Lit Relationships

[sugarmagnolia77]

Hi. I'm new here - or at least new to posting. I've been reading for a while, but decided today to actually sign up so I could post.

Anyway....

My question is this: How many lit members have brought their online relationship into real life? Do your online personnas affect your relationship? Is there ever a time that you are jealous of what the other has posted or vice versa?

I'm very curious to see how many relationships that have begun here on the boards have carried over to real life and succeed.

Thanks!

sugarmagnolia

 

[mrtnmoon]

I don't really have any relationships to speak of, so I can't address your topic. just wanted to welcome you and say I hope you have a good time. dead head?

 

[sugarmagnolia77]

I don't really have any relationships to speak of, so I can't address your topic. just wanted to welcome you and say I hope you have a good time. dead head?

Well thank you for the welcome! And yes, deadhead.

 

[mrtnmoon]

Well thank you for the welcome! And yes, deadhead.

you're welcome. I'm afraid that I can't add much to the deadhead topic, either.

I used to be in a band that played a few dead tunes, tho.

 

[BlackWolf65]

Hi. I'm new here - or at least new to posting. I've been reading for a while, but decided today to actually sign up so I could post.

Anyway....

My question is this: How many lit members have brought their online relationship into real life? Do your online personnas affect your relationship? Is there ever a time that you are jealous of what the other has posted or vice versa?

I'm very curious to see how many relationships that have begun here on the boards have carried over to real life and succeed.

Thanks!

sugarmagnolia

Welcome to Lit!!

First, not knowing what you've read, I don't know if you're aware that there have been a few relationships that have carried over into R/L from Lit. I'm a shining example, myself, but have no idea of an exact number. As to your other questions...

I can only speak for myself, but with DF and I, I feel as though our online personas pretty much act to enhance our R/L relationship... By that I mean that for the present, we are limited to occasional visits, phone calls, letters, and Lit. It will most likely be the end of the year before we can actually be close enough that our R/L time will be greater than our online time.

And yes - sometimes something gets posted that brings out jealousy in the other. I recently pulled a couple of things because they bothered DF, and sometimes I get to a point where I kind of want to piss on the fence post, if you know what I mean. But we also both know that we have set boundaries as far as other people are concerned, and we maintain those boundaries. We will flirt with others, but anything more is off limits...

And by the way... Taking this relationship that extra step - moving it from Lit to R/L - is one of the best decisions that I've ever made...

 

[Calvin]

Hi. I'm new here - or at least new to posting. I've been reading for a while, but decided today to actually sign up so I could post.

Anyway....

My question is this: How many lit members have brought their online relationship into real life? Do your online personnas affect your relationship? Is there ever a time that you are jealous of what the other has posted or vice versa?

I'm very curious to see how many relationships that have begun here on the boards have carried over to real life and succeed.

Thanks!

sugarmagnolia

As with the others.... Welcome to Lit. There is lot's to enjoy... once you weed out the ever increasing SPAM and racist posts.....

I came to Lit close to 6 years ago with the specific point of finding a R/L partner. It has not happened nor has it even been close. There are several other threads on Lit that address this issue. It is pretty clear that geography does play a part in finding a R/L thing on Lit - simply put the more people in your area that want to meet the greater your chances are. And there are definatly some people here that have met their partners here.... but it is my experience that they are a minority.

I can't speak to wether my online personna affects my relationship because there is no difference in my personna online or offline... I am the same no matter where I am....

Enjoy your travels on Lit.....

 

[omahaman2]

I met my fiancee here,on the chat part of LIT! Neither of us were loking for a relationship at the time. We were both just having fun, and we clicked,just like a relationship offline. Like most relationship, we took things step by step and got to know each other. We let our online persona be just who we were and still are.
I disagree with Calvin,geography has nothing to do with it,if you let the heart
be the boss,as it should be in a relationship! We were so far apart,her in NYC and me in Missouri. We are now in Omaha,Nebraska together because we let our hearts lead us. One year after she arrived,on New years eve,I asked her to be my wife and she said YES!! We have now been living our dream together for over 4 years, with marriage in our future!We both still post here,as we have developed many great friendships. To answer your question,no,jealousy has
never been caused by any of our postings. We trust each other, just like you should,if you truly believe in your partner,your love and your relationship.

 

[sexkit-teen]

Hi. I'm new here - or at least new to posting. I've been reading for a while, but decided today to actually sign up so I could post.

Anyway....

My question is this: How many lit members have brought their online relationship into real life? Do your online personnas affect your relationship? Is there ever a time that you are jealous of what the other has posted or vice versa?

I'm very curious to see how many relationships that have begun here on the boards have carried over to real life and succeed.

Thanks!

sugarmagnolia

not sure EXACTLY what you mean but i have met one person on here in R/L and had a great time....if you know what I mean

 

[ima6uldv8]

Welcome to Lit! I hope you enjoy it here. I didn't come here to meet anyone. In fact, life's experiences had left me very jaded and my heart cold and hard. I came here to finally address my fantasies and be the person I was. To quit trying to be the person everyone else expected me to be. That said, I met my Master/lover here totally by accident. I happened to see a thread he made about looking for a sub. Well, I knew nothing about that life but it peaked my interest. I contacted him that night and we clicked immediately. We talk every day on the phone and computer. He has shown me what true love really is. I'm 41 and have finnaly found what I was looking for all along. And don't let distance be an excuse. I'm in the southeast U.S. And he's on the east coast. I am flying out to finally be with him in July and can't wait! So, I wish you good luck and happiness, too.

 

[Scribbleros]

Hi. I'm new here - or at least new to posting. I've been reading for a while, but decided today to actually sign up so I could post.

Anyway....

My question is this: How many lit members have brought their online relationship into real life? Do your online personnas affect your relationship? Is there ever a time that you are jealous of what the other has posted or vice versa?

I'm very curious to see how many relationships that have begun here on the boards have carried over to real life and succeed.

Thanks!

sugarmagnolia

There are couples who post separately on lit. Ask Rimmy.

 

[sugarmagnolia77]

not sure EXACTLY what you mean but i have met one person on here in R/L and had a great time....if you know what I mean

go on - share the details - we're all friends here!

 

[JennyOmanHill]

I met my fiancee here,on the chat part of LIT! Neither of us were loking for a relationship at the time. We were both just having fun, and we clicked,just like a relationship offline. Like most relationship, we took things step by step and got to know each other. We let our online persona be just who we were and still are.
I disagree with Calvin,geography has nothing to do with it,if you let the heart
be the boss,as it should be in a relationship! We were so far apart,her in NYC and me in Missouri. We are now in Omaha,Nebraska together because we let our hearts lead us. One year after she arrived,on New years eve,I asked her to be my wife and she said YES!! We have now been living our dream together for over 4 years, with marriage in our future!We both still post here,as we have developed many great friendships. To answer your question,no,jealousy has
never been caused by any of our postings. We trust each other, just like you should,if you truly believe in your partner,your love and your relationship.

I'm the lucky fiancee referred above. Our meeting in chat was so casual and unexpected, but once the attraction built up, we were smart enough to meet in the flesh before either of us fell too hard. Fortunately, it has really worked out, and meeting Oman is the best thing that has ever happened. As strong as our feelings became by chatting and posting, etc., meeting face-to-face was the determining factor in continuing our relationship.

If things didn't "click" off-line for us, we knew we would continue being friends. There was some jealousy on my part BEFORE our meeting, but none exists now. We each know what we have now is too precious to be played around with.

Enjoy your LIT-life, and welcome to the boards.