LittleSwitchy
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Thanks Wild Honey. I appreciate thatI'm a switch and I started this thread.
If you've got something to say, go ahead and say it, regardless of your label - or lack of.
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Thanks Wild Honey. I appreciate thatI'm a switch and I started this thread.
If you've got something to say, go ahead and say it, regardless of your label - or lack of.
Thanks Wild Honey. I appreciate that
Miss HoneyOf course. And call me Honey - or Miss Honey, if you prefer.
Why would it matter if you're a switch? It doesn't. There's no rule that says switches can't have opinions on matters of FemDom. What is this, middle school?
If you're a human, you get to have an opinion. And you get to share it here.
Carry on.
Miss Honey
It’s just lot of the time a switch doesn’t really fit in.
Miss HoneyPlease elaborate.
Miss Honey
Surely. From my experience at least. Lot of submissives don’t like switches. They feel that a switch is not dominant enough. Then dominants think a switch is going to top from the bottom.
Miss HoneyOnline? Offline?
Give me an example of one of these conversations, please.
Miss Honey
Feel free to DM. We can have a pc conversation about it.
I dipped my toes into lifestyle 15 years ago. I started learning on a now nonexistent website. I’ve been lucky enough to meet some ladies. We started a relationship outside of lifestyle. After we built a trust. I slowly introduced them into the lifestyle.If it's happened to you, it's probably happened to others, and your perspective may be helpful to them.
It hasn't been my experience, but perhaps that's because I'm a woman? Idk.
I will say that almost every man who has told me he IDs as a switch has ended up wanting to bottom to me, rather than top. Which is fine. But there's been a distinct pattern. I feel like many men claiming to be switches aren't, they're just saying that to get their foot in the door. I wish they'd just own their shit and say they're a sub from the get-go. I mean, come on now, I'm not stupid, I can usually smell the sub all over them.
What I'm saying is that I think there's an excellent chance that the subs who are turning you down have perhaps had a similar experience to mine, and if they're not also a switch, then there would be no viable Plan B available.
Ultimately, no one can know what sort of chemistry they will or won't have with another person until they dip their toe in the pool, and anyone with any sense knows that. Switch or not. So either the folks who are giving you a pass are lacking sense (in which case, you've dodged a bullet), or there's something else going on.
Could you be putting too much emphasis on the label itself? I typically don't make a big deal about mine, if I use it at all. I prefer to just answer the question of roles by saying that I like to allow a dynamic to develop organically and see where it takes us.
If by valid you mean online is a resource to read/ learn about lifestyle. I agree it’s a starting point. But that’s where online stops teaching.Online experience is valid. It's how many, many people got started.
Wonderful that you've had rewarding experiences and made lasting friendships.
If by valid you mean online is a resource to read/ learn about lifestyle. I agree it’s a starting point. But that’s where online stops teaching.
People that have never felt an impact toy used on them. They can’t really say…. Ooooo I love a cane/ flogger. Cause it’s a huge difference from mental/ fantasy and in person physical contact.
I’m pretty sure I just ticked off A LOT of people.
If by valid you mean online is a resource to read/ learn about lifestyle. I agree it’s a starting point. But that’s where online stops teaching.
People that have never felt an impact toy used on them. They can’t really say…. Ooooo I love a cane/ flogger. Cause it’s a huge difference from mental/ fantasy and in person physical contact.
I’m pretty sure I just ticked off A LOT of people.
You sound like my kind of DomI feel I'm a very gentle Dom as a woman. I don't do belittling unless my sub enjoys it. I get turned on by my sub getting turned on. Yes I'm a switch also.
I’m 59. I’ve never been dominated, but the thought of a role reversal turns me on. I see my self being treated by a woman who just wants to make me feel good acting as the loving alpha getting me I touch with my feminine side.Welcome - shall we begin?
I have a few questions, but it would be great if the gentlemen chiming in here could give us just the tiniest bit of an intro by way of including their age and how they became interested in FemDom (gentle or otherwise). Thank you!
**How do you see 'Gentle' FemDom being different from the more traditional type of feminine domination?
**Why is it appealing?
**What does a 'gentle' Domme look like to you? How does she behave?
**What do you look for in a GFD relationship? What do you hope to get out of it?
**How do you see it fitting into your life - bedroom only, or lifestyle?
For me it’s all about the role reversal. Being forced to be in a taking Role, sexually. Sometime I tell my wife it feels like I am being transformed into a woman. It’s super hot, for me.I’m 59. I’ve never been dominated, but the thought of a role reversal turns me on. I see my self being treated by a woman who just wants to make me feel good acting as the loving alpha getting me I touch with my feminine side.