Lectures

[His Flower]

Am I just weird or do any of you also feel the same?

He can whip me, beat me, put me in the corner forever and I wouldn't be able to cry or really "get it". But whenever He starts lecturing me...the tears start flowing, and the next time I decide to act bratty...I'll always remember the lecture.

It's a love/hate relationship I have with lecturing. I hate it, but on the other hand I sort of do love it.

So let me ask you now:

for the subs, how many of you's get lectured, and actually enjoy it, learn from it?

and then

for the Dom/Dommes, how many of you actually give lectures and find them more effective.

Thank you all...



His Flower

 

[serijules]

Punishment and Discipline is a part of my relationship, but the disappointment and lecture are always what is effective. I have to always look at someones face to read their lips and understand them, which is so so hard to do when I'm being lectured. I sulk so badly, LOL.

But yes, it is very effective.

 

[Ebonyfire]

for the Dom/Dommes, how many of you actually give lectures and find them more effective.

I use lectures in My training process.

I like to have my sub sitting in a chair in the middle of the room, while I walk about him, in an every tightening circle relentlessly telling him who and what he is. I tell him what I expect, and I tell him what the consequences of My displeasure. I forbid him to speak, unless it is to acknowledge specific questions. I usually have My riding crop in My hand, and I thump it on the chair, and my his shoulders, and his legs. I occasionally use the end to raise his face so that I may be his eyes when I want to.

It is very effective.

 

[Desdemona]

Lectures are incredibly effective. They hurt worse and leave a more lasting impression than any other form of punishment. His visible and audible disappointment is a better detterent than anything I can think of.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

The quiet voice

Always delivered in a tone and volume barely audible, with eyes that don't blink.

If she drops her eyes, the volume rises slightly and the command voice never fails.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

I guess because i consider myself a switch (and a masochistic one at that)...physical punishment is not nearly as effective on me as a calmly stated, well put, lecture. I can't get into the pain of it...i can't concentrate on a purely physical senstaion. All i can do is watch and listen. It is hurtful to me and there is noway for me to avoid it. And it depends on the circumstances. After all, some words roll off of me...i have walked a dominant's path and probably will again. The words are NOT what affect me. It is the tone, the look...the inability to answer..those get me by the throat and hurt DEEP down. Especially when i have not only let down my *Owner* but myself as well...

PET

 

[Ebonyfire]

lectures as punishment

I see that lectures are used for punishment, and I see that they do have impact. I do not punish, so I use a lecture as a way to give information in a haughty manner. I find it really sends My sub deep into submission. Just the way I like it.

 

[ethereal~minx]

Re: The quiet voice

Always delivered in a tone and volume barely audible, with eyes that don't blink.

If she drops her eyes, the volume rises slightly and the command voice never fails.

this is enough to cease my breathing
wow~~ what an affect!

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

The lecture voice is very controlled and in a certain tone, His voice is never raised. He tends to follow it with a period of ignoring me while we are in the same room together. It works on me better than any corporal punishment, or corner time. I have time to actually think about what He said, and I am feeling so incredibly submissive from the lecture.

He knows EXACTLY what works for me. And that's what it's all about.

~anelize

 

[Croctden]

I don't know I would call it a lecture.

Occasionally if something really needs to be said I'll sit her down and tell her. I don't yell, I'm just honest. I think as long as I'm serious and they know I'm upset the message gets through.

 

[His Flower]

Wow....well...at least I know I'm not the only one who finds this so.

The reason I really started this discussion is because Sir just gave me a BIG lecture the night before. We were on the phone, but I couldn't help feeling guilty, disappointed at myself and unhappy afterwards.

And yeah, He used that quiet steady tone where he's not yelling, but also makes me afraid to speak and interrupt like I so love to do.

His Flower

 

[bunny bondage]

well, it depends. sometimes, i get a lecture which is important and meaningful. but most often, i get lectured about boring stuff like the importance of learning about these obscure artists or how i shouldn't have a "blaz-ay" attitude toward school. all i can do is go "i know, i know, you're right" and try to find something to fidget with.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Smiling with the only eyes only and not saying a word.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

... i shouldn't have a "blaz-ay" attitude ...

or "blah zay?"

 

[cellis]

Lectures are incredibly effective. They hurt worse and leave a more lasting impression than any other form of punishment. His visible and audible disappointment is a better detterent than anything I can think of.

Exactly!

 

[bunny bondage]

or "blah zay?"

i dunno what the word really is, i just know that's how it sounds...

 

[cellis]

for the Dom/Dommes, how many of you actually give lectures and find them more effective.

I use lectures in My training process.

I like to have my sub sitting in a chair in the middle of the room, while I walk about him, in an every tightening circle relentlessly telling him who and what he is. I tell him what I expect, and I tell him what the consequences of My displeasure. I forbid him to speak, unless it is to acknowledge specific questions. I usually have My riding crop in My hand, and I thump it on the chair, and my his shoulders, and his legs. I occasionally use the end to raise his face so that I may be his eyes when I want to.

It is very effective.

I really hate it when He does this!

 

[AngelicAssassin]

i dunno what the word really is, i just know that's how it sounds...

Call it a teasing lecture bb. http://www.lucylasticslair.com/avs/megas/animals/luanimeg131.gif Blasé, and it doesn't really matter.

 

[Netzach]

Like Croctden, if I'm let down, I tell him.

I'm going to marry this guy, if that simple letdown doesn't matter and I need to go through more elaborate rituals than that...I wouldn't be marrying him.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: Lectures

I really hate it when He does this!

I am curious as to why.

 

[Quint]

If he's disappointed, he tells me. He doesn't feel the need to give me a speech about it; if I get it, then I get it immediately and feel remorseful. If I don't get it, he usually tells me to think about it and write him my thoughts from start to finish. By the "finish," I get it.

 

[FungiUg]

i dunno what the word really is, i just know that's how it sounds...

*Chuckle* You're rather blasé about looking up the spelling for words, bunny...

 

[Croctden]

well, it depends. sometimes, i get a lecture which is important and meaningful. but most often, i get lectured about boring stuff like the importance of learning about these obscure artists or how i shouldn't have a "blaz-ay" attitude toward school. all i can do is go "i know, i know, you're right" and try to find something to fidget with.

Who painted "Night Hawks?" I want an answer right now young lady! What was the significance of the battle of Borodino? For whom is the Ruy Lopez named?

 

[bunny bondage]

*Chuckle* You're rather blasé about looking up the spelling for words, bunny...

don't know how it's spelled = can't look it up

the flaw in the dictionary

 

[bunny bondage]

Who painted "Night Hawks?" I want an answer right now young lady! What was the significance of the battle of Borodino? For whom is the Ruy Lopez named?

*bunny's eyes roll back into her head and her tongue lolls out of her mouth*

gaaaaaa.....