Litiquette V

[ViciousTease]

Pure laziness. Another citiation. I make my own rules.

*likes her style*

 

[Lunation]

That would be a good morning!

Wonders what it takes for everyone else to have a good morning?

If I wake up it's not a good morning.

 

[Endless_Night]

That would be a good morning!

Wonders what it takes for everyone else to have a good morning?

No loud noises. No talking. No need to do anything or be anywhere. Overcast. Definitely overcast. Coffee can be helpful.

#fuckmornings

And colds. Fuck colds.


And we're now issuing citations? 'Cause I have a list.

 

[MessierObject]

That would be a good morning!

Wonders what it takes for everyone else to have a good morning?

I'm a morning person, but only quiet mornings. I like the quiet of the new day, full of possibilities. My mornings are good by default. Something has to make them not good.

As far as coffee is concerned I have a hard but simple rule. The morning, and by extension day, does not begin until I've had my first sip of coffee. Anything that happened before coffee was someone's dream. Except for morning sex

 

[numeniusa]

That would be a good morning!

Wonders what it takes for everyone else to have a good morning?

I need to wake up naturally, not be startled into consciousness by an alarm. A crumpet is nice. Or some toast with marmite. No rushing about or places to be is good.

Mostly just the 'no alarm call' thing, though.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

That would be a good morning!

Wonders what it takes for everyone else to have a good morning?

Sunlight splashing through my bedroom window and a clean kitchen to enjoy my coffee and chocolate. I'm a simple gal.

 

[Matt_Next_Door]

That instant where I am finally alert and aware that I am still breathing and another day has begun.

 

[Trekka]

A good morning is when someone else makes the coffee and brings it to me in bed! Coffee tastes soooo much better when someone else makes it.

 

[ChainedUp]

What's it take for you to venture out where it's a little uncomfortable? Is it a possible reward of pleasure or maybe you just like that uncomfortable feeling?

 

[rubydlite]

What's it take for you to venture out where it's a little uncomfortable? Is it a possible reward of pleasure or maybe you just like that uncomfortable feeling?

Being single forever pushed me into my discomfort zone. Dating at 40 is so uncomfortable. The payoff...kinky sex and someone to open my pickle jar.
Also, watching my mom in her mod 60's, trying nothing. I don't want to live like that. I want to experience as much as possible so I have no regrets when I'm 90.
If you're talking specifically sex. My late 30's made me much more adventurous.

 

[Suz_anne]

I'm all about the pleasure reward. Yes, please.

 

[ViciousTease]

What's it take for you to venture out where it's a little uncomfortable? Is it a possible reward of pleasure or maybe you just like that uncomfortable feeling?

Both. So much pleasure can come from stepping outside of your comfort zone. I also like to be challenged. I need it. Without a challenge, I tend to just sit and do nothing. Uncomfortable is good.

Speaking of stepping outside of your comfort zone ... there's a voice challenge on the EC today. I'm sure you'd make all of the Lit ladies squirm if you added your voice to the list.

 

[Endless_Night]

What's it take for you to venture out where it's a little uncomfortable? Is it a possible reward of pleasure or maybe you just like that uncomfortable feeling?

Usually plenty of time to convince myself that venturing out is actually what I want to do in the first place. I am a cautious creature.

Or, I can suck it up and push through for a specific goal.

Otherwise...hmmm. Well, I hate the uncomfortable feeling. Haaaaaate. But it does get me where I want to be on occasion.

(I'm talking about sex here, people. )

Speaking of stepping outside of your comfort zone ... there's a voice challenge on the EC today. I'm sure you'd make all of the Lit ladies squirm if you added your voice to the list.

Ooooooh!

*waits*

 

[lakesailer_mi]

What's it take for you to venture out where it's a little uncomfortable? Is it a possible reward of pleasure or maybe you just like that uncomfortable feeling?

It's easy to get "comfortable" in everything we do. Professionally, home life, sex life. I realized, some years back, that this leads to stagnation.

Professionally, I was in a pretty good place. I had my "niche" and I was successful. I could have just kept on "turning the crank." It was comfortable and no one would argue that I was anything other than successful.

But then I took a chance and spent part of a year living and working in another country. Very uncomfortable. (not the country, but uprooting). It was exhilarating and mind opening.

When I came back, an opportunity arose at work and I jumped into it. It's been frustrating, worrysome, challenging, but most importantly...exciting. I did new things. I branched out and failed some, and succeeded some. In the end, it's been a great experience.

I realize that the question was more directed at sex.
I think the same logic applies though. It's easy to just get into a "niche." This works, we both cum (or whatever). But I think that's a problem.
I've begun thinking and...well...experimenting a little with new and different ideas.

It has, in many ways, been similar to my work experience.

It's not about the reward of pleasure, per se, although certainly that's enticing.
It's about experiencing. Living life. Trying new wine. Not being stuck in a set of patters than while comfortable and easy and "fine" don't let you grow.

We look back (there was question about firsts recently), on "firsts" as exhilarating.

That's what we look for. New experiences. New challenges. New ideas.

