Lessons in Flirting

[shy slave]

They probably are, and if you were having problems flirting back, they may have assumed you weren't interested in them. I have no idea how to fix it as I tend to do the same thing. A guy (or girl) comes over and flirts at me my first response is usually something along the lines of "what are talking to ME for?" sigh And it's funny, flirting online can be easier than offline.

Hi snowy

I find flirting on and off line difficult

Ask Marquis I have been perving from afar, yet if you asked him he would say 'Who?'

*sigh*

I hope you all feel sorry for me now lol

edited to add: I have perved over Luna for about a year but at least she figured it out! But now she has Trinque

*another sigh*

 

[Marquis]

Who?

 

[Betticus]

well looks like just listening to those two is lesson enough in flirting.

but Betticus did anyone mention your Uhhh flies are undone????

I hate it when that happens.

 

[Killishandra]

Shy Slave...

Flirting is just a way to capture someone else's interest in you and then to let them know (to whatever degree you want them to know) that you are somewhat interested in them back.

My advice... the type of flirting depends on what you wish to accomplish and how long you have known the person.

If you are meeting someone in a bar for the first time and want to have a quickie in their car 3 hours from now, then by all means flip your hair, bat your lashes, and I'd also suggest making quite a show of how much alcohol you are consuming so that later you have an excuse to get real pervy on him. (Never done this myself, not my scene, but trust me I have seen it done a million times with success.)

On the other hand, sweet shy little slave girl, if you are wondering how to flirt with someone you know relatively well and/or have a lasting interest in...

First of all, forget the hair flipping unless it is tickling your nose (which happens to me all the time, as I have long hair, lol.) Also, batting your lashes too much around someone who knows you will probably result in strange looks or an offer to help you take out your contacts if they are bothering you.

Since the essense of flirting is really just an exchange of interest between two people, IMO the best way to "flirt" is to offer something interesting about yourself for them to ponder, and to find something interesting about them followed immediately by some sort of appreciation for it. People love attention, and people love it when other people find them interesting. If you can find something interesting about both of you that you have in common, you've hit the jackpot. Hopefully, a night of interesting conversation ensues. If this is someone new and you spend more than half an hour talking with him and at the end he doesn't ask for your number, ask for his. Just tell him you'd love to meet for drinks sometime and find out more about his fascinating [insert whatever interest/thing it is here] [don't say penis, even if that's what you've really been thinking about the whole conversation]

If you are looking for something real, offer something real. In the superficial world we live in today most REAL people just want to make a connection with someone else. Find that connection, show your appreciation for it, and let things go naturally from that spot onward. Don't try to change who you are. What works for Dolf won't necessarily work for you, and vice versa. Personally, I hate to see someone trying SO hard to act a certain way... when it is kinda obvious that's not who they are. If I saw Dolf working it at a munch I'd probably think to myself "Hell ya! Look at that girl, she's got game." And if I saw you in a quiet corner monopolizing the attention of just one Dom the whole evening I'd think to myself "Wow, check out shy slave, the girl's got game of her own."

 

[babiesmiles]

IMO the only flirting which really works its unaware flirting .

Stategies are for lawyers and generals .

Nothing works like the natural attitude your whole body assumes when you meet someone you are really interested in .

The face expression changes , the movings are more slow and sensual , eyes take a sideway angle and the voice changes becoming slightly hoarse and low , words are more considered well spaced, hands are like bridges made to shorten distances with uncounscious light elegant touches and your whole being just scream ... "take me ....take me .... I'm the sweetest , naughtiest and more interesting lil thing you'll ever have the luck to bump into ... "

.... obviously its a nature gift ... imitations are like fake boobs ...usually true men (and women ) don't like them !

 

[dolf]

ok, honestly?
i don't think i flirt...i'm just being myself.
be yourself confidently with a smile and people will be intrigued.
you're beautiful, smart, interesting and you have HUGE boobs...what more could a man want

 

[LadyNatasha]

/snip

be yourself confidently

/endsnip

Confidence is more attractive than any bullshit fluff. If you aren't naturally confident, fake it doll. If you're interested in someone then SHOW them you're interested. Ask questions, pay attention closely and intently and show that you're listening to them as well. Don't yes sir them to death, reply intelligently so the conversation has somewhere to go and don't be afraid to use your brain. Sure there are tons of tricks for a quick lay, but if you're truly interested in someone then you need to highlight the things about yourself that you want him to respect.

p.s. Please don't flash your boobs, keep the goods for a special time.

 

[shy slave]

Who?

See ~ I told you so

 

[shy slave]

Shy Slave...

Hopefully, a night of interesting conversation ensues. If this is someone new and you spend more than half an hour talking with him and at the end he doesn't ask for your number, ask for his. Just tell him you'd love to meet for drinks sometime and find out more about his fascinating [insert whatever interest/thing it is here] [don't say penis, even if that's what you've really been thinking about the whole conversation]

Can i say cock, prick, willy or any other name for penis???

