Litiquette V

[SMNaughtywife]

Geeez....
Why always this uneven trade for things!
And what if I don't know all my hard limits?
I need some sort of middle ground here.
* stands looking around for the gray room*

Ponders joining FetLife and searching for a dungeon or something where I live.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Chasing pleasure. It's what we do. And this group really chases it, more so than the average walking down the street person. However we all have those things that we won't do, hard limits, turn-offs. But what if you were guaranteed the most incredible sexual experience of your life if you pushed past the limit. Would you be able to? Would you want to?

I think others have said this as well. Hard limits are hard. No. Just no.
For me this is things like blood and cutting. Certain other types of things that are quite extreme. There is no way I'm going there. And to be honest, I don't think you can "guarantee the most incredible experience of my life," especially if we are pushing into areas that are that off limits in my mind (the mind is most important).

Not enough information. What is the limit? Who is doing the guaranteeing? Do I think they are trustworthy? How do they know it will be the most incredible sexual experience of my life?

#suspiciouskitty

I think I am more likely to have an incredible experience thrust upon me than to garner it through seeking.

Ummm. No actual pun intended there. It is early. My word bank is limited.

What she said! And...I'm totally into thrusting experiences....

 

[Endless_Night]

What she said! And...I'm totally into thrusting experiences....

Oh, man. I knew that particular word choice would be coming back to haunt me.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Drop me in the no bucket on this one. They're hard limits for a reason. If that reason was negotiable, then they wouldn't be hard limits.

 

[Trekka]

Yes.

 

[ChainedUp]

Would you rather a short, concise reaponse that leaves you wanting to ask for more or a long drawn out one that gives you all the facts plus a few more?

If you prefer concise, do you tell the long, drawn out respondent to just tell you all the facts? Or do you just suffer though,

 

[Endless_Night]

Would you rather a short, concise reaponsenthay leaves wanting to ask for more or a long drawn out one that gives you all the facts plus a few more?

If you prefer concise, do you tell the long, drawn out respondent to just tell you all the facts? Or do you just suffer though,

Is properly spell checked an option?

(Kidding! I always have typos. )


I like all the facts plus a few more. So the second question doesn't really apply.

Now ask if I'm more likely to give a short concise response or an long drawn out treatise.

Go ahead. Ask.

If you add a 'please' I might make it extra discursive. Special. Just for you.

 

[Paul_Chance]

I'm definitely in the long drawn out response group.

(He says concisely)

 

[Suz_anne]

I'm a big fan of concise. But that doesn't always mean short. There can be a lot of details or facts needed to convey a situation, emotion, etc. I just don't care for superfluous details.

That being said, I loooooooooooove me same Paul Chance posts. I don't think his are the slightest bit superfluous. And he writes real purty.

 

[ChainedUp]

I'm a big fan of concise. But that doesn't always mean short. There can be a lot of details or facts needed to convey a situation, emotion, etc. I just don't care for superfluous details.

That being said, I loooooooooooove me same Paul Chance posts. I don't think his are the slightest bit superfluous. And he writes real purty.

And apparently re-reads before posting and uses spell check. Lol

 

[Paul_Chance]

And apparently re-reads before posting and uses spell check. Lol

LOL - well, not always. I've reread some of my posts and thought "what the hell"? Thank goodness for the edit button - that way I only appear as an idiot for a short period of time.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

And apparently re-reads before posting and uses spell check. Lol

Looks like you just got a citation.
Better watch it fast fingers.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Would you rather a short, concise reaponse that leaves you wanting to ask for more or a long drawn out one that gives you all the facts plus a few more?

If you prefer concise, do you tell the long, drawn out respondent to just tell you all the facts? Or do you just suffer though,

The depends so much on the situation.
There are some things that I want to know the details and background.
There are others where I don't.

I hope, in general, I go for the "right" length. I have, though, been known to be wordy at times.

 

[ChainedUp]

Please note, the following subject matter is not intended for all audiences. If thinking about or discussing your own mortality cause you concern, best to wander over to the "What's for breakfast?" thread.

If you could be told the exact date of your own death, would you want to know? What if it was not the exact date but the month or maybe just the year? Would you live your life any differently? Would it be a death sentence but with the freedom to live your remaining days as much as you'd like? Could you, as Tim McGraw sings "live like you were dying"?

