Jealousy

[alisonwunderlnd]

I was talking about this just today.And I wanted to see what everyone thought about it.Has jealousy ever ruined a relationship you had?Ever had an SO that was jealous of even your friends?Family?Please,,post anything you wish about jealousy,stories,quotes,,what you think about it.

 

[kds73]

trouble

The father of my children is a very jeolous man. It caused a lot of problems for me and was one of the deciding factors in our breakup. I never gave him reason to distrust me, but he was CONSTANTLY jeolous of the men I work with and anyone that took up my time. He would freak out if I didn't answer the phone when he called...because I had to be talking to some other guy...it is really REALLY annoying and totally insulting. I will not, under any circumstances deal with an overly jeolous man again...bump that..***** it too short and if he can't trust me then he can take a walk.

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

The father of my children is a very jeolous man. It caused a lot of problems for me and was one of the deciding factors in our breakup. I never gave him reason to distrust me, but he was CONSTANTLY jeolous of the men I work with and anyone that took up my time. He would freak out if I didn't answer the phone when he called...because I had to be talking to some other guy...it is really REALLY annoying and totally insulting. I will not, under any circumstances deal with an overly jeolous man again...bump that..***** it too short and if he can't trust me then he can take a walk.

I agree.I think most of it comes down to trust.I am very veryyyy picky about who I share my heart with,And if the person is that special to me..then trust would never be an issue .I trust until i am given reason to NOT any any longer.At that point,the relationship is pretty much fucked.I HATE jealousy and cant have it poison a love I would wish to share with someone.

 

[kountrygirl]

Another woman at Lit is having this problem. She has occasional jealousy issues over a man she is involved with. She says it's not the flirting but his cool attitude toward her which triggers her insecurity. In other words, if he treated her with significance, the others wouldn't matter.
I told her to drop the guy, but she's infatuated.

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

Another woman at Lit is having this problem. She has occasional jealousy issues over a man she is involved with. She says it's not the flirting but his cool attitude toward her which triggers her insecurity. In other words, if he treated her with significance, the others wouldn't matter.
I told her to drop the guy, but she's infatuated.

I agree with this somewhat as well.Some people,,will just be jealous,,NO matter how wonderfully they are treated.NOT saying your friend is like this at AT ALL.Just wanted to add that.
But yes...it can make a difference.If both people are treated with love,kindness and respect,,jealousy can be less likely to happen.I had a boyfriend,,and he was just BEAITIFUL.Sexy,,,he could have been an underwear model,BUT he was jealous as hell.Jealous of time i spent mith my friends,family,time spent doing things I enjoy.Everything.And he killed the relationship.I never got why he was that way over every single thing.

 

[kountrygirl]

This is a timely topic. I pm'd her to read it. She spends too much time crying over this guy. His attitude toward her has changed, but he says nothing is wrong.
Again, I say get him gone. There are lots of other fish to fry. It's like talking to a brick wall.

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

This is a timely topic. I pm'd her to read it. She spends too much time crying over this guy. His attitude toward her has changed, but he says nothing is wrong.
Again, I say get him gone. There are lots of other fish to fry. It's like talking to a brick wall.

awwww,,poor girl.I always feel badly for people who are having trouble with love.I hope that she can find some peace or understanding about it.

 

[Skoobi]

OMG! That sucks.

 

[done_got_old]

I thought about this for a while before posting. The men I dated who were jealous didn't last long. It's not a good foundation on which to build a relationship. I've always had a lot of male friends. It never caused problems for men who were secure. Then again, I never hid our friendhip from them.

 

[virgin_not]

Being over possesive is being clingy, jealousy is normal in every relationship but not to the extent that you holding him/her that you can't breathe no more.

Give each other space to breathe; let her/him have a life of her own. You shouldn't have to be the center of her/him life constantly. That’s known as being “clingy,” and it drains her/him energy, and makes her/him grow tired of you.

Give her/him the gift of missing you! Make her/him wonder where you are and if you're thinking about her/him. Let HER/HIM be the jealous one!

 

[au_man]

Great topic... I see it here on the BB all the time and in r/l too.

I do a bit of cybering at different threads and have permission at home, but some become "possesive" if they cyber with one who then cybers with others...

Odd that they can't enjoy the encounter and just move on to the next.

Last night after a very well written story at the Motel even my wife had a bad case.

Someone half way across the country that I will never meet in r/l, but none the less...

Makes no sense to me, but people have their insecurities. Combine that with emotional immaturity and neediness and even on a porn board, reality upsets the fun.

I find it childish and annoying...

 

[mrtnmoon]

I find it childish and annoying...

of course you do... you're the one that's doing all the cybering. lol.

 

[au_man]

of course you do... you're the one that's doing all the cybering. lol.

Gawd I do love your wit...

Tis the double edged sword too... Supply and demand.

I only have so much time to share...

 

[asian_princess]

Until recently, i thnk the only time i felt any twinge of jealousy was when that bitch Amy Jennings got the bigger Astro Boy blow up doll than i did. And this has often irked my partners...who then upped the flirting ante...just to get a rise out of me ( not my kind of role reversal )...but i was always of the school, that jeaousy springs from distrust of your partner...and if you want me to be jeaous... then you're probably giving me reason to not trust you.
But lately, and so unlike me, I've found a bit of a startling trend... i've become fixated on my partners' exes ( i spelled it right this time, ZZ ). I don't know if it's because i want to know who I'm being compared to...or if it's just ...because they are the people who at one point held the affections of my partner...and once loved...will always be loved.
Lol fixated, though, for me, means think about for 5 mins..before my A.D.D kicks in and ...hey...pretttttttttttttttttty

 

[Dumpling]

`Just cum to say "HI" & leave Hugs & es
for {{{{Alison}}}

 

[omahaman2]

What is this thing,jealousy?