Lactating/ nursing as a kink -- what motivates it?

[FG666]

I'm really curious about the mindset/psychology behind someone wanting to nurse from their partner's breasts. Is it an act of submission or domination? Or it can be both?
Why do you think you like it (either receiving or giving)?
Have you ever considered inducing it if you never have had kids?

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

I’d first ask you, have you ever seen a wife or GF go through the changes during pregnancy? If not, then I think that’s a great place to start. If your SO was flat-chested, during pregnancy she’ll suddenly be gushing forth with filled swollen breasts. If she was already endowed in that department then they become every school boys wet dream!

Now throw in the darkening nipples and of course after the child is born the lactation. It’s hugely fascinating and very erotic! Especially when having sex and as she becomes more aroused the milk leaks all over the place!

It was a heady experience and one I’m glad I witnessed first hand. I hope this answered your question to a degree.

 

[MiaDani80]

My $0.02. I find it incredibly submissive but I think about it as per of a Mommy/sissy relationship. Im 42, male, but was in a relationship a few years ago where I was Mommy’s little panty boy, where I would cuddle into her and suckle her. Extremely erotic for us in that headspace.

 

[FG666]

I’d first ask you, have you ever seen a wife or GF go through the changes during pregnancy?

Thank you so much for your insight! I really never thought it like that at all, and because I have never seen it I had no idea how it can be so erotic. To me it was a much less intense experience, just milk coming out of the nipples when someone is nursing, but there is clearly much more to it. I can now understand it much better.

I find it incredibly submissive but I think about it as per of a Mommy/sissy relationship

It can indeed be either submissive or dominant depending on relationship' dynamics. In my case, where my partner would like to nurse from me, I think I would be in the submissive end, which makes much more sense to me after reading the comment humpdayhoratio made. Yet, I still don't grasp entirely why she would want it from me. Well, I now understand why it is exciting and I can certainly understand it in your case. Your partner controls when you nurse and she is the provider. It's an act of care and domination. Women are often carers, they provide nourishment, they create life, they give love. This can be both an act of domination (as a mommy to their submissive partner) or an act of submission...where the dominant partner takes from the woman as they please, controling how and when they take. In that case the woman has a much more passive role, she is like a "vessel", like a docile, giving creature, wishing to provide her own body to her partner(s) as the major gift she could possibly give. Does this make sense?

 

[cornred58]

Well, sucking on nipples is very sexy and erotic for both partners. If they are producing milk, so much the better. And the milk tastes wonderful.

 

[bhurry]

My $0.02. I find it incredibly submissive but I think about it as per of a Mommy/sissy relationship. Im 42, male, but was in a relationship a few years ago where I was Mommy’s little panty boy, where I would cuddle into her and suckle her. Extremely erotic for us in that headspace.

Manyyears back The wife and I had the relationship for quite some time and went through it. Yes quite erotic.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I was young and naive when I had my daughter. My husband was Luke warm on the pregnancy, but red hot on the pregnancy effect.
I wasn't sharing breasts and milk because they were for the baby (like I said naive)
One night while riding him, I had an epic orgasm and shot milk all over his face and the headboard.

I look back now and ask myself what was i thinking. That one episode was so feminine, arousing, erotic, natural, etc.

 

[FunRock69]

I was young and naive when I had my daughter. My husband was Luke warm on the pregnancy, but red hot on the pregnancy effect.
I wasn't sharing breasts and milk because they were for the baby (like I said naive)
One night while riding him, I had an epic orgasm and shot milk all over his face and the headboard.

I look back now and ask myself what was i thinking. That one episode was so feminine, arousing, erotic, natural, etc.

Sounds like a super sexy time that tends to just keep getting better...Once had a few dates with a woman who was post by a few months...and breastfeeding...and it just happened...We both enjoyed it quite a bit...

 

[Lady2020]

IDK. I see it more as a taboo issue. Nothing new.

 

[FG666]

That one episode was so feminine, arousing, erotic, natural, etc.

Feminine...that makes so much sense. It's something so inherently feminine, so deeply rooted to womanhood, to fertility itself. It does make more and more sense to me that it is something that can be very exciting.

 

[autologous]

I had an ex who was a few years passed feeding her youngest, so she didn't produce much milk, but when she was turned on, her tits would drip just like her pussy and that was so incredibly hot. She was very flat too, which just turned me on even more, seeing those tiny tits dripping because she wanted me was beyond amazing. Never did quite manage to get her pussy and tits to squirt at the same time though.

 

[BSwett060]

To add to the D/s aspect, if the engorged breasts are painful, providing relief by suckling/ wearing, etc the breast milk can be considered caring for the sub…in addition to the fun, sexy, taboo benefits of milk play.

