Litiquette VI

[Suz_anne]

No one posts here anymore. Shameful.

I’ll ask a question... we all have perceptions of who we are. People see us as this type of person or that type of person. Sometimes those perceptions are incongruent with who we are.

What is it about you that people may find surprising after they get to know you?

For me, the most common thing I hear is “you’re not such an asshole”.

After reading the replies to this question, I am more eye-rolly than people would probably expect. The vast majority of the time I do not express the eye-rolling in a response/post, but behind the screen there is some hardcore eye-rolling occurring.

What I have come to realize is that I don't understand the need behind why some people post things they choose to share here. I also realize from reading about people who identify as an Empath that I am 1000% not one. I'm not saying I have serial killer levels of low empathy, but my empathy is rarely directed towards someone who is whinging about nobody responding to their posts or that they don't feel like one of the cool kids on a sex chat site.

I understand that those folks are getting support and responses that they need/crave from other people when they express those feelings. But for me, it tends to push me away and not want to get to know someone better.

So I guess people may be surprised that I'm a cold, heartless bitch.



p.s. SB's post about eye-rolling got me thinking about my response, but for the record, I have never eye-rolled at her, ever.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Suz anne might be surprised that I like her even more now

 

[Endless_Night]

Hell's Bells! A question!

I also realize from reading about people who identify as an Empath that I am 1000% not one. I'm not saying I have serial killer levels of low empathy, but my empathy is rarely directed towards someone who is whinging about nobody responding to their posts or that they don't feel like one of the cool kids on a sex chat site. >

Hahahaha! Suz! You sociopath, you!

* * *

Not entirely sure if SexyBritches felt targeted because her post mentioned other people thinking she was sexy and beautiful, or because she spoke of being surprised when receiving the compliment. Either way, I agree with Hotwords. Well said, dude. Well said.

Aaaaaaand, women be snarky if they feel you are getting above yourself. At least some women.

I'm being totally presumptuous and assuming the snarker was a woman.

(Because it probably was.)

I think when people are snarky and eye-rolly it says more about them than you. As long as you are being honest then who cares how they think. You will attract good people and the Snarkies will sit in a corner and roll their eyes.
They can all suck it. >

 

[Endless_Night]

What is it about you that people may find surprising after they get to know you?

On, Lit? Probably that I'm not quite the airhead I appear. Real time I'm a type A, serious minded, get it done kind of gal.


Off Lit? I have not the slightest idea. Soooo I texted a couple of long-time friends. Which, in retrospect, may have been a mistake! Oh, man!

My bestie said, and I quote, "You are smarter than you appear."

I…kinda took exception.

She hastened to explain that no-one would guess I have several degrees under my belt. Because, apparently, people with lots of degrees are usually snooty?

Uh huh.

She and I will be discussing this further. Tomorrow. It's girl's night out, for which she will now be paying.


The other friend's answer was that no one would guess I am deeply compassionate.

Again, what?!

The qualifier was that my type of brutal honesty might come across to some as unsympathetic.

Hmmm…..


I still have no answer to the question. But I'm seriously thinking I may need to rethink my choices in friends.

Hahaha! Oh, man.

 

[Pervy_Sage]

What is it about you that people may find surprising after they get to know you?

On, Lit? Probably that I'm not quite the airhead I appear. Real time I'm a type A, serious minded, get it done kind of gal.


Off Lit? I have not the slightest idea. Soooo I texted a couple of long-time friends. Which, in retrospect, may have been a mistake! Oh, man!

My bestie said, and I quote, "You are smarter than you appear."

I…kinda took exception.

She hastened to explain that no-one would guess I have several degrees under my belt. Because, apparently, people with lots of degrees are usually snooty?

Uh huh.

She and I will be discussing this further. Tomorrow. It's girl's night out, for which she will now be paying.


The other friend's answer was that no one would guess I am deeply compassionate.

Again, what?!

The qualifier was that my type of brutal honesty might come across to some as unsympathetic.

Hmmm…..


I still have no answer to the question. But I'm seriously thinking I may need to rethink my choices in friends.

Hahaha! Oh, man.

I’ve aways thought you brilliant and compassionate.

 

[Pervy_Sage]

As for me? I don’t think anybody thinks anything about me. Lol. And as for what someone would be surprised to know? Eh. That’s also a nonstarter. If anybody here does still, really know me, they’d know all of me. That’s just how I roll.

