr_onus0pQzG01vlki0xo1_640.jpg

I'd need a lot of solar panels, an indoor bathroom, a barn, a super cute chicken coop, a greenhouse, a root cellar and a smoke house.

https://66.media.tumblr.com/2645f7c05a637f2918b9616819d0a779/tumblr_p8xm49kAwq1x5grr3o1_640.png

Is that too much to ask? Sheesh.

I have no desire to live in Flyover, USA. I'm not religious. My only interest in farming is eating what the farms produce. I'm sure there are a lot of quality people that I would enjoy hanging out with and I could make friends there but unless it was Colorado or Kentucky (bourbon and horses are a weakness), I dont think I'd want to live there. I need a change of seasons but I don't care for tornadoes. I love being near the beach and mountains, having big cities with access to everything I could want/need but close enough to get away into nature. I'm an easy drive to where I grew up and still have family. Bottom line is I'm pretty fucking happy right where I am.

As a person who lives in Flyover, USA territory - I can say that I'm neither religious nor a farmer. We have 4 beautiful seasons and I've only experienced 1 tornado within 10 miles of me in my whole life. Your statements are exactly why we are perfectly happy that you just keep flying over.

I actually have big plans for building a community for the future. It’s a pretty cool idea. I should write it down someday. But I probably won’t.

Write it down! And save me 25-50 acres - see my other requirements above.
Please.

 

[Endless_Night]

I have a question about this whole eating citrus peel thing.

WHAT ABOUT THE PITH

I mean, are we talking ultra thin-skinned, like Meyer's lemons and mandarin oranges? Where there's practically no pith? Or the thick skinned varieties where you may get lots of the white bitter stuff?

 

[Endless_Night]

< As a person who lives in Flyover, USA territory - I can say that I'm neither religious nor a farmer. We have 4 beautiful seasons and I've only experienced 1 tornado within 10 miles of me in my whole life. Your statements are exactly why we are perfectly happy that you just keep flying over. >

LOL! I would happily live in *flyover* country, Suz. Of course, I live in Texas, so my opinion probably doesn't count.


Beautiful pics! My father and his *counts on fingers* fourth wife live off grid (or very nearly) for some time. It is an enormous amount of work.

Aren't chickens messy to keep? I've they are….

 

[Suz_anne]

LOL! I would happily live in *flyover* country, Suz. Of course, I live in Texas, so my opinion probably doesn't count.


Beautiful pics! My father and his *counts on fingers* fourth wife live off grid (or very nearly) for some time. It is an enormous amount of work.

Aren't chickens messy to keep? I've they are….

It's definitely a lot of work. And yes, chickens are messy and stinky - you've got to keep on top of the coop to make sure it stays fresh. Goats eat a lot and you need strong fences to keep them where you want them and not on top of your roof.

Which is why this is all lovely to think about and it soothes my soul to fantasize about in these unprecedented times. But in all likelihood, I'll end up in a lake cottage with a small patch of dirt to grow tomatoes and peppers.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I'm gonna say that “Thank You” is the most underappreciated, under-used and forgotten two words on this planet.

Are you guilty of forgetting to use this response when it’s deemed appropriate?
Or are you the opposite and it’s embedded deep- second nature rolling off your lips.
Guess we should throw in some grey, sometimes you remember, other times you don’t.
And when is it too late to say thank you, or is it ever?

 

[Orchidea73]

I have a question about this whole eating citrus peel thing.

WHAT ABOUT THE PITH

I mean, are we talking ultra thin-skinned, like Meyer's lemons and mandarin oranges? Where there's practically no pith? Or the thick skinned varieties where you may get lots of the white bitter stuff?

Thick for me. I'm thinking Sorrento lemons, for example. They are sweet too.
The best lemons, IMO, and they make the best Limoncello too.

https://i.imgur.com/NNFctWh.jpg

 

[hotwords229_A]

I'm gonna say that “Thank You” is the most underappreciated, under-used and forgotten two words on this planet.

Are you guilty of forgetting to use this response when it’s deemed appropriate?
Or are you the opposite and it’s embedded deep- second nature rolling off your lips.
Guess we should throw in some grey, sometimes you remember, other times you don’t.
And when is it too late to say thank you, or is it ever?

Deeply engrained. Please and Thank You at all times.

By the way, thank you for all the great questions.

 

[tnman03]

I'm gonna say that “Thank You” is the most underappreciated, under-used and forgotten two words on this planet.

Are you guilty of forgetting to use this response when it’s deemed appropriate?
Or are you the opposite and it’s embedded deep- second nature rolling off your lips.
Guess we should throw in some grey, sometimes you remember, other times you don’t.
And when is it too late to say thank you, or is it ever?

I was taught to do this as a child along with always holding a door open for the person behind me when entering a building.

 

[StacyLeigh]

I'm gonna say that “Thank You” is the most underappreciated, under-used and forgotten two words on this planet.

Are you guilty of forgetting to use this response when it’s deemed appropriate?
Or are you the opposite and it’s embedded deep- second nature rolling off your lips.
Guess we should throw in some grey, sometimes you remember, other times you don’t.
And when is it too late to say thank you, or is it ever?

It's as deeply engrained in me as saying "yes ma'am/sir" and "no ma'am/sir".

I don't think it's ever too late to give thanks to someone - we all like feeling appreciated

 

[SassySheDevil]

I have a question about this whole eating citrus peel thing.

WHAT ABOUT THE PITH

I mean, are we talking ultra thin-skinned, like Meyer's lemons and mandarin oranges? Where there's practically no pith? Or the thick skinned varieties where you may get lots of the white bitter stuff?