 

[IrisAlthea]

To add to the D/s aspect, if the engorged breasts are painful,

Lactation isn’t a kink of mine,normally.
When I was pregnant though, I read a book about the non-rosy reality of life with a baby.
There was a scene at the beginning of the book where the father of the baby leans over his wife and helps her painfully hand milk because of mastitis, while she cries leaned over the sink.
I was so split between a totally inappropriate reaction and at the same time very much getting the intimacy and the despair of the moment, because it was really well written.

 

[BSwett060]

Lactation isn’t a kink of mine,normally.
When I was pregnant though, I read a book about the non-rosy reality of life with a baby.
There was a scene at the beginning of the book where the father of the baby leans over his wife and helps her painfully hand milk because of mastitis, while she cries leaned over the sink.
I was so split between a totally inappropriate reaction and at the same time very much getting the intimacy and the despair of the moment, because it was really well written.

This. Something that only a woman can relate to, but any caring man can be sympathetic to.

 

[IrisAlthea]

What was the inappropriate reaction?

That post was exactly as explicit as I intended it to be.

 

[hbcacouple]

While nursing, I was jokingly known as Elsie. I produced lots of milk and pumped regularly. We found a number of playmates both male and female who were interested in play. Other's interests ranged from just sucking to being sprayed in the face or other body parts. Those days are gone but, I have pleasant memories.

 

[Keloid57]

I can speak to this a bit! So I had lactation induced as part of hucow play. This involved my breasts being pumped several times a day (like alot) until I started producing milk. While my breasts were simulated I was also simulated sexually as well so that I was conditioned to become turned on from the nipple stimulation. There was almost no nursing, it was simply about the milking process.

This was an incredibly submissive process for me. Being milked in itself is a very primal process and doing so for someone else was an incredible act of submission. Once I started producing milk my breasts grew in size and became slightly more sensitive. I also became dependent on being milked. Since I wasn't breastfeeding as I produced my breasts would fill with milk and would swell up and ache until I was released. Because my only method of release was through my Mistess this gave her alot of power over me that was used go great effect!

Overall, it was an extremely fun process. It was super tedious and took along time and a ton of effort but it ended up with really fun results and alot of very intense BDSM centered play.

May I ask how long it took you to start lactating?

 

[Keloid57]

I don't exactly remember but my mistress said it was slightly faster than she expected. It was a matter of weeks, I think nearly a month. Probably around 3 weeks.

Thank you!

 

[sweettalk4u]

I'm really curious about the mindset/psychology behind someone wanting to nurse from their partner's breasts. Is it an act of submission or domination? Or it can be both?
Why do you think you like it (either receiving or giving)?
Have you ever considered inducing it if you never have had kids?

I think it can just be a desire for intimacy or just private time together. Of course with the deep relaxation it brings, foreplay is always on the menu too.

 

[BackwoodsMama]

I don’t think it has to be either submission or domination. I think it can be a mutually pleasurable act without either associated.

That said, I think it has the ability to play out as either depending on the context of the interaction.

Independently it is an erotic act between two people. I so wish I still had milk.

 

[sweettalk4u]

I don’t think it has to be either submission or domination. I think it can be a mutually pleasurable act without either associated.

That said, I think it has the ability to play out as either depending on the context of the interaction.

Independently it is an erotic act between two people. I so wish I still had milk.

Milk is optional I think. The act itself is just as rewarding in an ANR relationship

 

[Wishingbox]

I miss the days my wife lactated. So amazing and sweet. I think the attraction is this intimate experience of enjoying her fluids for a change. It’s privet it’s not shared with others. There are so many reasons.

She knows I miss it and we’re done having kids. I sometimes fantasize that knowing my desire that she’s ask a lactating friend to let me nurse me while she watched or enjoyed me. Like a milking FMF threesome.

 

[ds42tx]

I'm really curious about the mindset/psychology behind someone wanting to nurse from their partner's breasts. Is it an act of submission or domination? Or it can be both?
Why do you think you like it (either receiving or giving)?
Have you ever considered inducing it if you never have had kids?

Replying to the original poster here's a brief quote:

There are rewards for the woman and her partner in this type of relationship. A couple’s bond deepens as you both spend more quality time together...and when an adult couple can also spend this type of quality time together to hold one another is a true deep emotional experience that few can truly say they have ever had the opportunity to experience. If your relationship is already strong, this can only enhance it to another level.

Originally from The Lactation Wiki.

Additionally for those in the Houston, TX area there is a group of people into the ANR lifestyle.

 

[lanceGibs]

I think it is the kink
Specially if she is the mother of some one else's child .

 

[Travler99921]

One evening my nursing wife told me her breasts were full and asked me if I would like a snack. We had not yet resumed having sex. Of course I said yes. It was a very intimate experience. We repeated the experience several times. I greatly enjoyed it, and so did she. My reaction was to feel a little submissive when I nursed from her.