Let's talk Significant Others

[MissTaken]

I am finding on a professional as well as personal level, that adult couples do not have special time together.

When asking, "What do you do to share time together?" The answers are often


~take the kids to the park, visiting, etc.
~grocery shopping
~rent movies for the family
~sex, when time permits

It seems we get so caught up in managing our family , household and job that sometimes, some of us forget about our SO, "Significant" being the operative word.

Now, tell me, when is the last time you and your SO had quality , NON sexual, alone time together?

What did you do?

If it has been a while, when and what will you do with your SO?

Think: When the kids are grown and gone and the body parts aren't working or the energy wanes, what will you have left? Start building it today.

 

[sabbathstorm]

We usually sneak off from school one day a week and have dinner together. It's nothing big but it's quiet time and it's just us. We've got some quality time planned for tonight: a bite to eat, "Blade II" (Wesley Snipes mrrroow), and then I'll attack him when we get home

 

[Wiggles]

We spend just about every waking moment together (and every single sleeping moment), give or take about eight hours.

I consider it special, since it won't always be that way.

 

[freescorfr]

We went off to Sardinia for a week in January. It was fabulous - just like a holiday. Now living together is just like being back at work again.

 

[perks]

every day, twice a day at least for about 40 minutes each time.

 

[Hamletmaschine]

Well, since I have 3 months off in the summers, I'd take mine to Europe or something for a couple of months.

Any takers?

 

[alltherage]

We often find our work schedules difficult. I can go most of the week without seeing her at all and that sucks. We get together on weekends. I have two kids who love to be around me on the weekends so it is difficult to find alone time. Most of our quality times comes late at night or early in the morning. I love mornings. We wake up early and just cuddle and talk while we are in bed. The kids are asleep and we actually get time to talk and dream together. We hope to solve some of the logistic problems soon.

 

[ksmybuttons]

We play/make music together a couple of times a week. Sometimes it is just for 15 or 20 minutes but what a way to connect.

He is a flat-pick guitar player and I play resophonic guitar and piano. We both sing.

We write songs for each other. These are not sharable.

 

[april-wine]

I like mornings too, coffee and her....That's all.....

Makes me crazy when I work the early morning shift, I miss that time terribly..........

 

[NoRegrets]

Now, tell me, when is the last time you and your
SO had quality , NON sexual, alone time together?

What did you do?

I bought tickets to the San Francisco Flower and Garden
show. Gardening is not my thing but I had a good time
and she loved it. It was a great way to spend the day
together.

 

[MissTaken]

When I was married, we used to joke about having one date a year. Every year we would attend a concert together.

Now, wistfully, that was our one time a year to spend together and now....we aren't married.

Psst: I am not sad or angry, as there were other issues leading to divorce, but in part, time together might have opened communication a bit.

So carry on! You all have some great ideas!

My next SO and I will definitely have, find or make time together .

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Last night we had QT.. we cleaned up our room together, which turned into a MASSIVE pillow fight and wrestling match, and the room is still a mess, so we have to clean it again today..
Then we went to the store, picked up some egg-dye, and came home to dye two-dozen eggs (for friends and family).. there is dye all over my smock (dye-fight).. the eggs are lovely, though.. and then we snuggled up on the couch to watch the FoodNetwork, Canada (we LOVE cooking shows), and then a movie.. It was wonderful.. and then we took turns giving each other body-massages, and then talked until we fell asleep...

It was SUCH a great night!

I'm so lucky!

 

[Jimi]

Saturday "date"

We actually have spent LOTS more quality time together in the past two months... it is GREAT!

Today we went into Town shopping, and had a good lunch afterwards, at our local pub. Draught and wings - Yum! and more to cum tonight... (i hope)

 

[shynsexy]

On my SO days off, we usually rent movies and cuddle in bed all day. He's a home body, but i love going out. This tuesday he says we are gonna go somewhere but wont tell me where. The suspense is killing me, lol!

 

[Richard49]

I have never had to deal with the kid issue......
My youngest was just a year old when there mother and i split
My son though older was taught what our bedroom door closed meet

However I have a freind who he and his wife took/take a mini vacation once a month......even when they were very poor

There relationships has always been strong

 

[erosman]

Hi there missy,

Long walks...especially if there is weather, like rain or snow.
Holding hands...nowhere in particular...just feeling connected.
Non-sexual cuddling...especially in the morning - skin on skin - talking about dreams and realities.
Phone conversations...prolonged ones where there is mostly an exchange of feelings.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Even though these responses refer to offline, live together, couples, even with my off AND online SO, there are times we just need to relax with each other.

Sometimes it's at night when we both "mike up" but do different things on the net.

My favorite times are the early mornings. Hearing his voice at the start of a day makes that whole day seem better for me.

Unfortunately, lately, the scheduling hasn't worked out very well. Other events "interrupt", or sometimes one of us winds up falling asleep! This weekend he's on the road again.

Wishing we weren't an LDR couple right now!!

 

[MissTaken]

*hugs* Jenny


you have a good point though.

In an LDR, you have to find other ways to make special time together. Surfing the net together can be fun. Using that almighty cell phone and taking your SO with you on a shopping trip or a walk around the neighborhood can bring on some special time.

Anyway, hope things work out a little better for you in the coming week.

 

[LukkyKnight]

Originally posted by MissTaken

Psst: I am not sad or angry, as there were other issues leading to divorce, but in part, time together might have opened communication a bit.

Ain't it so, looking back? There's this curious feedback, and if you get out of phase it withers and crumbles and you find ways to not need each other...

 

[MissTaken]

Ain't it so, looking back? There's this curious feedback, and if you get out of phase it withers and crumbles and you find ways to not need each other...

A hard lesson learned.

 

[Wizard]

Everyday from about 9 or 9:30 to 11 pm ..........We pride ourself on this being our time..........To think talk or what ever we wish....


Also about once a month the kids go to grams for a night which lets us have our night out................To do something fun.......

 

[Laurel]

24/7. I don't think we've been apart for more than two hours in over a year.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

*hugs* Jenny
you have a good point though.

In an LDR, you have to find other ways to make special time together. Surfing the net together can be fun. Using that almighty cell phone and taking your SO with you on a shopping trip or a walk around the neighborhood can bring on some special time.
Anyway, hope things work out a little better for you in the coming week.

Thanks and huggs back, MissTaken!

This week will hopefuly be much better as many things should be resolved..

 

[Chuckus]

Lots of our QT is spent together riding horses or doing things around the house or just *being* on the couch together reading a good book and having a little chit chat in between chapters.

We spend time together with each other whenever we can.

 

[Jimi]

Good Morning, GOOD MORNING!...

To quote a Canadian Pfizer commercial....

This thread deserves a *BUMP* this morning.

It's Friday - gotta do a road trip to Trawna (Toronto, for non-Canadians ), and I'm looking forward to coming BACK to my family, as quickly as possible!

It is really cool how things can change over time...

Thanks MissT... (for the thread, I mean)