 

[Endless_Night]

I’ve aways thought you brilliant and compassionate.

Pervy!!


I will be sending you my *friends* phone numbers.

So you can set them straight.


Kidding.

Sort of….

 

[Pervy_Sage]

Pervy!!


I will be sending you my *friends* phone numbers.

So you can set them straight.


Kidding.

Sort of….

Just send me yours. That will suffice.

 

[tnman03]

No one posts here anymore. Shameful.

I’ll ask a question... we all have perceptions of who we are. People see us as this type of person or that type of person. Sometimes those perceptions are incongruent with who we are.

What is it about you that people may find surprising after they get to know you?

In RL? That I'm more hard hearted then they realize and shouldn't be screwed around with for their personal entertainment. One guy ended up stuffed head first into a trash can over that BS.

On Lit? Maybe a little like Suz-anne on some days or at least enough so to understand where she's coming from. Or at least enough so to recognize she was talking in generalities of the whole rather than isolating specific people.

 

[Endless_Night]

Just send me yours. That will suffice.

Oh, you!

< On Lit? Maybe a little like Suz-anne on some days or at least enough so to understand where she's coming from. Or at least enough so to recognize she was talking in generalities of the whole rather than isolating specific people.

This. I have long since given out trying to figure out why people post what they post. It doesn't mean I won't be eye rolling privately, but If what they say gives them some measure of cmofort, more power to 'em.

Well, except for some of the snarky, passive aggressive stuff. Particularly when it's target is obvious. So mean spirited and petty. Why anyone would want to showcase that as part of their character remains a mystery.


Stuff to do! *jets*

 

[Lord Pmann]

After reading the replies to this question, I am more eye-rolly than people would probably expect. The vast majority of the time I do not express the eye-rolling in a response/post, but behind the screen there is some hardcore eye-rolling occurring.

What I have come to realize is that I don't understand the need behind why some people post things they choose to share here. I also realize from reading about people who identify as an Empath that I am 1000% not one. I'm not saying I have serial killer levels of low empathy, but my empathy is rarely directed towards someone who is whinging about nobody responding to their posts or that they don't feel like one of the cool kids on a sex chat site.

I understand that those folks are getting support and responses that they need/crave from other people when they express those feelings. But for me, it tends to push me away and not want to get to know someone better.

So I guess people may be surprised that I'm a cold, heartless bitch.



p.s. SB's post about eye-rolling got me thinking about my response, but for the record, I have never eye-rolled at her, ever.

I believe that you roll your eyes plenty.

 

[Suz_anne]

I believe that you roll your eyes plenty.

That's only because you are lucky enough to be the recipient of many of my eye-roll induced PM's.

You're a lucky fella.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I think that the thing that most would be surprised about is the fact that I am actually capable of feeling human emotion. I once posted on a thread a while back about people with anxiety or something. I didn't make fun of them, so stop assuming that. It was just a normal, supportive post. You would have thought I was Mother Teresa. So many people messaged me telling me they appreciated it and couldn't believe that I posted something so nice. It made me wonder if people perceived me as some kind of asshole. Then I realized it was those dipshits who were mistaken, not me.

As well, I think people would be surprised to know that there is a tender inside to Lord Pmann. My heart isn't all shitty and splintery. If I find the right person to talk to, I'll be quite open. Unfortunately for you all, you don't get to see that.

I’ve aways thought you brilliant and compassionate.

Thank you so much.

That's only because you are lucky enough to be the recipient of many of my eye-roll induced PM's.

You're a lucky fella.

Yes. You can be very bitchy. It is so rude.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Today's question...

How quickly will you trust someone on Lit? When you talk to someone, do you have walls up? Or you go in with your heart out? How long does it take for your walls to come down?

 

[SMNaughtywife]

What is it about you that people may find surprising after they get to know you?

I’m a bit like Suz, but more often than not I’ll just shrug and think to myself-
Not my monkeys.
Not my circus.
Take those whinny, attention seeking and passive aggressive posts to someone who will turn a blind eye to them. I’ll pass.

I’d say what would surprise someone about me is how genuinely kind and down to earth I am. My heart is gold, I give waaaaaaaay more then I receive and most times okay with it. But I don’t wear my heart on my sleeve and don’t dish out lovely heart warming kudos to everyone and anyone.
And with that sweetness, I tell it how it is. No BS and sugar coating from me. I’ll slap your ass and give you a real nice check on reality.

