I've been

[DarkRefuge]

Brilliant analogy. Getting there is definitely part of the fun and the best men enjoy investing a little time and effort into the arousal.

Yeah that would be a wise investment.

 

[secretlover1]

I think the term practise makes perfect needs to be applied to me and this thread x

 

[DarkRefuge]

I think the term practise makes perfect needs to be applied to me and this thread x

LOL. And don't worry if you fail to be perfect, because the whole lot of practice sessions will make it worthwhile.

 

[CaliGuy60]

Brilliant analogy. Getting there is definitely part of the fun and the best men enjoy investing a little time and effort into the arousal.

For me, getting there is most of the fun, that's the part that takes all of the time.

 

[MrRetro]

single a VERY LONG TIME!

I mean YEARS!

I am wondering how to be aroused more often?

I only seen to get "horny" once a month for about a week and that seems to be hormonal. I'm completely like I'm on heat for a week and I love it and then it fades.

I would love a man and to be more approachable and less inhibited Unless I am drunk as hell and then I do become "looser" like everyone else. I do masturbate :blushes: but as I say I only do it very little.

What kind of girlfriend am I going to be if I am only aroused once a MONTH!!??

In my experience it is quite normal for a woman to want sex mostly at a particular point in her cycle... I think you'll find most men will absolutely love the idea of having a raging sex machine for a week at a time...!

Your cycles are the way they should be and you just need a man that will honour them and admire them as much as you do...

 

[secretlover1]

I feel childish in saying that I am almost 40 and have very little "experience" - I know exactly what pleases me. Just need someone to practise on now.

If I was an ugly moose I would understand it. Ooops sorry that's mean - everyone has something that appeals to someone I am sure. I mean aesthetically I am sort of "cute" I think.

I act more like a teenager than a woman of nearly 40, though! I like young things - tv shows, culture, guys, I have Peter Pan syndrome! x

 

[secretlover1]

The eternal child

 

[bailadora]

I really have discovered that I don't really know "me" since I've come to Lit

I've discovered TODAY at 37 what "horny week" is! How stupid is that?!

I'm ovulating. It sounds icky and clinical when you say that but it's the most natural thing in the world.

I think I need a refresher course in sex education - as I teenager I was just giggling and took no notice and I've been single for like EVER!

Poor me

I'm not kidding. I really need to find someone to teach me. That'll be fun x

Ok, so I'm rather late to this thread, but if you want to know how your body works, I'd recommend picking up a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Wechsler. Even if you aren't interested in ever using FAM as a method of pregnancy avoidance, it's still a very valuable resource. It'll teach you so much about your body, a lot of which is not covered in standard sex education courses.

 

[chipcarver]

I am disabled and the wife and I have been going through some quantity issues. It seems she did/does not want to cause me more pain than I'm already in. Even though I tell her some pain is worth it. She finely asked her Ob/Gyn about her lack of libido. He asked when was the last time we had sex and we replyed six or so months. He said that is our problem. It seems a women's mind has an ability to shut off her need for sex if it's been awhile between sessions. He said the more we "did it" the more she would want it. So she is trying to say yes more often, not often enough yet, but it's a start. At least I don't feel the need to complain on Lit as often as I did.