Litiquette VI

[numeniusa]

For myself, I'm enjoying it so far. It's motivated me to get some stuff done, to pick up again some activities I'd never got around to, to try some new stuff and to review my habits. I do miss people and places and experiences, more than I'd expected to, but I'm trying to use this time to eat healthily (when I might have been stuffing my face on holiday), to exercise in new ways and so to come out the other side ready to socialise again with enthusiasm. Whenever that might be...

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Yes, it's possible, but there's a certain strain that comes with having to spend a lot of time with the same people every day for weeks on end. I'm seeing a side of my husband that I really dislike and I hate it. It's uncomfortable to see someone behave in a way that diminishes the respect you hold for them.

I'm enjoying the time for the most part. I'm lucky. I have a wonderful home with plenty of space and ways to entertain us. I miss people, though. I want to have friends over and share good food. I want to sit around the campfire and laugh together.

Soon enough.

 

[clistenovena]

Is it possible to enjoy this isolation time more than when we were free to go out and about as we eased? Those introverts, recluses, even hermits are able to live life without the guilt of societal social interaction expectations. The air is cleaner, nature is reclaiming what once was its.....sure there are downsides, lots of them, but is it possible for us to enjoy the change of pace, the new way of living?

My husband is LOVING this seclusion. He's as anti-social as it gets. Before the stay-at-home thing started, we were at a friend's house for dinner and he sends me this text:

"I'm getting this shirt and wearing it next time you drag me to one of these..."

https://i.imgur.com/U73ZQU5m.jpg

Me? I miss my friends and (some of) my family. But there are video calls and other ways to stay in touch. And I have my books.

I do know those who are struggling mightily through this time, whether because they hate being alone, they've lost their job, someone they love is sick, or they're just scared. My heart hurts for them.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Phew, the room seems a little warmer than the last time I strolled through. Hands out iced tea and lemonade for everyone, enjoy that refreshing flavor. Now.....

Is it possible to enjoy this isolation time more than when we were free to go out and about as we eased? Those introverts, recluses, even hermits are able to live life without the guilt of societal social interaction expectations. The air is cleaner, nature is reclaiming what once was its.....sure there are downsides, lots of them, but is it possible for us to enjoy the change of pace, the new way of living?

I'm somewhat used to being home like this. I only work part time. But I hate not getting out and about. My husband is still working, so he's also doing all the shopping (lord help us)
I'm also having to be away from my daughter, which is REALLY hard for me. Yesterday was so nice out, that she came up to play with the horse and dog, so I got my social distance visit for the first time in a couple weeks. But even though we snapchat daily, I need my hugs. Yesterdays "air hugs" were not the same. But I'll take it over nothing.
I have 5 acres, so I can get out and enjoy the fresh air, sit in my hammock, read, play scrabble etc. I have an amazing view, so I am lucky.
My son and his wife live with us. So while I'd normally take advantage of my son being home so much, and enjoy spending time with him. His wife runs around with a whip making sure he's doing what she needs/wants.

I am enjoying it on many levels. But still stir crazy.

 

[DarkSimian]

I'm somewhat used to being home like this. I only work part time. But I hate not getting out and about. My husband is still working, so he's also doing all the shopping (lord help us)
I'm also having to be away from my daughter, which is REALLY hard for me. Yesterday was so nice out, that she came up to play with the horse and dog, so I got my social distance visit for the first time in a couple weeks. But even though we snapchat daily, I need my hugs. Yesterdays "air hugs" were not the same. But I'll take it over nothing.
I have 5 acres, so I can get out and enjoy the fresh air, sit in my hammock, read, play scrabble etc. I have an amazing view, so I am lucky.
My son and his wife live with us. So while I'd normally take advantage of my son being home so much, and enjoy spending time with him. His wife runs around with a whip making sure he's doing what she needs/wants.

I am enjoying it on many levels. But still stir crazy.

Kinky

 

[Cthulhu1138]

My job is being outside, working with about 30 people and talking to another 300 more.

I am a homebody but define an extrovert.

This change has been hard on me because I keep thinking of all the people with whom I work who do not have a working spouse or a nice place.

Being lazy, I am mostly okay sitting on the couch and petting my dog.
But there are things I cannot do because my wife is working from home and needs quiet (not that the construction project across the street has granted her that).

So while I am exercising more I feel like I am gaining weight because my new hobbies are sitting quietly and making even more food.

And I keep wondering how many people I know will get sick, go in to unrecoverable debt, or will pass before their time

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I’ll steal the I’m a homebody but an extrovert from chest man up there. It fits me well too.
I work from home, so nothing new for me. Still rocking out to my music and doing my thing.
My husband has been working from home now for a few weeks. He’s busy and so many conference calls. He’s in the home office, door usually closed. We’ll chat at lunch, but I don’t really both him until his day is done.
We’re on different floors, so not around each other all.day.long. (That would drive me bat shit crazy)
My youngest home and online learning and then hello video games.