 

[curvyangel1969]

Please note, the following subject matter is not intended for all audiences. If thinking about or discussing your own mortality cause you concern, best to wander over to the "What's for breakfast?" thread.

If you could be told the exact date of your own death, would you want to know? What if it was not the exact date but the month or maybe just the year? Would you live your life any differently? Would it be a death sentence but with the freedom to live your remaining days as much as you'd like? Could you, as Tim McGraw sings "live like you were dying"?

I'm going to rob a bank and travel the world cuz that's the only way I can afford it. Sorry people it's all about me. Hopefully I make it before I kick the bucket or get arrested.

 

[UnchainedWordist]

I don't know that my life would look drastically different, buy it wouldn't be the same. My art would take a greater importance, as would trying to install life lessons to my children. I would probably write that book that I have been putting off for some time. I would focus on leaving an inheritance (not necessarily financial) for my children to have as they grow up.

 

[ViciousTease]

Please note, the following subject matter is not intended for all audiences. If thinking about or discussing your own mortality cause you concern, best to wander over to the "What's for breakfast?" thread.

If you could be told the exact date of your own death, would you want to know? What if it was not the exact date but the month or maybe just the year? Would you live your life any differently? Would it be a death sentence but with the freedom to live your remaining days as much as you'd like? Could you, as Tim McGraw sings "live like you were dying"?

I think I would want to know. As UW said, I would focus the allotted time on teaching my children all that I could and giving them as many incredible experiences as possible. Travel would become a top priority.

 

[Endless_Night]

I would want to know. In spite of knowing that time is fragile and that life is a perishable commodity, it is just to easy to assume your time is infinite. I certainly don't live life to it's fullest.

Knowing an end date might change my priorities. Or it might not. I'm thinking (or at least hoping) the former.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Endless_Night]

Well, we were told it was unlikely I'd see thirty when I was in my twenties. I mainly get better and better. I wish I had started a pension fund in case I need it after all.

Hahaha! Well, there you go. It's an non-win question, either way.

And what is going on with that AV, Elle?!?!

 

[Paul_Chance]

I'd want to know. It would be a nice thing to have in my back pocket.

I've deeply contemplated my own mortality, both intellectually and on the deeper intuitive level that comes from being no stranger to death and feeling that whisper of mortality on the back of my neck a time or two in this life.

I wouldn't really change anything. It's not that my life is perfect or that I have realized everything I wanted to realize in this life.

It comes more from that deeper sense that life is an amazing thing and the variety of potential and possible experiences is so broad it will take lifetimes to be liberated from samsara.

The big advantage of knowing the hour would be that you could make a graceful exit - wrap up your affairs, get your finances in order, do the small things that will ease the transition for your friends and loved ones.

Everything is an illusion, though we are very attached to that illusion. Everything is transitory, everything changes. If you approach life from that perspective, then the suffering slips away.

In Buddhism there is the story of a woman whose only child died young. Overcome by grief she sought out the Buddha and asked him to return her child to her. Buddha responded by telling her if she could go through the village and find one household that had not suffered death he would do so. She set out on the journey, visiting every household in her village and the next and the next until she realized no one escapes mortality, every single househould intimately knew death. In that moment she became enlightened and was freed from fear and loss and grief that comes with death. (This illustrates the Buddhist principle called "The Ocean of Tears").

Whether death is imminent or distant, we should live in the moment and not be attached to this life. No death, no not death.

(LOL - and that is the return of the verbose Paul)

 

[Endless_Night]

< clipped for brevity >

(LOL - and that is the return of the verbose Paul)

A wonderful return. And a wonderful post.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Thanks Endless

And as a sign of my own attachment in this world, I did think of one thing I would do differently. If I knew that, in a year I was going to die in an accident - I'd buy multiple million dollar life insurance policies for everyone I could think of that I knew and liked. That would be a great parting gift - and cheap since I'd only have to pay a years premiums.

I'm sure it would make the insurance adjusters go "what the hell"? Especially if it was a cool accident like getting killed by a meteor or something.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Paul_Chance]

I wonder if anyone has Jabba the Hut on their bucket list?