Karma/Negativity

[calypso_21]

Think about this theory...what you put out you will get in return...your actions determine how you will be affected by other's actions.

So if you believe in Karma, why the hell would you insist upon being negative and putting people down? Nit picking over how people look, how someone may post, how many spelling mistakes someone makes? Really how "nice" is it to be critical and condescending?

The negative words and emotions that are put out on a daily basis goes a long way to explaining why so many people are constantly whining. Their lives are not what they want them to be and therefore look to others to tear them down in some manner throwing the heat off themselves.

Just some thoughts. Its late. What can I say.


Do you believe in Karma? Do you believe what goes around comes around?

 

[Guest]

*nods*

and for some..I hope karma bites them in the ass.

 

[Eve32]

I know I *want* to believe that what comes around, goes around. I know I *want* to believe that positive energy is a real thing and can affect how we live and what happens in our lives.

But I think it's more likely a self-fulfulling prophesy - mind over matter.

The world is beyond me. Who knows for sure?

 

[modest mouse]

Karma is for weak people. You should behave the way you want because you think it correct, not because you are avoiding bad karma.

You should find fault with the conduct of others because you feel it is incorrect or harmful, not because you judge it to be bad karka and it will gat them in the end.

Karma is the glaring error in casual Buddhist thought.

 

[Lost Cause]

Yeppers!

It begins when you start the day, with a smile or frown you bring the karma that follows your path. "Self actualization" or "Self fulfilling prophecy," whatever you want to call it, it's real.

 

[Riles]

I have mixed emotions on this. As Cleo said, I'd like to believe that people get their "just desserts", but 9 times out of 10 I think they get away with it.

Comeuppance is a word I love, and would dearly love to see more of, here and in real life. But the sad truth of the matter is that the good guys finish last, plain and simple.

 

[calypso_21]

...You should behave the way you want because you think it correct...

You should find fault with the conduct of others because you feel it is incorrect or harmful, not because you judge it to be bad karka and it will gat them in the end.

Really I agree with the first part. People like to attribute reasons for their actions or inactions and Karma seems to be a good excuse.

I am curious as to why people feel the NEED to find fault with others?

 

[Cibo]

Nah, I don't belive in Karma. But I do belive what comes around goes around.

 

[modest mouse]

I am curious as to why people feel the NEED to find fault with others?

Poor wording on my part.

I'm saying that if you do find fault it should be fore the reasons that I mentioned, not that you should actually look for fault.

***

Karma is just Heaven witha different name. If you do bad something will get you. If you do good you will be rewarded. Thats not being of strong moral character, its being scared.

 

[Eve32]

I am curious as to why people feel the NEED to find fault with others?

Simple answer, IMHO. Insecure people find fault with others to make themselves feel more secure. If you feel you have the power to put someone down, you feel more powerful. It's a false power, but for some people, the illusion is enough.

How many times can I use the word "power" in a paragraph? *grin*

 

[cowgirl heaven]

I am curious as to why people feel the NEED to find fault with others?

To make them feel better about themselves. Some idiots think if they put someone else down they will look better in others eyes.

To late to realize that they really are the jackass themselves

 

[calypso_21]

I know I *want* to believe that what comes around, goes around. I know I *want* to believe that positive energy is a real thing and can affect how we live and what happens in our lives.

But I think it's more likely a self-fulfulling prophesy - mind over matter.

The world is beyond me. Who knows for sure?

Mind over matter? I have to say that I have found positive energy to be a real thing and has affected my life. It has completely turned around for the better. It is amazing what happens when you let go of fear, the urge to be critical, the nasty thoughts, the stress...etc. Tough to do but amazing when it happens!

 

[calypso_21]

I have mixed emotions on this. As Cleo said, I'd like to believe that people get their "just desserts", but 9 times out of 10 I think they get away with it.

Comeuppance is a word I love, and would dearly love to see more of, here and in real life. But the sad truth of the matter is that the good guys finish last, plain and simple.

