Jealousy: Is It A Problem For You?

[juicylips]

Is your partner the jealous, possessive type?

Or

are you the one that has to handle those feelings?

Do you experience it even with a relationship that is online only?

Has jealousy ever destroyed a relationship you have had?

How do you deal with this?

Cassidy

 

[seXieleXie]

weirdly, i am not a jealous person in a relationship. sometimes i feel like i should be. i mean, i'm not that great. my hold over my significant other isn't that strong. shouldn't i worry about it?

but i don't. maybe because it's not something i can control. maybe because nothing good can come from that emotion. who knows. *shrug*

 

[Guest]

 

[lovetoread]

Is your partner the jealous, possessive type?

Yes he is.

are you the one that has to handle those feelings?

I get extremely jealous over him,but I try not to let him know about it.

Do you experience it even with a relationship that is online only?

Only my with current one.

Has jealousy ever destroyed a relationship you have had?

Yes sort of. It wasnt the jealousy itself,it was that the jealousy was the last straw.

How do you deal with this?

Told him I wanted out of the marriage.

 

[Debbie]

Is your partner the jealous, possessive type?
No

Or

are you the one that has to handle those feelings?
No, I trust my hubby. He looks at the menu but sups from one table only.

Do you experience it even with a relationship that is online only?
No

Has jealousy ever destroyed a relationship you have had?
Yes

How do you deal with this?
Cassidy

My ex was so consumed by the fact that I may have been exactly like his first girlfriend,(she slept with two of his brother's and his Dad *ICK* If only I had known what I was getting myself into) that he 'tarred' me with the same brush. All women slept around according to him.
He became so possessive that he would watch my every move. In the end this 'obssession' took over his life, he was with me almost every moment of the day. Monitoring what I did, who I saw, what I said, what I wore, who my friends were. Then the jealousy developed into FULL obsession.
When we split up, he would walk around my house, follow me in his car... etc

I am not a jealous person, I trust unless I have proof otherwise. BUT with my hubby now, I have had an experience where another woman who was inebriated, (when we were dating) has tried to "feel" him up. You know, ladies, the,"Oh but you feel so strong. Such muscles. etc " (His arm! You pervs. *grin*) I wanted to rip her another arsehole but constrained myself.
I trust him completely.

 

[seXieleXie]

Re: Re: Jealousy: Is It A Problem For You?

with my hubby now, I have had an experience where another woman who was inebriated, (when we were dating) has tried to "feel" him up. You know, ladies, the,"Oh but you feel so strong. Such muscles. etc " (His arm! You pervs. *grin*) I wanted to rip her another arsehole but constrained myself.
I trust him completely.

well that's justified jealousy debbie. i mean, if she was feeling him up right there in front of you.... for goodness' sake, she's handling YOUR good there. that's just not right!

 

[TigerClaw]

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[Debbie]

well that's justified jealousy debbie. i mean, if she was feeling him up right there in front of you.... for goodness' sake, she's handling YOUR good there. that's just not right!

I felt that at the time. But also felt that he should be the one going, uh, 'Scuse me? I don't think so. Let go of my arm and feel your own man.'
LOL At the time I thought she was pumping his muscular, upper arm in the hope that it would turn him on. But looking back now? She was very drunk. I, was horny and sober. I had only been dating him for a week. My reaction was fairly normal. I AM DATING HIM FUCK OFF! LOL
Now if this scenario happened again? Uh it would give new meaning to the Silence of the Lambs video pg rating. Like uh, "V V W V D" (Very violent with very violent death) Oh yes, I trust him. I love him. But heaven help any woman who tries it on with him and I catch her.
Hubby isn't mine. I don't own him.
Jealousy is a hard emotion to deal with. But I don't share well nor do I want to.
If he decided to leave me for another woman, I would deal with it and leave them to it.
I would be sad. But not jealous. It would be his loss, not mine. I mean possession is 9 tenths of a bitch! I just ain't a bitch.

 

[Orlanth]

Is your partner the jealous, possessive type?

Or

are you the one that has to handle those feelings?

Do you experience it even with a relationship that is online only?

Has jealousy ever destroyed a relationship you have had?

How do you deal with this?

Cassidy

Well, with me and my partner, it would be both of us.

The jjealousy hasn't destroyed any of my relationships, but it has hurt both myself and my partner.

Be awear of the green-eyed monster!

 

[Orlanth]

Oh, and jealousy is there for both my partner and myself, if it is a RL Reltionship or Internet.

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: Re: Jealousy: Is It A Problem For You?

Be awear of the green-eyed monster!

Yikes! Your av eyes look yellow to me! But definitely a monster.
I wonder if you got that thing at the same site Xander got his monster (old av) head?

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Is your partner the jealous, possessive type?
Or
are you the one that has to handle those feelings?
Do you experience it even with a relationship that is online only?
Has jealousy ever destroyed a relationship you have had?
How do you deal with this?
Cassidy

I had been the jealous one for a couple of decades of my life, and it caused a lot of pain (mostly to myself) and almost cost me a couple of close friendships. Fortunately, I have grown enough to realize the dangers of this "green eyed monster" and have learned the value of "trust" with those that are dear to me now.

