This mini article is intended to help ladies increase their desire to have sex, but it could be of equal help to men. Whoever reads it, I wish you the same success I have enjoyed in using this technique myself.
Three years ago I gave birth to a wonderful baby boy. All was happy in my life until I realised something was missing. I no longer wanted sex with my husband. After 2 years of not getting horny, a mountain of hurt feelings on the part of my husband, and a good share of arguments, I decided to do something about it and went to see a sex therapist. After my first session, I was encouraged to bring along my husband. He was reluctant but came nonetheless.
My lack of sexual appetite was caused by us both equally. I had never lost the extra weight after child birth. I felt unnatractive. Being a new mom was also no picnic. I was forever exhausted while still having to cope with a job as a teacher at our local highschool. I became increasingly dejected for a number of reasons. Most importantly, I missed the sensation of feeling horny, and I became paranoid that my husband would look elsewhere if he wasn't being satisfied at home. This caused many an argument, let me tell you. I began to listen intently next to him as he chatted on the phone, became irrate if he was even an hour late from work, checked his pockets obsessively (for what, I have no idea; evidence?), and, worst of all, accused him of cheating on many occaisions. It was really this, more than my diminished sexual interest, that caused me to seek professional advice. Of course, as I mentioned, it wasn't all down to me. My husband accused me of cheating, proclaiming that I was never arroused because I was getting satisfied elsewhere. It got to a point where he would come home and start making advances. I would fend him off, apologising, and he would become dejected and sit infront of the TV ignoring me. So, in our own ways, we both did nothing to help and everything to exacerbate our crumbling sex life.
I want to share with you the technique that solved our problems. In fact, it more than renewed my sexual interest, in only 12 months it has transformed me into a sexual being with an almost insatiable lust. It saved our marriage, gave us back the sex, and actually propelled our sexual activities to heights they never would have reached.
The technique is called The Sex Diary.
We spent a lot of money with a personal sex therapist. She dispenses a mountain of advice. But it was her Sex Diary technique that worked. And it worked so well, I want to give it away here, with the hope of helping and saving some of you kind people your money.
Your Sex Diary
A sex diary is, most importantly, a private thing. You are the only person who will ever read your sex diary. And it is important that you take every precaution to hide and ensure the words on it's pages are kept secret. This wont work, otherwise.
Your Sex Diary is just like any other diary. Every day you make an entry. Can be a few words or pages long. You write - in a positive way - about anything sexual in your life. This can be fantasies, sex you had the night before, sex you saw on tv or heard or read about, the things that turn you on, masturbation, your favorite *********, anything.
Here are a couple of examples. These are not taken from my own Sex Diary because, remember, Sex Diaries must always be a secret.
Example 1
September 26th, 2006 : I Masturbated At Work
The new phys-ed teacher shared a table with me at lunch today. His body looks so taut and muscular. Not handsome but you know every inch of his flesh is firm. Would his manhood be equally impressive? I like to think so. I was wet by the time I was crunching my way through an apple. I excused myself and retreated to a storeroom on the third floor. No one ever uses this room so it is the perfect place to pleasure myself in the day. I closed my eyes and imagined me and Mr Phys-Ed had eloped to the storeroom together. I was massaging my breasts and rubbing my warm kitty through my already damp panties. I reached into my bra and panties at the same time. Caressing my flesh and moaning 'Do me, Mr Phys-Ed, fuck my kitty." Three fingers where now pumping my dripping pussy. Before long I was cumming and shuddering where I stood in the dark and Mr Phys-Ed (my fingers) fucked my pussy with fury. I barely stopped myself from screaming with pleausure.
Example 2
September 27th, 2006 : Fantasy About Getting Caught
I think I have a fetish for wanting to get caught. The idea of being fucked and then a stranger stumbling upon us is such a turn on. Being caught my our poolboy would turn me on. He's about 20 / 21, mexican, almost beautiful for a man. Bri is by the pool, dozing. Poolboy is not around. I walk out naked. I crawl onto Bri and release his flacid penis. I envelope it my my hot mouth. He begins to smile and tell me something. I grab his towel and toss it onto his face. With his face covered I suck his penis and let it harden in my mouth. Earlier I had arranged for the poolboy to come today instead of the next. I notice a shadow and there he is. Bri is unaware. I smile at him around Bri's fully erect penis. Poolboy smiles back and continues to watch. I climb off Bri but keep sucking and get on all fours with my back to Poolboy. I arch my back and display my wet slit glistening in the midday sun. I begin fingering myself and rubbing my swollen clit. I stop a moment to jack Bri whilst turning around to grin at Poolboy. He is jacking his own cock quite unashamedly. He advances to me but I shoo him away. He is just to watch. I blow my Bri and as he clenches in the throws of orgasm and erupts in my mouth, I let out a moan-scream of pleasure and cum against my sticky fingers. I mostion with my head to the Poolboy and he quietly departs.
