Kinks We Don't Understand: Small Penis Humiliation (SPH)

[NickCarraway12]

Surmising here, but I think the SPH fetish takes away a man's pressure to be powerful. The woman teasing them is their lover, so they're are sexualizing one of their greatest fears-sexual inadequacy.

When I was 22, I thought I was "all that." My size is great but I was with a girl who was giving me a handjob and I wanted her to tell me how big it was compared to her previous lovers. Little did I know that she had been with a guy who was of the porn-star size and didn't hold back the truth when I asked. She used her hand to measure how much bigger he was than me. Oddly, it turned me on at the time. I remember her whispering in my ear, asking, "Do you like it when I stroke your little cock?" Strangely, we had fun that night.

Sort of. Don't you think?



Oh you HAVE to try it. It's so much fun (and it always makes whatever you were both angry about seem so silly afterwards! )



Let's hope so - but, unfortunately, more than one has admitted to being shamed and humiliated by other guys on here which is so NOT what they're looking for.

Any attention is good attention - that's so true and it's something I think we can all relate to, right? Plus, when you're with the same person for more than a few years, it's fun to spice things up every now and then right?

Hmm, I'm not sure we travel in the same circles Honey. lol - Or at least I've never heard any of my gf's ever mention those "certain circles" lol



You're right.

In a way, catering or focusing on our insecurities makes us a little less insecure about them. At least it does for me. When my husband "complains" about my smallish boobs I know there's some truth it in. But I also know that he loves me (and them!) regardless because he proves it a thousand different ways before, during and after we make love.

 

[ydahecnot]

Why isn’t Clowns posting on this one?

 

[hotoldrguy]

Great thread Honey. I do not understand why anyone would want to be humiliated whether it is SPH or any other type. I would never want to be on either side of it.

I hope that those who enjoy will post on the thread because I really do want to understand what is behind it.

 

[hotoldrguy]

I read through several of the most recent pages in the humiliation thread. Most of what I read seemed more to be about being a sub and being told to do things you may have thought of doing but did not want to take responsibility for doing them. Am I understanding any of it?

 

[Shi_One81]

I saw a photo yesterday and at first glance, I thought it was a micro penis. Ended up being a very large female nipple. * This thread has fucked with my mind.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Great thread Honey. I do not understand why anyone would want to be humiliated whether it is SPH or any other type. I would never want to be on either side of it.

I hope that those who enjoy will post on the thread because I really do want to understand what is behind it.

Thanks! It was Trekka's idea.

Agreed. I hope more folks decide to post, too.

I read through several of the most recent pages in the humiliation thread. Most of what I read seemed more to be about being a sub and being told to do things you may have thought of doing but did not want to take responsibility for doing them. Am I understanding any of it?

Sounds about right.

I will add that many men who appear to be sub on the surface actually just want to be topped. Meaning that they're not submissive, they just enjoy participating in stereotypical 'submissive' activities.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Let's hope so - but, unfortunately, more than one has admitted to being shamed and humiliated by other guys on here which is so NOT what they're looking for.

Hmm, I'm not sure we travel in the same circles Honey. lol - Or at least I've never heard any of my gf's ever mention those "certain circles" lol

I'm disappointed but not surprised to hear that. Perhaps some will reach out via PM to share their stories anonymously.

I was thinking that the women who did enjoy SPH might see the owners of said penises as attractive mates. But you're probably right.

 

[brothertime]

I found I am into it. I never knew I was into SPH till recently. Can’t tell u why I get so turned on when a woman tells me how small I am or compares me to her last bf. I get hard almost instantly. Any woman want to talk about it I am always open to talk about it or anything else

 

[jaybee994]

my explination on sph

as i have a innie when it cold the head retracts inside full errection a thin 3"add to that i dribble and have never spurted and as i have been told a lot less than most men.. enough on to my understanding of it

as a yound boy in my pre and early teens i was never really intrested in the photos and the nude women in magazines but i was attracted to the storys. i loved the ones where their was a underdog. this grew to me being the underdog but at that time i did not know about sub and doms so i just explored it all. then i got married and i learnt a lot more as was cross dressing and doing all the house wrok and i got good at oral so i am told hehehe.
as with all games of the mind they work for so long then you have to push them on a bit. an so i read a story about sph and wow.
for me as a sub over the years i have taken all forms of humillation and enjoyed 90% eithier public or private. just being submissive is a humilation or we would all shout it from the roof tops but no we keep it hidden and would be mortified if a macho male friend knew the truth.. so sph is just a extension of that nothing to get all excited about any more than i wear female undies... enjoy and stop worrying i say...
it is no more harmfull than the humilation of being a sub....
have fun all and stay safe...