I don't truly believe this. I think the good guys get what they are meant to receive at the appropriate time!

I got tired of wishing people got what was coming to them...too much of my precious time wasted on other people who don't deserve any attention from me.

 

[Lost Cause]

How about "Character?"

Defined by some as the good things you do when no one is looking.

 

[cybergirly]

I'm not sure I really believe in Karma, I do however believe that you get back what you put out. If you walk around with a negative attitude that's how people are going to treat you. The same is true if you walk around even appearing to be happy. Smile at a stranger they'll smile back 9 times out of 10.

 

[calypso_21]

Poor wording on my part.

I'm saying that if you do find fault it should be fore the reasons that I mentioned, not that you should actually look for fault.

***

Karma is just Heaven witha different name. If you do bad something will get you. If you do good you will be rewarded. Thats not being of strong moral character, its being scared.

Not poor wording...it helped with what I was getting at.

Is it me or does fear seem to control many people??

 

[Kitte]

I completely believe in Karma... you get what you give... I think many people forget that even the smallest things we do echo throughout our lives and they let their own bitterness cloud the things they may say and do...but that is their lot in life I guess.. someone has to have the bad karma

 

[calypso_21]

Simple answer, IMHO. Insecure people find fault with others to make themselves feel more secure. If you feel you have the power to put someone down, you feel more powerful. It's a false power, but for some people, the illusion is enough.

How many times can I use the word "power" in a paragraph? *grin*

True very true...(I got the power point)

It is a shame that people are built up when they tear others down.

 

[modest mouse]

someone has to have the bad karma

Actually I think what Calypso is trying to say is that if you try to establish a more positive life, more positive things will happen to you. That your outlook will be enhanced and your life naturally looks and becomes more enjoyable.

Its not a ying/yang thing but rather a determining of how one passes their days.

 

[Eve32]

Re: How about "Character?"

Defined by some as the good things you do when no one is looking.

More people need to have true character. Good point, Lost Cause.

 

[calypso_21]

Re: Yeppers!

It begins when you start the day, with a smile or frown you bring the karma that follows your path. "Self actualization" or "Self fulfilling prophecy," whatever you want to call it, it's real.

Frankly I don't think it "starts" just when you begin your day...it started a long time ago. Not as in predestination but a long time ago in this life...you merely add to it everyday. But I do tend to agree with your comments. You do take everything you think and do with you everywhere you go.

 

[Shingen]

Right on calypso! You're one of the few people who actually "gets" it.

Karma and "positivity" are a way of life for me. Although I'm no saint, I believe in the whole concept and live a much happier life because of it.

I see so much hate/negativity in this world, that it gets depressing. I can't change the world, but I can change the way I live in it...

 

[calypso_21]

To make them feel better about themselves. Some idiots think if they put someone else down they will look better in others eyes.

To late to realize that they really are the jackass themselves

Do you have some strong feelings on this hun?

 

[calypso_21]

Re: How about "Character?"

Defined by some as the good things you do when no one is looking.

Character? If no one is looking how can they tell anything about one's character?

 

[calypso_21]

I'm not sure I really believe in Karma, I do however believe that you get back what you put out. If you walk around with a negative attitude that's how people are going to treat you. The same is true if you walk around even appearing to be happy. Smile at a stranger they'll smile back 9 times out of 10.

I read a book a number of years ago about invalidation and validation. My step-mother used it to piss my father off. She didn't quite get the concept of the book or maybe she did and it was intentional on her part...anyway.

It talked about how there are people who need to invalidate on a regular basis and these people have miserable or let's say not quite the lives they really want. Then there are those who validate, not only others but themselves. They don't put themselves down. They have a positive outlook all around.

I found myself looking at people closely after reading this book and was shocked to find so many people who invalidate vs the few who validate. It was kind of sad really.


True about the smiling at strangers...I've never had someone NOT smile back.