Those are just quick examples. In truth my own Sex Diary entries are often quite long and full of explicit detail. I believe the more detail, the better!
How To Write Your Own Sex Diary
Write an entry each day. Can be short or long, but you must make a daily entry. If I am ever stuck for inspiration, which doesn't happen often, I just write about a fantasy or talk about how I am looking forward to sucking Bri's manhood later.
Keep your Sex Diary a secret. You need to be completely honest with your sexual feelings and impulses. If we think someone else will read our diary then we are not going to be honest. I keep mine hidden on my mac.
Encourage your partner to keep a diary also. Tell him to read this article if you want. If you both do it, the effects of the technique will happen twice as fast and you wont create a further problem for yourself: that you have far more sexual appetite that him!
Be honest with yourself. Don't censor yourself. No one is going to read your diary. It is even against the law for anyone to read your written words without your permission. You must be honest so you can tap into the core of your sexual being. Writing a Sex Diary is about exploring, journeying into your own sexual country, examining and tasting all it has to offer. I write about things I have yet to admit to my husband, Bri. I may never tell him all of them, but that is ok.
Be secretive about WHEN you write into your diary. There is nothing worse than your partner wandering over to you or calling at work and saying, writing anything juicy, honey? This is a private thing so, just like the contents, the time of writing should also be private.
What Writing A Sex Diary Does To You
I can only speak for myself and Bri. We have sex daily, often several times. It has become as important to us as eating and sleeping.
Writing your diary makes you arroused. I used to get so wet while I was writing, I had to masturbate at the end. Now, I get wet an hour before I go to write.
The act of writing allows you to tap into your sexual self. You literally develop a closer relationship with that part of you that feels sexual arrousal. This closer relationship, therefore, causes you to become more sexually arroused. You also learn more about yourself.
Throughout the day you will catch yourself thinking about your Sex Diary. Maybe you see a nice butt or your husband calls you and his voice is so sexy. You make mental notes to write about them later. And, remember, you are not cheating if you write about that nice butt - just remember that he will be doing the same in his diary (maybe even about the same butt!).
A Last Word
We tried everything to get back my sexual interest, including drugs. In the end, it worked because of our Sex Diaries, I am convinced. It made me horny writing and thinking about writing. It allowed me to develop that closer relationship with my sexual self. Now I am a sexual creature. I get wet and arroused throughout the day and just accept it as part of life.
If you try this and it helps, please do share your experiences!!
Three years ago I gave birth to a wonderful baby boy. All was happy in my life until I realised something was missing. I no longer wanted sex with my husband. After 2 years of not getting horny, a mountain of hurt feelings on the part of my husband, and a good share of arguments, I decided to do something about it and went to see a sex therapist. After my first session, I was encouraged to bring along my husband. He was reluctant but came nonetheless.
My lack of sexual appetite was caused by us both equally. I had never lost the extra weight after child birth. I felt unnatractive. Being a new mom was also no picnic. I was forever exhausted while still having to cope with a job as a teacher at our local highschool. I became increasingly dejected for a number of reasons. Most importantly, I missed the sensation of feeling horny, and I became paranoid that my husband would look elsewhere if he wasn't being satisfied at home. This caused many an argument, let me tell you. I began to listen intently next to him as he chatted on the phone, became irrate if he was even an hour late from work, checked his pockets obsessively (for what, I have no idea; evidence?), and, worst of all, accused him of cheating on many occaisions. It was really this, more than my diminished sexual interest, that caused me to seek professional advice. Of course, as I mentioned, it wasn't all down to me. My husband accused me of cheating, proclaiming that I was never arroused because I was getting satisfied elsewhere. It got to a point where he would come home and start making advances. I would fend him off, apologising, and he would become dejected and sit infront of the TV ignoring me. So, in our own ways, we both did nothing to help and everything to exacerbate our crumbling sex life.
I want to share with you the technique that solved our problems. In fact, it more than renewed my sexual interest, in only 12 months it has transformed me into a sexual being with an almost insatiable lust. It saved our marriage, gave us back the sex, and actually propelled our sexual activities to heights they never would have reached.
The technique is called The Sex Diary.
We spent a lot of money with a personal sex therapist. She dispenses a mountain of advice. But it was her Sex Diary technique that worked. And it worked so well, I want to give it away here, with the hope of helping and saving some of you kind people your money.
Your Sex Diary
A sex diary is, most importantly, a private thing. You are the only person who will ever read your sex diary. And it is important that you take every precaution to hide and ensure the words on it's pages are kept secret. This wont work, otherwise.
Your Sex Diary is just like any other diary. Every day you make an entry. Can be a few words or pages long. You write - in a positive way - about anything sexual in your life. This can be fantasies, sex you had the night before, sex you saw on tv or heard or read about, the things that turn you on, masturbation, your favorite *********, anything.