 

[minthe]

First off, I would never want to humiliate someone who did not want it. I do not like humiliation in any sense of the word directed towards me. That is a game killer. But... saying things like, "I bet you can't make me gag," turns me on. Telling him to stick a finger in me while he fucks me, so I can feel it better... yep. I don't think I have ever really thought about it until now. Don't get me wrong. I love big dick. I could probably humiliate a big dick, if it really wanted it as well.

 

[Gunit56]

Am new here and currently in the middle of a sub/SPH weekend, wife will appease me on occasion but I love her dominating me inclusive of SPH. She has with coaxing relayed her previous exploits with much bigger penises than mine, 1.5 to fully retracted when flaccid 4.5 when erect, truly "the smallest I have ever had!". I do get off on her domination and humiliation of me. Married 37 years and find it difficult to get her to buy in for more than a few days at a time. She is reluctant to be mean/harsh/dominating on a consistent basis.

 

[Miles Long]

And is this the official theme song for this kink?

Why do I feel like this was your jam in high school?

 

[LizVegas79]

Surmising here, but I think the SPH fetish takes away a man's pressure to be powerful. The woman teasing them is their lover, so they're are sexualizing one of their greatest fears-sexual inadequacy.

When I was 22, I thought I was "all that." My size is great but I was with a girl who was giving me a handjob and I wanted her to tell me how big it was compared to her previous lovers. Little did I know that she had been with a guy who was of the porn-star size and didn't hold back the truth when I asked. She used her hand to measure how much bigger he was than me. Oddly, it turned me on at the time. I remember her whispering in my ear, asking, "Do you like it when I stroke your little cock?" Strangely, we had fun that night.

I'm disappointed but not surprised to hear that. Perhaps some will reach out via PM to share their stories anonymously.

I was thinking that the women who did enjoy SPH might see the owners of said penises as attractive mates. But you're probably right.

It's a shame that some guys who are into SPH can't come on here and be appreciated by those of us who would very much enjoy humiliating/appreciating them. I hope that they will still pop in here from time to time, or, like you say Honey, take a chance with a PM.

My husband is way too big for my butt unless I'm ready for it. So for that reason I've really enjoyed being with much smaller guys because it's easier to have more spontaneous sex.

"Aww, I appreciate you asking permission first, sweetie. But with that small little twinkie of yours you really don't need to."

 

[OrLaTime]

It's a shame that some guys who are into SPH can't come on here and be appreciated by those of us who would very much enjoy humiliating/appreciating them. I hope that they will still pop in here from time to time, or, like you say Honey, take a chance with a PM.

My husband is way too big for my butt unless I'm ready for it. So for that reason I've really enjoyed being with much smaller guys because it's easier to have more spontaneous sex.

"Aww, I appreciate you asking permission first, sweetie. But with that small little twinkie of yours you really don't need to."

Suddenly I want a really small cock
I know where my Twinkie would be
(Tootsie rolls are smaller)

 

[blade_rocknut]

I can't really wrap my head around any of the humiliation fetishes. I guess folks thusly afflicted can turn the condition into a kink from which enjoyment may be derived.
Whatever, I guess. I spent enough years on Fetlife to grasp the concept of "your kink is not my kink", and that's OK.

I would never be comfortable humiliating anyone. Been bullied plenty in my youth...no thanks.

I despise when people conflate kinks and stereotypes such that they think because we have criteria A in common, they assume my life is congruent to theirs.

There's a lot of overlap across SPH, femdom, CFNM, crossdressing, cuckold/ hotwife, and sissy fetishes.
I don't mind anyone being into any of those, but don't assume I am because I like dresses and heels.

 

[baseballGeek]

It's a shame that some guys who are into SPH can't come on here and be appreciated by those of us who would very much enjoy humiliating/appreciating them. I hope that they will still pop in here from time to time, or, like you say Honey, take a chance with a PM.

My husband is way too big for my butt unless I'm ready for it. So for that reason I've really enjoyed being with much smaller guys because it's easier to have more spontaneous sex.

"Aww, I appreciate you asking permission first, sweetie. But with that small little twinkie of yours you really don't need to."

Hey Liz
I have what I believe is an average size cock but love SPH. For me I believe it's being on the other side of the power spectrum. I have a strong personality and to be with a woman who makes me feel weak or submissive is a huge turn on. If you or any of the other ladies who enjoy humiliating a guy over his inadequate dick size feel free to PM me

 

[whenagain]

-sheepishly raises hand-

Do love SPH.
Some of it has to do with submissive tendencies, some with eroticizing my own insecurities, but a lot is the idea of a confident, sexually voracious woman who loves big dick. Who isn’t afraid to put you in your place.
I’ve seen sph done cruelly, gently, comically. It’s a surprisingly versatile kink for one so specific.

