Litiquette VI

[Lord Pmann]

Who can I ask that will tell me the absolute truth other than my husband?

I’d say that’s the LEAST likely person to be truthful about your appearance.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I’d say that’s the LEAST likely person to be truthful about your appearance.

I’ll disagree.
My husband is superb on letting me know what’s what. There’s no sugar coating with him on anything.

 

[Dribble]

The funny thing is, I do see you as a less extreme version of me. Also less charming and all that jazz. But your posts are likable and you’re pretty blunt, which I appreciate.

Fuck...I am fucked...I knew it...fucked I say...lol

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Everyone is a supermodel in the dark, pmann.

I'm definitely not ugly and know that. I was a model for a period of time and that really changed the way I interpret "beauty".

As I get older I feel I get less pretty and exponentially more beautiful.

There is a certain privilege that comes with being tall, thin, and pretty. I cashed some of that equity in during my twenties and now I'd rather succeed using my other skills. It's not the first thing that comes to mind when I think of what I've got to offer the world. I suspect that h is true for most people.

 

[Suz_anne]

The way I grew up, modesty was valued very highly. If you were blessed with anything - good looks, success, a brilliant mind, etc. - it was expected that you were to embrace, but underplay those things. Boasting was unbecoming. Compliments were meant to be quietly accepted or demurred. So it's easier to make a self-deprecating joke than to accept a compliment, let alone to "brag" about myself.


That's not to say I don't appreciate my looks or intelligence. It's just that I'm more hilarious than anything.

 

[Lord Pmann]

...I was a model for a period of time...

Same here. For years I was a BEFORE model for various adverts. It really takes a toll on the ego.

 

[blade_rocknut]

So this is a follow up to the unique question from two days ago...

One thing I expected was for people to sort of shy away from anything physical. Which is funny, because sexy avatars and pictures are HUGE draws here. Very few people say anything about their physical appearance. However, people will often say positive things about their character.

Why are we so hesitant to say something nice about our physical appearance, but so reticent to say anything positive about our physical attributes? To me, a girl who will actually admit she’s attractive is an amazing thing. I’m not saying to be stuck up. But if a girl is aware she’s pretty and will admit it... oh man, what a turn on.

You’re So Vain by Carly Simon
https://youtu.be/mQZmCJUSC6g

Confidence is almost universally attractive. Arrogance; Only to a few, and I'd add that those few are likewise a hot mess.
I also appreciate seeing someone realize and utilize their attributes, be they physical or otherwise in a manner which doesn't throw shade on others.

Talking smack in proper context is fine, imo. I enjoy folks who can joke about their appearance and own their "flaws" without being a Debbie downer and trolling for compliments like a Southern mom putting meatloaf on the table and apologizing in advance about it being dry.

 

[Lord Pmann]

...trolling for compliments like a Southern mom putting meatloaf on the table and apologizing in advance about it being dry.

I feel like we live in the same exact area. (We kind of do, I guess.)

 

[Cthulhu1138]

Being attractive does not exactly make one unique.

It definitely garners attention, but not in the same way that being an amputee furniture maker would.

I would hazard a guess that 80% of Lot's demographics are guys like me; middle aged, married, dominant tendencies, in moderately healthy shape, attractive by traditional standards of masculine beauty.

So there is no way that I stand out there.

I work hard every day to not be pudgier than I am, to have decent definition and strength in my body.

And it is most assuredly work.

Do I enjoy recognition for it?

Yeah.

But as hungry as I am for recognition and praise, there is a weird little voice in the back of my mind that says it is all lies.

Maybe growing up an unpopular kid made me constantly doubt that I was good looking. No one ever doubted that I was clever, so I believe that a little more than any other compliment.

I am a fan of the Dunning-Kruger effect; I think that I over apply it to things like physical appearance.

Lastly, with this being a written forum, intent can be hard to interpret.

It is hard to tell if 'I ran 10 miles!' is bragging, sarcasm, or an ardent plea for validation. So I think most folks eschew boasting about looks.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I’ll tell you all the good things physical about me. Then I’ll tell you the bad.

Good:

Smile- it doesn’t come out often; I’m more of a smirker
Eyes- they’re kinda girly, but girls have pretty eyes
Skin- I exfoliate, bro
Hands- they’re not slimy
Legs- sturdy
Scrotum- someone told me just last week it was the most beautiful scrotum she had ever seen

Bad:

My hair has chosen to relocate. I lament the loss of my beautiful Dawson’s Creek hair (of which I was reminded in some pics by a friend of mine today).
I’m too chubby. Not superbly fat. But man I should lose some weight.
My nose holes are different sizes. Awful, right?

With all those pluses and minuses, I’ve never been scoffed at by the fairer sex. I’m not saying I’m some kind of lady killer. It’s especially irrelevant now. But I am confident and I think that has more to do with attraction than looks. I’m happy with who I am (though I would change some things). If someone doesn’t like it, that’s okay. They can find someone else. Less clever. And less charming.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

^ odd.

As someone who has spent a professional amount of time looking at scrotums I've never been compelled to use the word beautiful. They are fascinating, though.

 

[Lord Pmann]

^ odd.

As someone who has spent a professional amount of time looking at scrotums I've never been compelled to use the word beautiful. They are fascinating, though.

Professional amount of time looking at scrotums = hooker

It’s not common. It’s truly the most beautiful scrotum ever. It’s often mistaken for a sunset.

 

[hotwords229_A]

.

Kind of like the guy who has a mini dick, learns to develop oral skills.

How dare you! Some of us have average sized dicks and developed oral skills because you never know what the previous guy was packing so it’s smart to cover our bases.