All of the above. It's all good to me.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I'm gonna say that “Thank You” is the most underappreciated, under-used and forgotten two words on this planet.

Are you guilty of forgetting to use this response when it’s deemed appropriate?
Or are you the opposite and it’s embedded deep- second nature rolling off your lips.
Guess we should throw in some grey, sometimes you remember, other times you don’t.
And when is it too late to say thank you, or is it ever?

I think I am pretty good at this. I've also taught my kids to be good with please and thank you. Weirdly. I feel bad if I realize I wasn't polite enough. I didn't grow up in the South, So I'm not "Sir and Ma'am" But I love that. Although, I admit I used to get called Ma'am a lot at work, and it always creeped me out. Probably cause it's not as common around here. (and made me feel old)

I think respect is HUGE.

 

[parker77]

engrained. maybe too deeply. sometimes i thank people after i help them. it's never too late to thank someone, unless they've called you on it, even then you still say thank you. but, who would be so uncouth as to call you on it?

thanks for asking.

 

[LizVegas79]

I'm gonna say that “Thank You” is the most underappreciated, under-used and forgotten two words on this planet.

Are you guilty of forgetting to use this response when it’s deemed appropriate?
Or are you the opposite and it’s embedded deep- second nature rolling off your lips.
Guess we should throw in some grey, sometimes you remember, other times you don’t.
And when is it too late to say thank you, or is it ever?

Do you really think "Thank You" is underappreciated? I don't. Or at least, I don't under-appreciate it. I agree many people probably don't hear it enough, but when they do I'm not so sure it goes un-appreciated.

I try to never forget. But sometimes when I'm super busy at work I either forget to say it or I say it too much, almost like a mantra. Which, unfortunately, can start to sound a little sarcastic because some people know that I will say thank you just to make someone go away so that I can fix the problem myself or task it to someone else. And yes, I have been guilty of saying thank you to someone for delivering me something that I have requested and after examining it, handing it over to someone else with the same instructions I gave the first person who yes, is sometimes still standing there. Very awkward. When I have the time to, I try to make it a teachable moment - as in, "that wasn't good enough because ..." but sometimes I have missed those opportunities. I always do try to circle back to that person at a later time though to apologize/explain.

It is never too late to say Thank You imho.

 

[Orchidea73]

Do you really think "Thank You" is underappreciated? I don't.

In my experience it is not. The three words I listen the most, from almost everyone are: Please, Thank You and You're Welcome. Wherever I go, bars, shops, grocery, restaurants, work, friends, family, strangers you might stop on the street and ask for indications or any kind of information. Those three words are always used.

 

[JerseyJade]

When I say thank you to someone... I'm not just saying it. That comes straight from my heart.

 

[Mr_bogey]

Please, Thank you and God bless you are all pretty much reflexes for me.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Do you really think "Thank You" is underappreciated? I don't. Or at least, I don't under-appreciate it. I agree many people probably don't hear it enough, but when they do I'm not so sure it goes un-appreciated.

underappreciated (v) = fail to value
unappreciated (adj) = not fully understood, recognized, or valued.

Underappreciated being someone whose value is not recognized or rewarded, therefore there’s no feeling of gratitude to say “Thank You.”

The two words are similar in a way, maybe it got a bit confusing.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Do you really think "Thank You" is underappreciated? I don't. Or at least, I don't under-appreciate it. I agree many people probably don't hear it enough, but when they do I'm not so sure it goes un-appreciated.

I don't think it's used as often as it once was. I agree. Not underappreciated though. Underused.
I'm not sure manners are taught the way they once were.

 

[LizVegas79]

underappreciated (v) = fail to value
unappreciated (adj) = not fully understood, recognized, or valued.

Underappreciated being someone whose value is not recognized or rewarded, therefore there’s no feeling of gratitude to say “Thank You.”

The two words are similar in a way, maybe it got a bit confusing.

That is an important distinction.

However, for me at least it doesn't change my answer. I do not believe (or maybe I just choose not to believe) that the words Thank You are under valued. Personally I value them when someone says them to me and I hope whenever I say them, except in the situations previously mentioned, they are valued. Being polite under stress or behind a deadline is not always easy. Ideally that is understood in a professional work environment because sometimes it is not always possible, and certainly not instantaneously like when a cashier hands you a receipt or directs you to which isle you need in a store. Those kind of Thank You's for me, are always immediate and sincere.

But thanking someone for a job poorly done is a much more complicated situation that goes beyond recognizing or valuing someone's attempt (or lack of attempt) to assist. Those are the weeds I think I got lost in a little

I don't think it's used as often as it once was. I agree. Not underappreciated though. Underused.
I'm not sure manners are taught the way they once were.

Oh that's for sure!

 

[SMNaughtywife]

That is an important distinction.

However, for me at least it doesn't change my answer. I do not believe (or maybe I just choose not to believe) that the words Thank You are under valued. Personally I value them when someone says them to me and I hope whenever I say them, except in the situations previously mentioned, they are valued. Being polite under stress or behind a deadline is not always easy. Ideally that is understood in a professional work environment because sometimes it is not always possible, and certainly not instantaneously like when a cashier hands you a receipt or directs you to which isle you need in a store. Those kind of Thank You's for me, are always immediate and sincere.

But thanking someone for a job poorly done is a much more complicated situation that goes beyond recognizing or valuing someone's attempt (or lack of attempt) to assist. Those are the weeds I think I got lost in a little



Oh that's for sure!

I agree with this certainly.
Yes, you value those words. And I do as well.
But the person (recipient) who is not saying “thank you” is not valuing you. Or your gift, generosity, advice or what ever the case may be.
It’s more so the pointing a finger at them, not questioning the integrity of the words themself.