 

[y=mx+b]

I think it's is similar to that of women who have a thing for being the subject of tribute pics.


Not exactly similar
Perhaps a different chapter of the same book.

 

[LizVegas79]

-sheepishly raises hand-

Do love SPH.
Some of it has to do with submissive tendencies, some with eroticizing my own insecurities, but a lot is the idea of a confident, sexually voracious woman who loves big dick. Who isn’t afraid to put you in your place.
I’ve seen sph done cruelly, gently, comically. It’s a surprisingly versatile kink for one so specific.

I think you're totally right Whenagain. It IS a surprisingly versatile kink. For both women and guys sometimes. And it doesn't have to be hurtful at all. It can be gentle. And it can definitely be comical.

I was so bad last night. After I got to work, I couldn't stop thinking about some of the things people have shared yesterday (and previously) on this thread.

It was a relatively slow night so I started a conversation with one of my co-workers as we were watching the action on the casino floor. I pointed out a nice looking 40-ish guy having fun but being a little loud while he was on a mini roll at the craps table. I asked her, "So what do you think? Big dick or little dick?"

We ended up playing that game most of the rest of the night and it didn't take long before the cocktail waitresses and some of the female dealers on break were in on our rolling conversation too.

The small penis stories came one right after the other and by the end of the night all our cheeks hurt from grinning and laughing so much. (a couple of dealers and two bartenders who are gay joined in our convo too)

We were really awful but I didn't expect it to be so much fun!

As someone who went thru the first half of her life with barely much more than mosquito bites for boobs, I can sympathize with the humiliation guys with small penises must feel sometimes. But, in a weird way, it's sort of hot too.

I remember how turned on I use to get whenever a guy would say to me stuff like "For a chick with small tits you're really hot". I should have been pissed and told him to get the fuck off of me right? But I never did. I always smiled, probably even blushed, and made him fuck me even harder.

The human brain is the biggest sex organ men AND women have. Bigger than the biggest dick. Bigger than the biggest set of boobs.

Tease the brain enough and you can enjoy just as many orgasms as anyone else!

That's my philosophy anyways. Hope that doesn't offend anyone.


https://www.sex.com/pin/21270086-how-is-your-dick-that-small/

https://www.sex.com/pin/21270086-how-is-your-dick-that-small/

I think it's is similar to that of women who have a thing for being the subject of tribute pics.


Not exactly similar
Perhaps a different chapter of the same book.

I don't get the connection - can you explain what you mean (either here or in a PM)?

 

[LizVegas79]

This gif so needs audio, right?

https://www.sex.com/pin/56246289-she-looks-at-his-little-white-dick-and-puts-him-in-his-place/

This one could use it too, though the look on her face does sort of say it all.

https://www.sex.com/pin/50716663-her-txt-hey-chris-just-sending-you-this-pic-of-you-passed/

Love her shoes. I have a pair just like them that I wear all the time!

 

[LizVegas79]

Sorry guys, I know I'm getting a little carried away with this now but I just can't help it!


https://xhamster.com/photos/gallery/12693628/324040088

 

[LizVegas79]

In all honesty, though, isn't it just power dynamic play? Dicks are equated with virility and masculinity. Guys, who have to be in control all of the time and have stressful jobs, enjoy letting go sometimes, and for some, humiliation is that perfect vehicle. Saying a guy's dick is small is, in many ways, the ultimate way to assert dominance.

Agreed 1,000%.

My husband loves when I tell him he has a small penis (he doesn't at all and he knows it). He knows I'm in one of my moods and just plays along though. When he apologizes for it and asks me to forgive him I absolutely melt on the inside but try to stay in uber-bitch-mode character. It's not always easy though!

 

[Wife of Bath]

I think it's is similar to that of women who have a thing for being the subject of tribute pics.


Not exactly similar
Perhaps a different chapter of the same book.

I disagree with this. As someone who....knows someone who likes tribute pics... I find that particular kink to be about pride, not humiliation. How is someone being able to climax while looking at your photo humiliating? It’s not. It’s like a shot of endorphins right in the exhibitionist brain.

 

[y=mx+b]

I disagree with this. As someone who....knows someone who likes tribute pics... I find that particular kink to be about pride, not humiliation. How is someone being able to climax while looking at your photo humiliating? It’s not. It’s like a shot of endorphins right in the exhibitionist brain.

Fair enough
But that's a view through the eye of an exhibitionist

 

[Lord Pmann]

How come small vagina humiliation doesn’t work the same?