. A pretty girl with big boobs and a shitty attitude will have an easier time finding a mate, sadly.

However, she will be dead on the inside.

I think it’s hard for anyone to know how we look because we have seen the whole package of ourselves. I was in a hotel one time and in the bathroom there was what can only be described as a spotlight in front of the mirror. I have never looked uglier than I did in that mirror. I almost didn’t even recognize myself. I took solace in the notion that probably nobody has ever had sex in that hotel bed because anyone who looked in that mirror would instantly lose any sense of libido.

I know what the “ugly as fuck” version of me looks like and it’s hard not to have that image in the back of my mind when I’m out and about. Even if I get complimented, I still know that it’s all subjective and I’m only one hotel mirror light away from starring as the new Freddy Kruger.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Professional amount of time looking at scrotums = hooker

It’s not common. It’s truly the most beautiful scrotum ever. It’s often mistaken for a sunset.

Because it goes down earlier than you expected?

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Because it goes down earlier than you expected?

 

[tnman03]

Because it goes down earlier than you expected?

Oh, you two... are you trying to give the narcissistic guy a complex or something??? You might even damage self-esteem...the horror...

 

[beachbaby179]

So this is a follow up to the unique question from two days ago...

One thing I expected was for people to sort of shy away from anything physical. Which is funny, because sexy avatars and pictures are HUGE draws here. Very few people say anything about their physical appearance. However, people will often say positive things about their character.

Why are we so hesitant to say something nice about our physical appearance, but so reticent to say anything positive about our physical attributes? To me, a girl who will actually admit she’s attractive is an amazing thing. I’m not saying to be stuck up. But if a girl is aware she’s pretty and will admit it... oh man, what a turn on.

You’re So Vain by Carly Simon
https://youtu.be/mQZmCJUSC6g

Because there are only about a dozen Victoria's Secret models in the world, and even their photos are airbrushed before publishing. And yet that's what society tells us is beautiful. So we (most females, I think, but I'll speak for myself here) have some self confidence issues when it comes to thinking of ourselves as beautiful. Can I look good? Yes. Do I photograph myself ? Yes. But for every photo I show, there are 100 I delete. I'm a work in progress, physically. But kindness, intelligence, humor... I freely admit to those and am proud of who I am.

 

[JennyNo1]

So this is a follow up to the unique question from two days ago...

One thing I expected was for people to sort of shy away from anything physical. Which is funny, because sexy avatars and pictures are HUGE draws here. Very few people say anything about their physical appearance. However, people will often say positive things about their character.

Why are we so hesitant to say something nice about our physical appearance, but so reticent to say anything positive about our physical attributes? To me, a girl who will actually admit she’s attractive is an amazing thing. I’m not saying to be stuck up. But if a girl is aware she’s pretty and will admit it... oh man, what a turn on.

You’re So Vain by Carly Simon
https://youtu.be/mQZmCJUSC6g

When I was a kid, I was kind of plain, very quiet, very smart, and painfully shy. Then in high school one summer I got boobs, a nice tan, my skin cleared up, and my hair started looking great. So, I started getting attention, and I kind of ran with it. For years, I was pretty conceited and got away with way more crap than I should have, and I wasn't very nice at times. Eventually I settled down and started to grow up. Then with maturity, my body started to change, as most people's do. By that time, I had started recognizing my own shortcomings and working on my inner self. I also noticed the difference in how people treated me from the way they had when I was prettier - and it really pissed me off that people really can be that shallow. I had begun to value different things about myself, and that meant I value different things about others too. Nowadays when I look in the mirror, I don't see the young woman I used to be at all physically. I know that I'm a much more attractive person now, though. Sooooo....I don't mention my appearance because it's not what I value most about myself. Even though I'm definitely not an uggo.

 

[Orchidea73]

Why are we so hesitant to say something nice about our physical appearance, but so reticent to say anything positive about our physical attributes? To me, a girl who will actually admit she’s attractive is an amazing thing. I’m not saying to be stuck up. But if a girl is aware she’s pretty and will admit it... oh man, what a turn on.

Many women know they are attractive. However, saying or making statements about it may easily come off as a stuck up, or superficial. Especially if this is done online where is very easy to be misunderstood.

Think of a scenario. A man says to a woman: You are beautiful.
What is she suppose to say? Thank you, I know?
Unless you're Han Solo, that doesn't sound cool or funny.

 

[SassySheDevil]

How dare you! Some of us have average sized dicks and developed oral skills because you never know what the previous guy was packing so it’s smart to cover our bases.

Apparently some never developed that.
Btw...
I'm a short girl with a lifted truck. I just assume everyone compensates somehow

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Professional amount of time looking at scrotums = hooker

It’s not common. It’s truly the most beautiful scrotum ever. It’s often mistaken for a sunset.

Is it lickable?

That's the true test of a delightful scrotum.

 

[tnman03]

Is it lickable?

That's the true test of a delightful scrotum.

Why when you say that do I imagine you pulling on exam gloves with an evil gleam in your eye???

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Why when you say that do I imagine you pulling on exam gloves with an evil gleam in your eye???

With a crisp snap. Why, yes... Yes I do

Although these days, if I'm touching your scrotum with a gloved hand, something has gone seriously wrong

 

[parker77]

this might be the most shallow conversation we’ve had. oddly, it carries its weight in truth. beauty is valuable currency here and in RL. that’s about all i have to add to this discussion, ‘celt maybe saying i’m broke.

 

[Trekka]

this might be the most shallow conversation we’ve had. oddly, it carries its weight in truth. beauty is valuable currency here and in RL. that’s about all i have to add to this discussion, ‘celt maybe saying i’m broke.

dude, we agree again. what's happening here.