 

[Lunation]

What's it take for you to venture out where it's a little uncomfortable? Is it a possible reward of pleasure or maybe you just like that uncomfortable feeling?

I just don't do it.

I tend not to leave my comfort zone.


Edit: on occasion there is an exception. But it needs to be rather...exceptional.

 

[curvyangel1969]

Hmmm.. if we are talking about sex well I have some hard limits the rest is negotiable and I'm usually down for trying them. If its something that makes me think "no fucking way" immediately I'll usually change my mind after a bit of thought and conversation. So basically I don't really have a "comfort zone"


I wanted to edit this to add that most everything ive done outside the "norm" sexually, I've initiated.

 

[MessierObject]

What's it take for you to venture out where it's a little uncomfortable? Is it a possible reward of pleasure or maybe you just like that uncomfortable feeling?

If we're talking about sex, I'm fairly adventurous. The reward of pleasure is definitely the carrot on the end of the stick. Outside of sex, especially in social situations, is a different matter. I posted similar yesterday in the EC about this. I am constantly uncomfortable in social settings. What pushes me is remembering how miserable I was missing out and the fear of what I could miss out on. If I have to die someday I want to look back on a life in which I challenged myself and overcame obstacles.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I'm right along with Suz_anne and wanting that pleasure reward.
I don't get to experience that uncomfortable feeling nearby enough to know, but I'm sure (pretty damn sure) I'd like ... errr, more like love it.

 

[ChainedUp]

Good morning. How about I write out a script and then everyone record themselves reading it aloud. Lol. VT's thread was quite popular yesterday. I listened to some.

But for me, that's not my thing. It's not any anything more than I just didn't want to. What are you dead set in your ways about, things you just won't do. Ever stop to analyze why? Ever learn anything if you have? Anyone's therapist tell them it's because of "xxxxxxxxx"?

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Good morning. How about I write out a script and then everyone record themselves reading it aloud. Lol. VT's thread was quite popular yesterday. I listened to some.

But for me, that's not my thing. It's not any anything more than I just didn't want to. What are you dead set in your ways about, things you just won't do. Ever stop to analyze why? Ever learn anything if you have? Anyone's therapist tell them it's because of "xxxxxxxxx"?

LMAO....

I'm told I'm very much a creature of habit. There's a lot of truth to that I'm sure.
My daily schedule, my general "how I do things" is usually pretty firm. For example, I shower in the morning. I like to eat dinner about 6:30pm. I get cranky if my schedule gets "upset." I'm a planner. I need a plan for everything.

I've thought about some of the reasons why. Part of it is just that when I don't have a plan, things seems to slip through my fingers. I don't get done what I want to get done, and then I have a lot of regret. So, I'm protecting myself.
I haven't gone any deeper than that.

And I don't have a therapist.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I'm not dead set on anything, not anymore. Gotta have your world shaken and tipped to realize the once very important schedules and ways of life are now very trivial. You roll with what's given, your only choice is forward and figuring out the new new.

No therapist, but my gym coach, well, I wouldn't trade him for the world.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Good morning. How about I write out a script and then everyone record themselves reading it aloud. Lol. VT's thread was quite popular yesterday. I listened to some.

But for me, that's not my thing. It's not any anything more than I just didn't want to. What are you dead set in your ways about, things you just won't do. Ever stop to analyze why? Ever learn anything if you have? Anyone's therapist tell them it's because of "xxxxxxxxx"?

<---Climbs onto the couch for his therapy session.

There are very few things I'm dead set on. There are quirks and they're pretty firmly rooted in either formative experiences or trauma. The twin pillars upon which our oddities reside. I've explored them both through zen meditative contemplation (self-examination) or therapy.

I'm a big advocate of counseling as a valuable tool to help us deal with life and I've been through counseling/therapy. (I see the dividing line as counseling is really just an extended conversation with a neutral and knowledge person and therapy is a deeper dive into the psyche with a trained therapist).

 

[Suz_anne]

But for me, that's not my thing. It's not any anything more than I just didn't want to. What are you dead set in your ways about, things you just won't do. Ever stop to analyze why? Ever learn anything if you have? Anyone's therapist tell them it's because of "xxxxxxxxx"?

I think I have become less set in my ways as I've gotten older. Which is the opposite of what I expected. But I now feel more likely to say "Hmmm, why not?" an give it a go.

I've tried really hard to think of something that I am dead set upon and the only things that come to mind are politically charged, so I won't detail those out.

By Paul's definition (which I liked), I went to see a counselor once and have never been to a therapist. I liked talking with a counselor as a way of sorting out something that seemed very complicated to me, but they helped me see that it was actually quite simple once I stripped away the emotional noise. I liked that and have used the same thought process often in the years since.

 

[ChainedUp]

Rainy,gray, chilly. Feels like fall is knocking at the door.

What do you feel is on its way? Are you anticipating with angst or glee?

I've found that only rarely are things as good or as bad as anticipated, why aren't we able to gauge our anticipation better, we have lots of practice at it?

 

[Suz_anne]

My husband. He'll soon be on his way home after 2 weeks away for a work trip. And I am gleefully anticipating his return.

Who knew I liked the fucker so much?