It’s not a bad thing or good. Just different.
I miss my sushi lunches and afternoon cafe pop ins.

I thought how cool for those cities in India that can now see the Himalaya Mountains because of the low air pollution.
🏔⛰

 

[Lord Pmann]

So this is a follow up to the unique question from two days ago...

One thing I expected was for people to sort of shy away from anything physical. Which is funny, because sexy avatars and pictures are HUGE draws here. Very few people say anything about their physical appearance. However, people will often say positive things about their character.

Why are we so hesitant to say something nice about our physical appearance, but so reticent to say anything positive about our physical attributes? To me, a girl who will actually admit she’s attractive is an amazing thing. I’m not saying to be stuck up. But if a girl is aware she’s pretty and will admit it... oh man, what a turn on.

You’re So Vain by Carly Simon
https://youtu.be/mQZmCJUSC6g

 

[SMNaughtywife]

This is a excellent question. Nicely done.
I’ll be back for this gem.

 

[Lord Pmann]

This is a excellent question. Nicely done.
I’ll be back for this gem.

Thank you for not speaking in riddles to me like the troll at the bottom of the bridge. It’s early and you’re not high yet.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

So this is a follow up to the unique question from two days ago...

One thing I expected was for people to sort of shy away from anything physical. Which is funny, because sexy avatars and pictures are HUGE draws here. Very few people say anything about their physical appearance. However, people will often say positive things about their character.

Why are we so hesitant to say something nice about our physical appearance, but so reticent to say anything positive about our physical attributes? To me, a girl who will actually admit she’s attractive is an amazing thing. I’m not saying to be stuck up. But if a girl is aware she’s pretty and will admit it... oh man, what a turn on.

You’re So Vain by Carly Simon
https://youtu.be/mQZmCJUSC6g

I think it’s because it is so subjective. I do think I’m pretty. But, I also think it sounds like you are a shallow person to go around saying it. And then sometimes I think I’m pretty, but then someone says you are “not too shabby” and then you start questioning if you are really as pretty as you might think you are. Some days I feel prettier than others, but by and large, I’m pretty happy with the way I look and I own it.

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

So this is a follow up to the unique question from two days ago...

One thing I expected was for people to sort of shy away from anything physical. Which is funny, because sexy avatars and pictures are HUGE draws here. Very few people say anything about their physical appearance. However, people will often say positive things about their character.

Why are we so hesitant to say something nice about our physical appearance, but so reticent to say anything positive about our physical attributes? To me, a girl who will actually admit she’s attractive is an amazing thing. I’m not saying to be stuck up. But if a girl is aware she’s pretty and will admit it... oh man, what a turn on.

You’re So Vain by Carly Simon
https://youtu.be/mQZmCJUSC6g

I think a lot of it is that this is primarily a verbal medium, where appearances, at least nominally, are secondary to the personality you put out there. Whether that personality is legitimate or not is completely up for debate considering the anonymity of this forum...but I think that's a big part of it.

Also, a large number of people are here because there's something missing in their in-person lives...which leads to latent insecurities often enough. Especially as our in-person lives are so appearance-dominant. So...not thinking of appearance first is a natural thing, as this place is meant to be an escape for most.

A feature, not a bug if you will, and with notable exceptions among our troop of intrepid pervs.

Excellent question today...

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I think a lot of it is that this is primarily a verbal medium, where appearances, at least nominally, are secondary to the personality you put out there. Whether that personality is legitimate or not is completely up for debate considering the anonymity of this forum...but I think that's a big part of it.

Also, a large number of people are here because there's something missing in their in-person lives...which leads to latent insecurities often enough. Especially as our in-person lives are so appearance-dominant. So...not thinking of appearance first is a natural thing, as this place is meant to be an escape for most.

A feature, not a bug if you will, and with notable exceptions among our troop of intrepid pervs.

Excellent question today...

Good points LP.
Definitely here, someone’s personality is the first thing that attracts you. And when you see someone, that can either heighten the attraction or sink it like the Titanic. You can be as attractive as you want, but if your personality sucks or you are a nasty person, what you look like doesn’t matter. But on the flip side, someone with average looks becomes significantly more attractive if they have a great personality. And that’s one of the great things about Lit is that you get a pretty good feel for someone’s personality first before making judgments based on physical appearances alone.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Thank you for not speaking in riddles to me like the troll at the bottom of the bridge. It’s early and you’re not high yet.