The people that mean something to me, have all of me. I wouldn’t blink an eye to drive east or head to Florida for someone I care about.

Naughty, filthy and sweet as fuck - seems like winner, winner chicken dinner.

 

[Pervy_Sage]

What is it about you that people may find surprising after they get to know you?

I’m a bit like Suz, but more often than not I’ll just shrug and think to myself-
Not my monkeys.
Not my circus.
Take those whinny, attention seeking and passive aggressive posts to someone who will turn a blind eye to them. I’ll pass.

I’d say what would surprise someone about me is how genuinely kind and down to earth I am. My heart is gold, I give waaaaaaaay more then I receive and most times okay with it. But I don’t wear my heart on my sleeve and don’t dish out lovely heart warming kudos to everyone and anyone.
And with that sweetness, I tell it how it is. No BS and sugar coating from me. I’ll slap your ass and give you a real nice check on reality.

The people that mean something to me, have all of me. I wouldn’t blink an eye to drive east or head to Florida for someone I care about.

Naughty, filthy and sweet as fuck - seems like winner, winner chicken dinner.

The couple of times we have chatted, I’ve seen that really golden side of you. I think you’re absolutely awesome.

 

[Blueeyesrenee]

Today's question...

How quickly will you trust someone on Lit? When you talk to someone, do you have walls up? Or you go in with your heart out? How long does it take for your walls to come down?

Oh walls up big time. But that being said a few have broke through and have real conversations with and tend to talk easier with. I tend to trust females over males but that's my own personal preference.

 

[Pervy_Sage]

Today's question...

How quickly will you trust someone on Lit? When you talk to someone, do you have walls up? Or you go in with your heart out? How long does it take for your walls to come down?

I’m not a wall-builder. It’s not in my nature. I’m willing to award trust because I’m very discriminating with who I even speak with, so I already know a enough about them to have established the rapport that I need to feel comfy. I’m emotionally lead. That’s just me.

 

[Lord Pmann]

The couple of times we have chatted, I’ve seen that really golden side of you. I think you’re absolutely awesome.

Again, thank you. You make me blush, bro.

(I just like quoting this because no one can immediately tell you're not talking to me)

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Again, thank you. You make me blush, bro.

(I just like quoting this because no one can immediately tell you're not talking to me)

Oh c’mere you sexy lil thing, do you need some attention? Pets the adorable little champ.
Ohhh to make the Pmann blush.
#longtermgoals

 

[Blueeyesrenee]

Enjoying this conversation

 

[Lord Pmann]

For me, I tend to be reserved. I can be a talkative little fucker. But I usually keep personal stuff quiet and I definitely don’t share my full name or details like that. Basically, I’d be beating you motherfuckers away with a stick if ye knew where I lived.

But sometimes you just know a person is good. And sometimes you just trust that they don’t suck. I have pretty good instincts. Although, I shouldn’t have sent Gentold all those dick pics with my address on it. But you live and learn.

Oh c’mere you sexy lil thing, do you need some attention? Pets the adorable little champ.
Ohhh to make the Pmann blush.
#longtermgoals

I get plenty of attention. Someone tells me every day how special and handsome I am. She packs my lunch and irons my clothes. Thanks mother!

 

[Lord Pmann]

Enjoying this conversation

Thanks. I’m really engaging.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I get plenty of attention. Someone tells me every day how special and handsome I am. She packs my lunch and irons my clothes. Thanks mother!

Mother & son love and incest. I get it. Not my kink but I wanna hear all about it.
Details!
I know Suz does too! I’ll tell Trekka tonight when I talk to her. Where the hell is Endless- she’s gonna have the hardest *thud* ever!

 

[Endless_Night]

I’ve aways thought you brilliant and compassionate.

< Thank you so much >

Again, thank you. You make me blush, bro.

(I just like quoting this because no one can immediately tell you're not talking to me)

Dude! *slaps hand*

Go get your own compliments!


When I first typed that it came out as complaints…which I am so not going to touch.


I probably have more than you, Stickman.

Is it okay to eye roll about yourself?

Hmmm….

Today's question...

How quickly will you trust someone on Lit? When you talk to someone, do you have walls up? Or you go in with your heart out? How long does it take for your walls to come down?

It's a question bonanza!

Which I will come back and answer later. Wow. That will make 3 times I've check in to Lit today. Yeah, I know, but that's a lot considering I practically lived here at one time.