I still experience the occasional "pangs" of jealousy, both with online and offline relationships, but I have finally learned to "let it go", learning all too well from my past how important it is to trust my loved ones and respect myself enough not to be possessive of them.

 

[Orlanth]

Re: Re: Re: Jealousy: Is It A Problem For You?

Yikes! Your av eyes look yellow to me! But definitely a monster.
I wonder if you got that thing at the same site Xander got his monster (old av) head?

Nope, I just got it tonight, about 2 hours ago, I think.

 

[Juspar Emvan]

I'm the jealous type. Though not hugely so. On the one hand I trust my girlfriend implicitly, on the other I feel somewhat unworthy. Go figure.

She's a little possesive too, just a little, and it's nice rather than destructive, gives me warm fuzzies to know I'm that important to her.

 

[Scabbers]

are you the jealous, possessive type?
yes
Do you experience it even with a relationship that is online only?
yes
Has jealousy ever destroyed a relationship you have had?
yes
How do you deal with this?
massive quantities of alcohol

Trying to tell me something, Cass?










(See, I'm so insecure, I just assume this thread is directed at me.)

 

[Guest]

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[juicylips]

are you the jealous, possessive type?
yes
Do you experience it even with a relationship that is online only?
yes
Has jealousy ever destroyed a relationship you have had?
yes
How do you deal with this?
massive quantities of alcohol

Trying to tell me something, Cass?

Nope. Just posting a little innocent thread

I have to admit, I am quite surprised you are the jealous type. I thought you would be a love 'em and leave 'em kind of guy

Cassidy










(See, I'm so insecure, I just assume this thread is directed at me.)

 

[Scabbers]

Re: Re: Jealousy: Is It A Problem For You?

I have to admit, I am quite surprised you are the jealous type. I thought you would be a love 'em and leave 'em kind of guy

Damn! Caught with my emotions hanging out!

 

[Cloak38]

yup

Yes, early in the relationship I can be possessive. I guess that comes from being a little insecure about the relationship and the fact I can't read the ladies mind.

I don't think it has ever destroyed a relationship.... I have other ways of doing that.

I seem to be mellowing with age...so I figure I'll have a handle on it by the time I'm eighty or so...

 

[alltherage]

Is your partner the jealous, possessive type?My ex-husband was so jealous he became jealous over a situation he created

Or

are you the one that has to handle those feelings?I get jealous I think. Not to an unhealthy degree.

Do you experience it even with a relationship that is online only?No

Has jealousy ever destroyed a relationship you have had?My marriage

How do you deal with this?Shot the bastard. lol. Na. Just divorced.

Cassidy

 

[kiwiwolf]

I never have any problem with jealousy. No matter what stage of a relationship I am in, I don't hold ownership papers on anyone. By the same token, nobody has any hold over me except the self imposed code of behaviour I have. I wouldn't do anything to hurt any partner, so they sure as hell better not do anything to hurt me.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

I 'AM' Jealousy.

I am jealous of every and anything. If you can do somthing better then me.... I hate you. If you have something I want.... I hate you. You touch of look at something that is mine and you don't have..... I'll hit you and scream.

How do I deal with it? It's a part of life, I accept it and try not to let it get in the way.

 

[luv2tvl69]

I really would like to shoot that green eyed monster

I'm the jealous type. Though not hugely so. On the one hand I trust my girlfriend implicitly, on the other I feel somewhat unworthy. Go figure.

She's a little possesive too, just a little, and it's nice rather than destructive, gives me warm fuzzies to know I'm that important to her.

I tend to be the jealous one....Dryfus doesnt seem to have a jealous bone in his body. I think like you I I trust him implicitly (which is different for me-I usually dont trust men) but feel that I am kinda unworthy to keep his love. I have had such bad luck with men/relationships and I guess thats probably why.

I trust Dryfus 100% and totally and completely feel loved by him, but afraid he will want something better (like my past b/f's did). I am working on it, and the way Dryfus loves me and treats me and how we are open with each other definitely is helping me feel more secure. We are both still very nervous about the whole committment relationship stuff and actually just walking each other through it--together. I hope years down the line I will still be writing about our love together.

 

[juicylips]

I never have any problem with jealousy. No matter what stage of a relationship I am in, I don't hold ownership papers on anyone. By the same token, nobody has any hold over me except the self imposed code of behaviour I have. I wouldn't do anything to hurt any partner, so they sure as hell better not do anything to hurt me.

You expect your partner to abide by your code of behavior?

As long as you both are on the same page, it works. But.. sometimes jealousy creeps in where you least expect it, then you do have to deal with it.

Cassidy

 

[plasticman33]

I don't have a jealous bone in my body!


(But you better not fuck around on me)