To play a little off LW. I think sometimes the physical can be hard. Because it is different for everyone.
Out in the real world, I don't get people going out of their way to tell me I'm beautiful, or sexy or... etc.
At work. My biggest compliment was always "You have such great skin" or "Your eyes are amazing"
So those are thing I can easily agree with. No one at work said anything about the bits and pieces I kept clothed (other than my manager who used to call me by my tit size half the time and he was wrong about the size)
Here on Lit. It is easy for me to post face pictures, because I feel those are my best physical feature. Well that and my pussy, but I don't post that on Lit.

Everyone freaks about the face pictures, but I don't have a job that cares, My husband knows I'm here. Half my family wouldn't bat an eye if they found out. I don't have a reason to hide. It was the old saying "If you got it, flaunt it" I have pretty eyes. So I'll flaunt it.

On here. Obviously naked bits are what is wanted. But when I throw those out there. Some guy telling me how hot they are, only goes so far, cause they just told 100 other women the same thing. But I can usually tell who means it, and who's feeding all the women. It took me several years to throw out tits that weren't in a hand bra. Cause damn if I ever wanted people to see how badly they hang. It still makes me a little unsettled. 40H tits hanging, can pretty much sit in my lap and nap.
But I've some what let go of that fear.
I guess because I've learned that there are so many varying degrees of what a person likes physically. I'm still trained to believe that beautiful, is what we see in the magazine, and that's not me.

 

[Lord Pmann]

For me, I’m mostly happy with how I look. Am I Bradley Cooper? No. I’m not super ripped. By super ripped I mean at all ripped. I enjoy pizza too much. I’m not sporting a thick head of hair. But I think I look just fine. I have nice eyes and a nice smile. My face is friendly. Not the kind you pick out of a police lineup.

I have no issue saying the things about me that are positive.

In my opinion, I believe people don’t talk positively about their looks because it’s something that often comes by no work of their own. I mean, your personality is something you develop. You don’t get as charming as I am without doing a lot of self reflection and personal growth. But a pretty face... you’re kind of born with it. Big boobs... you’re born with them or you get them augmented. Now, a fit body... some people work really hard to get that happening.

I think there’s a fine line between someone saying, “I know I’m pretty” and being an arrogant twat. I remember one girl here who used to often refer to herself as “genetically gifted”. She was a real twat and not nearly as nice looking as she thought. She didn’t have confidence. She had hubris and that was off putting. Compare that to a girl who says, “I do like how I look and I’m aware people find me attractive.” That sentence, to me... oh my. So hot.

It’s okay to find yourself pretty or attractive. Just don’t be a cunt about it.

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

I think you're both right, LW and Sassy, from different angles.

There are a bunch of people here who are insanely physically attractive and sexy as all-fuck. I don't know what their experiences are here...but mine is likely less like theirs than one would think because I'm almost completely free from my appearance having an effect on my experience here.

I'd be curious to hear that perspective...how the other half lives, if you will.

 

[SassySheDevil]

For me, I’m mostly happy with how I look. Am I Bradley Cooper? No. I’m not super ripped. By super ripped I mean at all ripped. I enjoy pizza too much. I’m not sporting a thick head of hair. But I think I look just fine. I have nice eyes and a nice smile. My face is friendly. Not the kind you pick out of a police lineup.

I have no issue saying the things about me that are positive.

In my opinion, I believe people don’t talk positively about their looks because it’s something that often comes by no work of their own. I mean, your personality is something you develop. You don’t get as charming as I am without doing a lot of self reflection and personal growth. But a pretty face... you’re kind of born with it. Big boobs... you’re born with them or you get them augmented. Now, a fit body... some people work really hard to get that happening.

I think there’s a fine line between someone saying, “I know I’m pretty” and being an arrogant twat. I remember one girl here who used to often refer to herself as “genetically gifted”. She was a real twat and not nearly as nice looking as she thought. She didn’t have confidence. She had hubris and that was off putting. Compare that to a girl who says, “I do like how I look and I’m aware people find me attractive.” That sentence, to me... oh my. So hot.

It’s okay to find yourself pretty or attractive. Just don’t be a cunt about it.

So I'd love to ask you a question that I've wondered about for years. You said you develop a personality.
Do you think that those who develop a better (subjective obviously) personality, did so because they felt they lacked in other areas?
I feel like I have a different personality now, than I did when I was skinny.
I felt like I had to make up for lack of looks, by being a better person.

Kind of like the guy who has a mini dick, learns to develop oral skills.

 

[Lord Pmann]

So I'd love to ask you a question that I've wondered about for years. You said you develop a personality.
Do you think that those who develop a better (subjective obviously) personality, did so because they felt they lacked in other areas?
I feel like I have a different personality now, than I did when I was skinny.
I felt like I had to make up for lack of looks, by being a better person.

Kind of like the guy who has a mini dick, learns to develop oral skills.

I think sometimes that can be the case. It’s why people act so surprised when a nice looking person is also nice or smart. It’s pretty condescending though.