If you are looking for something real, offer something real. In the superficial world we live in today most REAL people just want to make a connection with someone else. Find that connection, show your appreciation for it, and let things go naturally from that spot onward. Don't try to change who you are. What works for Dolf won't necessarily work for you, and vice versa. Personally, I hate to see someone trying SO hard to act a certain way... when it is kinda obvious that's not who they are. If I saw Dolf working it at a munch I'd probably think to myself "Hell ya! Look at that girl, she's got game." And if I saw you in a quiet corner monopolizing the attention of just one Dom the whole evening I'd think to myself "Wow, check out shy slave, the girl's got game of her own."

Dolf gets the interesting ones, I get the sad peaople and their life story.
Now who would you rather be!!!!!

 

[Range05]

Shy .. my very first post and just for you. Yep, I know how that must excite you

The things that attract me to a woman:
confidence

personality .. is she laughing, smiling, having a good time or is she looking pissed that something didn't go her way or is she so shy that I'd be afraid that she couldn't handle me.

eye contact .. example: people can usually tell when somebody is staring at them, look at him, he'll look back, smile, divert your eyes down and then back up at me, if I'm interested you'll get a grin or a wink, something to let you know I'm interested

Just because you aren't a natural flirt like dolf, doesn't mean you can't flirt. Act like you know what you're doing, if it backfires, laugh and keep going.

 

[dolf]

Shy .. my very first post and just for you. Yep, I know how that must excite you

The things that attract me to a woman:
confidence

personality .. is she laughing, smiling, having a good time or is she looking pissed that something didn't go her way or is she so shy that I'd be afraid that she couldn't handle me.

eye contact .. example: people can usually tell when somebody is staring at them, look at him, he'll look back, smile, divert your eyes down and then back up at me, if I'm interested you'll get a grin or a wink, something to let you know I'm interested

Just because you aren't a natural flirt like dolf, doesn't mean you can't flirt. Act like you know what you're doing, if it backfires, laugh and keep going.

welcome to lit hon.
i'm not really a flirt...quite the opposite...it's kinda a running joke they have around here

 

[shy slave]

Hi Range05
Welcome to Lit

Thanks for helping me out at my time of need lol

I have watched experts flirt but i just feel like an idiot !

Actually I often feel like an idiot its not a new experience for me lol

And if you believe dolf and her assertion she is not a flirt....God help you , the fish round here are sharks ...beware and have fun x

 

[dolf]

Hi Range05
Welcome to Lit

Thanks for helping me out at my time of need lol

I have watched experts flirt but i just feel like an idiot !

Actually I often feel like an idiot its not a new experience for me lol

And if you believe dolf and her assertion she is not a flirt....God help you , the fish round here are sharks ...beware and have fun x

*hijack* i've seen a yummy bag! very sophisticated...in a tint pink way

 

[graceanne]

On the other hand, sweet shy little slave girl, ...

Excuse me? LOL Hey, dolf! Did you catch that she called shyslave shy?

Killi, honey. Remember - names can be decieving.

 

[graceanne]

welcome to lit hon.
i'm not really a flirt...quite the opposite...it's kinda a running joke they have around here

you don't have to flirt. Men flock to you like bees to honey. It must be your perfume or something.

 

[dolf]

Excuse me? LOL Hey, dolf! Did you catch that she called shyslave shy?

Killi, honey. Remember - names can be decieving.

LOL, she talks to anyone and everyone...i was sitting in the corner all night {ok, i had some company but i was pretty flippin quiet}

if shy is shy then i'm AA

 

[graceanne]

LOL, she talks to anyone and everyone...i was sitting in the corner all night {ok, i had some company but i was pretty flippin quiet}

if shy is shy then i'm AA

You're always quiet. Maybe that's what draws men to you.

It's either that or cause you're gorgeus(sp?)

 

[shy slave]

*hijack* i've seen a yummy bag! very sophisticated...in a tint pink way

A bag ohhhh dolf I love you ....

show me show me ...I am drooling already
God i have so little self control and you all wonder why i find flirting difficult!!!!!

 

[shy slave]

LOL, she talks to anyone and everyone...i was sitting in the corner all night {ok, i had some company but i was pretty flippin quiet}

if shy is shy then i'm AA

YOUR AA!!!!!!!!!

Oh shit I knew you were scary but....not that scary!!!!!

Hey Gracie I CAN be shy!
Really I can!

Ok i admit i, I do talk to anybody after all i talk to you lot

Got you there lol

 

[dolf]

YOUR AA!!!!!!!!!

Oh shit I knew you were scary but....not that scary!!!!!

grrrrrrrrrrr

 

[blue kat]

Your AA impression needs a little work, dolf. Try showing more teeth next time.

 

[dolf]

Your AA impression needs a little work, dolf. Try showing more teeth next time.

next time
i'm already worried enough about this time *gulp*

AA, it wasn't really me...shy hacked my account...you should beat her

 

[blue kat]

How quickly the subbie unity falls apart. You see, this is why the Revolution is failing.

 

[Range05]

welcome to lit hon.

Welcome to Lit

Thank you, I've been lurking for a while, finally decided to start posting.

i'm not really a flirt...quite the opposite...it's kinda a running joke they have around here

.

That's the beauty of it dolf, you don't try.

Why do I find it hard to believe that either one of you would have been sitting in a corner?

 

[Stefani]

IMHO flirting is all about eye contact.