Litiquette V

[Mindfondler]

Catching up...

We all stick pretty close to our comfort zones, makes us feel all safe and cozy. But have you ever tried or done something that you knew would be unpleasant just to experience what it was like? How did you feel afterwards?

I've walked across a high wire (albeit with a safety harness) about forty feet high for exactly that reason (it didn't take me anywhere and I had to walk back afterwards, so it must have been that type of whim).

I did feel fearful before I started, looking down past the wire towards the ground below. I froze for a few seconds, but then I reasoned that all I needed to do was to put one foot in front of the other repeatedly and everything would be alright. My fear didn't go away, but it didn't stop me either. I set off with surprising confidence and completed the journey back and forth without any fuss.

Afterwards, I felt mildy euphoric. Rationally, I knew that I was always safe, but I expected that my natural fear would be a greater barrier than it turned out to be. I was also quietly jubilant that I had been the only person in my group who had been prepared to give it a try, and that I hadn't bottled it.

For someone you chat with regularly here, either on he boards or in PM, how long does an absence have to be until you start wondering where the person is or what's going?

It varies a lot. I've found that there's a natural cadence to chats that's individual to each person. There are some people on here whom I've not contacted for many months, but with whom I'm confident that I could pick things up again instantly without any recriminations. I've had some contacts whom I know are very busy but who will reply in the end, even if it takes them a week or more. With others, I have exchanged quickfire bursts of messages back and forth, followed by long gaps of inactivity.

I think the trick is to understand the style of the other person, and to infer from that what constitutes a problem or a loss of interest. I must confess, though, that I've not always got this right. I have a horrid feeling that there are Litsters out there who feel that I've abandoned them when I was actually giving them breathing space. Sometimes, a conversation just dries up without it being the fault of either person. If that conversation has served a useful purpose, then that needn't be a bad thing at all.
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[Endless_Night]

I have to agree it's somewhat person dependent. There are those I may not see for months but chat with regularly when we're both on the board. If one of them disappears it doesn't raise an eyebrow. If it's someone who maintains a regular presence I'm more likely to miss them.

Soooo...anywhere from a week to months?

For almost everyone I actually chat with regularly I have either email or phone access, or both.

 

[Lord Pmann]

3 days. If you're not around for three days I'm sending the popo out to find you.

Funny enough, when I type popo into my phone, this little pic comes up.

My phone is ghetto

 

[ChainedUp]

It's December! So when does the Christmas spirit hit you? For some it's a date on the calendar, others a snowfall, while still others need Christmas Eve. And for those looking for something a little deeper, what is the Christmas Spirit for you?

 

[Fish_Tales]

In general I don't form attachments to lit chat partners these days. For those I am attached to, I communicate with them regularly via this old thing called the phone or I check in on them via Facebook.

Seems like a sensible idea

 

[LWulf]

When does the xmas spirit hit me?

http://25.media.tumblr.com/494af5719b052e14378e171e8f6b4c3f/tumblr_my8i0smo7s1t5nmn6o1_500.gif

I generally wait until about 7-10 days prior to xmas to start preparing for it, before that is just commercialism.

What is the xmas spirit to me? The xmas spirit is someone who, if she touches me again, I'm gonna rip her goddamn wings off!

https://media.tenor.co/images/e67168f0d09c59fdd05c778291fbbac2/raw

 

[Endless_Night]

Mine is more of a holiday rather than a Christmas spirit. It kicks in right after Halloween. (Halloweeeeeen!!!! My favorite! )

Fall is, easily, my favorite time of year. While I enjoy the planning, the gatherings, the gift giving of the holidays, it’s really more about the generalized joy I feel when the cool weather rolls in than any deeper sense of spirit.

My religious upbringing was nominal. I lack the usual faith-based associations for the holiday.

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Is that Carol Kane? I love her!

 

[LWulf]

Is that Carol Kane? I love her!

yes it is, as the spirit of xmas present in Bill Murray's version of Scrooged, who said of Carol Kane's character "if she touches me again, I'm gonna rip her goddamn wings off!"

 

[Endless_Night]

yes it is, as the spirit of xmas present in Bill Murray's version of Scrooged, who said of Carol Kane's character "if she touches me again, I'm gonna rip her goddamn wings off!"

The Princess Bride.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Well I bought a tree today. Just a bit ago. It's a big fucker. The biggest one I've ever bought. About 10 feet tall. So, I suppose I'm in the Christmas spirit. Suzanne has been harping on me about my Scroogey McBoogerballs attitude, so I got one.

So call me Santa for all my jovial spirit.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Well I bought a tree today. Just a bit ago. It's a big fucker. The biggest one I've ever bought. About 10 feet tall. So, I suppose I'm in the Christmas spirit. Suzanne has been harping on me about my Scroogey McBoogerballs attitude, so I got one.

So call me Santa for all my jovial spirit.

I just finished decorating my 14 foot tree. I had to use a lift to string the lights, lol.

Pmann- How are you going to explain your reasoning for a Chrissy tree to the mrs, huh?

 

[AKentuckyLady]

I am usually all about Christmas. I love everything about it, but this year I am not feeling it at all.