This is my opinion... we do put up with things from pretty people far more than uggos. I’m ashamed to admit that’s the case or, at least, has been in my past.

I think pretty people have to work at gaining favour with people far less than unattractive people do. There is, however, a flip side to that. They also sometimes have to work harder to be taken more seriously. “Oh she slept her way to the top.” “She only got that job because she has huge tits and pmann was the hiring manager.”

I think each side of the coin has its ups and downs. No doubt, being beautiful comes out on top. There is an immediate bias people have towards someone who is beautiful. We all want to be beautiful. We all want to be with a beautiful person.

I think sometimes people will compensate for that which they lack. Sometimes uggos will develop a good personality for that reason. Sometimes they do it because they’re a good person. Sometimes beautiful people turn out to be shits because they’re constantly given attention and it’s hard for them to see a world where people don’t fall all over themselves to get their attention.

I think, however, that isn’t the majority. I think the majority of people do try to be good people, regardless of looks. I think think there are certain resistances or lack thereof that make it more essential.

An ugly dude with a tiny dick and no money better be nice and have a magic tongue. A pretty girl with big boobs and a shitty attitude will have an easier time finding a mate, sadly.

 

[Dribble]

Pictures...may not really be reality. I have my flaws, but as a whole, i know i am a catch. Yet when i look in a mirror, i still see the junkie from over 30 years ago. And there are days, even now, i am just as damaged. Those that havent fought this battle, simply dont get it. I dont ask them to.

As much as I hate it...pmann is mostly right. I compensate for my perceived flaws, even if in reality, they are not real.

 

[Lord Pmann]

As much as I hate it...pmann is mostly right. I compensate for my perceived flaws, even if in reality, they are not real.

Haha. Why do people hate this so much?

 

[Dribble]

Haha. Why do people hate this so much?

Some days, it is a 50:50 chance whether I want to put you on ignore. I dont cause you are funny when you arent being an asswipe. It make me wonder, if other people think the same of me...50:50 chance i am an asswipe. Guilty by association dude. It really isnt about you.

 

[StacyLeigh]

Why are we so hesitant to say something nice about our physical appearance, but so reticent to say anything positive about our physical attributes?

I think the answer is “all of the above”. I don’t value my physical appearance with as much weight as my personality or intelligence. It’s all a product of my mom and dad – not me. I give conscience effort to be a kind and giving person and to constantly be learning and expanding my mind. I don’t give the same amount of energy to my physical appearance. I suppose I simply value mindful effort over hereditary traits.

I also don’t seem to see myself the same way others see me. I don’t think I’m a troll, but I also don’t think my level of “prettiness” is anything special. For the most part, I’m happy with how I look, but I think there is a difference between liking how you look and telling others that you’re pretty.

Just like people who brag about their own intelligence are rarely as smart as they want you to think they are – it has been my experience that the most attractive people will often say the least about it and shine the most.

 

[Dribble]

I think the answer is “all of the above”. I don’t value my physical appearance with as much weight as my personality or intelligence. It’s all a product of my mom and dad – not me. I give conscience effort to be a kind and giving person and to constantly be learning and expanding my mind. I don’t give the same amount of energy to my physical appearance. I suppose I simply value mindful effort over hereditary traits.

I also don’t seem to see myself the same way others see me. I don’t think I’m a troll, but I also don’t think my level of “prettiness” is anything special. For the most part, I’m happy with how I look, but I think there is a difference between liking how you look and telling others that you’re pretty.

Just like people who brag about their own intelligence are rarely as smart as they want you to think they are – it has been my experience that the most attractive people will often say the least about it and shine the most.

And you like hockey. There cant be a more perfect example of sizzling hotness. /comment

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Thank you for not speaking in riddles to me like the troll at the bottom of the bridge. It’s early and you’re not high yet.

Did you sit there in your lobster pants and just refer to me as a fucken troll?!


Moving on.

I’m not sure why I shy away from talking about my appearance.
Partly because I’m not sure what beautiful looks like. How or maybe the question is who do I compare myself to know?
A perfectly airbrushed model that’s half my age?
Celebrities that are fussed over for hours?
A random women my age shopping at Whole Foods?
Shall I rank myself among what everyone declares attractive and gorgeous in the Show Your Face thread and see where I stand?

Who can I ask that will tell me the absolute truth other than my husband?
No sugar coating or laying on the adjectives thick.
Sexy, beautiful, attractive, stunning, gorgeous, foxy, bewitching ....

Yeah.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Some days, it is a 50:50 chance whether I want to put you on ignore. I dont cause you are funny when you arent being an asswipe. It make me wonder, if other people think the same of me...50:50 chance i am an asswipe. Guilty by association dude. It really isnt about you.

The funny thing is, I do see you as a less extreme version of me. Also less charming and all that jazz. But your posts are likable and you’re pretty blunt, which I appreciate.