Here are a couple of examples. These are not taken from my own Sex Diary because, remember, Sex Diaries must always be a secret.
Example 1
September 26th, 2006 : I Masturbated At Work
The new phys-ed teacher shared a table with me at lunch today. His body looks so taut and muscular. Not handsome but you know every inch of his flesh is firm. Would his manhood be equally impressive? I like to think so. I was wet by the time I was crunching my way through an apple. I excused myself and retreated to a storeroom on the third floor. No one ever uses this room so it is the perfect place to pleasure myself in the day. I closed my eyes and imagined me and Mr Phys-Ed had eloped to the storeroom together. I was massaging my breasts and rubbing my warm kitty through my already damp panties. I reached into my bra and panties at the same time. Caressing my flesh and moaning 'Do me, Mr Phys-Ed, fuck my kitty." Three fingers where now pumping my dripping pussy. Before long I was cumming and shuddering where I stood in the dark and Mr Phys-Ed (my fingers) fucked my pussy with fury. I barely stopped myself from screaming with pleausure.
Example 2
September 27th, 2006 : Fantasy About Getting Caught
I think I have a fetish for wanting to get caught. The idea of being fucked and then a stranger stumbling upon us is such a turn on. Being caught my our poolboy would turn me on. He's about 20 / 21, mexican, almost beautiful for a man. Bri is by the pool, dozing. Poolboy is not around. I walk out naked. I crawl onto Bri and release his flacid penis. I envelope it my my hot mouth. He begins to smile and tell me something. I grab his towel and toss it onto his face. With his face covered I suck his penis and let it harden in my mouth. Earlier I had arranged for the poolboy to come today instead of the next. I notice a shadow and there he is. Bri is unaware. I smile at him around Bri's fully erect penis. Poolboy smiles back and continues to watch. I climb off Bri but keep sucking and get on all fours with my back to Poolboy. I arch my back and display my wet slit glistening in the midday sun. I begin fingering myself and rubbing my swollen clit. I stop a moment to jack Bri whilst turning around to grin at Poolboy. He is jacking his own cock quite unashamedly. He advances to me but I shoo him away. He is just to watch. I blow my Bri and as he clenches in the throws of orgasm and erupts in my mouth, I let out a moan-scream of pleasure and cum against my sticky fingers. I mostion with my head to the Poolboy and he quietly departs.
Those are just quick examples. In truth my own Sex Diary entries are often quite long and full of explicit detail. I believe the more detail, the better!
How To Write Your Own Sex Diary
Write an entry each day. Can be short or long, but you must make a daily entry. If I am ever stuck for inspiration, which doesn't happen often, I just write about a fantasy or talk about how I am looking forward to sucking Bri's manhood later.
Keep your Sex Diary a secret. You need to be completely honest with your sexual feelings and impulses. If we think someone else will read our diary then we are not going to be honest. I keep mine hidden on my mac.
Encourage your partner to keep a diary also. Tell him to read this article if you want. If you both do it, the effects of the technique will happen twice as fast and you wont create a further problem for yourself: that you have far more sexual appetite that him!
Be honest with yourself. Don't censor yourself. No one is going to read your diary. It is even against the law for anyone to read your written words without your permission. You must be honest so you can tap into the core of your sexual being. Writing a Sex Diary is about exploring, journeying into your own sexual country, examining and tasting all it has to offer. I write about things I have yet to admit to my husband, Bri. I may never tell him all of them, but that is ok.
Be secretive about WHEN you write into your diary. There is nothing worse than your partner wandering over to you or calling at work and saying, writing anything juicy, honey? This is a private thing so, just like the contents, the time of writing should also be private.
What Writing A Sex Diary Does To You
I can only speak for myself and Bri. We have sex daily, often several times. It has become as important to us as eating and sleeping.
Writing your diary makes you arroused. I used to get so wet while I was writing, I had to masturbate at the end. Now, I get wet an hour before I go to write.
The act of writing allows you to tap into your sexual self. You literally develop a closer relationship with that part of you that feels sexual arrousal. This closer relationship, therefore, causes you to become more sexually arroused. You also learn more about yourself.
Throughout the day you will catch yourself thinking about your Sex Diary. Maybe you see a nice butt or your husband calls you and his voice is so sexy. You make mental notes to write about them later. And, remember, you are not cheating if you write about that nice butt - just remember that he will be doing the same in his diary (maybe even about the same butt!).
A Last Word
We tried everything to get back my sexual interest, including drugs. In the end, it worked because of our Sex Diaries, I am convinced. It made me horny writing and thinking about writing. It allowed me to develop that closer relationship with my sexual self. Now I am a sexual creature. I get wet and arroused throughout the day and just accept it as part of life.
If you try this and it helps, please do share your experiences!!
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