Me either. I keep resisting pulling out all the decorations. I don't even have a wreath up. The thought just makes me tired.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I just finished decorating my 14 foot tree. I had to use a lift to string the lights, lol.

Pmann- How are you going to explain your reasoning for a Chrissy tree to the mrs, huh?

Are we really gonna measure sticks, Aussie?!?

Well, my wife wanted one. So, a friend just pointed me that way. I'm normally just super sweet and nice, it's not out of character.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I'll go buy a real tree this weekend. Maybe. Still is pretty early for decorations. I love, love, love snow. So when we get the first dumping, then it feels like the season is starting.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I am usually all about Christmas. I love everything about it, but this year I am not feeling it at all.

Scroogey McBoogerballs #1

Me either. I keep resisting pulling out all the decorations. I don't even have a wreath up. The thought just makes me tired.

Scroogey McBoogerballs #2

I am usually all about Christmas. I love everything about it, but this year I am not feeling it at all.

Well I bought a tree today. Just a bit ago. It's a big fucker. The biggest one I've ever bought. About 10 feet tall. So, I suppose I'm in the Christmas spirit. Suzanne has been harping on me about my Scroogey McBoogerballs attitude, so I got one.

So call me Santa for all my jovial spirit.

^^^
Spirit of Christmas and Holier Than Thou Christmas Elf

 

[Lord Pmann]

I don't even think I'm going to put a tree up this year if my child doesn't ask for one.


Dear God, please don't let her ask for one.

I'll remind her!!!

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Are we really gonna measure sticks, Aussie?!?

Well, my wife wanted one. So, a friend just pointed me that way. I'm normally just super sweet and nice, it's not out of character.

We all know that I'm bigger than you. It's only fitting that my stick is too.

 

[PeteHulbert37]

We started a tradition last year of going to a tree farm and cutting it down. No, it's not like Christmas Vacation at all. It's pretty cool actually!

Last year we got a fat 10'r and it was perfect. This year we changed it up and got a tall skinny 12'r. The damn thing has fallen over twice, the 2nd time it actually fell on top of me. My 3 year old has never laughed so hard.

 

[ChainedUp]

It's always about size. Even when it's not, it is.

What is the lie you most often tell?

If you knew for sure of the outcome of the truth, would you be more likely to tell the truth or less likely?

 

[curvyangel1969]

It's always about size. Even when it's not, it is.

What is the lie you most often tell?

If you knew for sure of the outcome of the truth, would you be more likely to tell the truth or less likely?

Even when it's not. It is....

I rarely ever outright lie.. but I will sugarcoat the hell out of something to try not to hurt their feelings ( depending on who I'm speaking to and how much they mean to me) if it's avoidable. I get told I come across harsh a lot of the time.
It's not my intention to hurt anyone. I'm just honest.

 

[Endless_Night]

Social engagements. I don’t lie about much, but I will prevaricate about being busy to get out of invites. Only to acquaintances or more casual friends. Anyone who knows me well knows I have a limit on how often I’ll do crowds or noisy get-togethers. They just get a: Thanks, but I’m not being social.

I need my down-time.

On this^ I know the outcome. People get offended, hence my avoidance of the truth.

Otherwise I might do white lies to protect feelings, but it’s usually more avoidance than outright falsehood.

 

[LWulf]

My dad told me once; the best liars are the ones that tell the truth most of the time. People rely on your telling them the truth, so a lie is completely unexpected in that instance. Otherwise, if you lie all the time, people expect it and won't believe your (new) lies anyway.

That said, Online I lie about half the time. Offline, I don't like to lie at any time. I won't lie and say I never lie, because work has expected me to lie to the customers (when I had such a job). Family expects me to lie to family. Aside from that, I try not to lie at any time. There really isn't any cause for it.

I don't lie to spare someone their feelings and hate when people do that to me. I might look for a better way to say the truth, but I won't lie to someone outright.

It doesn't matter which outcome, a lie is a lie and the truth is the truth. playing around with such concepts as "knowing the outcome" is how people rationalize telling lies.

 

[Aquagal]

Probably when someone's hair looks like shit, is not telling them a lie?

 

[LWulf]

Probably when someone's hair looks like shit, is not telling them a lie?

That is subjective because some people don't like mullets and some do. If you like the person, yes it is telling them a lie by not telling them. If the person doesn't know you, no; because they don't care what your opinion is anyway (unless they randomly asked you but that wasn't your question).

More important, if someone looks like shit and they can't do anything about it, would you lie to them and tell them they are beautiful?

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In an aside, is your avatar, a selfie of you laying over someone's knee; starkers?

 

[Aquagal]

That is subjective because some people don't like mullets and some do. If you like the person, yes it is telling them a lie by not telling them. If the person doesn't know you, no; because they don't care what your opinion is anyway (unless they randomly asked you but that wasn't your question).

More important, if someone looks like shit and they can't do anything about it, would you lie to them and tell them they are beautiful?

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In an aside, is your avatar, a selfie of you laying over someone's knee; starkers?

I'm laying across my bear rug.