I've been having dreams...

[CJontherocks]

I stopped going to bi chatrooms. There were men disguised as women, men disguised as bi/gay men so they could find women, and just too much chatter. It's much better to IM with someone you know is relatively normal like your friend.

I wonder how many of those there are on Lit?

 

[SweetErika]

I wonder how many of those there are on Lit?

Normal people or chat rooms? I actually think there are a fair number of normal people, but I haven't been in the chatrooms for more than a second.

 

[eepy]

God, all AOL chat rooms suck! Pleeeease don't ever let me do that again!

 

[SweetErika]

Eepy, you might have better luck checking out some bi/bicurious women's groups (I know MSN has tons) or posting an ad for female chat.

 

[eepy]

Thanks Erika

Do you get to MSN groups through the MSN website or the MSN messenger?

 

[CJontherocks]

I do like the Yahoo IM. Never really had much use for the chatrooms. Too much blah blah blah back and forth... nothing of substance. But I have been on them and chatted with people and then moved the conversation to YIM. So that's cool. Kinda like meeting someone at a party and taking them out for a nice talk. I'm not much for mindless chatter. (But witty banter is another thing entirely.)

 

[eepy]

People keep asking me if I have Yahoo IM, which I don't, and I really hate to download any more programs onto this computer. I soooo need a new computer. And I need a different ISP badly. The AOL browser fucks with everything else. Grrrrr!

 

[SweetErika]

Go to http://groups.msn.com/ and search for bi women, bicurious women, or something similar.

As for getting yahoo, don't bother downloading the messenger. I like Easy Message ( http://www.easymessage.net/ ) because it's super small and really simple. You might need to get a Yahoo ID, but then you can just add it and all of your contacts into Easy Message and communicate with ease.

I'm looking for a new ISP for my mom, and have heard good things about Juno and PeoplePC. Even if you're using AOL as an ISP, you don't have to use their browser. Download Mozilla Firefox (another itty-bitty program), or you could even use IE if you want.

 

[CJontherocks]

I couldn't resist the SBC/Yahoo DSL... I had MSN for a long time and it was the embodiment of satan. I never really did AOL except for the free minutes a long time ago.

I think you can use the AOL service without needing to use the browser/e-mail software, can't you?

 

[eepy]

I HATE PeoplePC, but others like it a lot. I think my computer was just so fucked up to start with, it just wasn't gonna work. Again, I blame AOL.

I've tried using IE instead of the AOL browser, but AOL makes it do crazy things. I swear, AOL is the devil.

Thanks for the info on MSN Groups and Easy Message, tho, Erika

 

[CJontherocks]

That EasyMessenger sounds pretty cool. I have a fairly new computer, and I just added the max memory so I have no problems. Well... with the computer, anyway.

 

[SweetErika]

I HATE PeoplePC, but others like it a lot. I think my computer was just so fucked up to start with, it just wasn't gonna work. Again, I blame AOL.

I've tried using IE instead of the AOL browser, but AOL makes it do crazy things. I swear, AOL is the devil.

Thanks for the info on MSN Groups and Easy Message, tho, Erika

You might want to try Firefox then since it has nothing to do with IE.

My mom is online for probably an hour a day...she's paying $16 for a 24.6 connection through AT&T, so just about anything will be better.

CJ, EasyMessage is cool. It even allows you to sign in invisibly (that was my major peeve with MSN).

 

[eepy]

I'm just going to get dial-up internet through work when my free AOL runs out (again ). And then, when I can afford it and when I have a decent-enough computer to justify it, I'll spring for DSL.

 

[eepy]

Okay, so I was chatting with a really smart man yesterday evening and trying to explain my relationship problems to him and now they're kinda making more sense to me, too. (Funny how that works, hmm? )

Part of the problem is that I'm too hopeful. I know, I know... with most things, I'm a pessimist and a worrier, but with guys, I try sooo hard to trust them and to make myself believe that this will be the one and it'll all work out okay. I start believing myself and then, BAM, I get knocked on my butt when they dump me, stop calling, etc.

Another problem is that somehow I've become the "rebound girl." The last few guys I've been with have still been hung up on someone else or have just not been ready for a new relationship yet. Sometimes, I know this before hand and just choose to ignore it or think that somehow it will work out anyway bc we're just soooo right for each other. And sometimes I don't realize where he's at and, again, get knocked on my butt.

Just some thoughts...

 

[Stiffy Says...]

I am glad to see that you are having some relevations that hopefully will make future dating experiences more positive.

All one can do in life is strive to be the change and type of person that they want to see/be/interact with in the world. Key to that approach is the seeking of knowledge to illuminate those areas where darkness obscures truth, within ourselves and our worlds. With your open and curious mind, I am sure you will be a shining light in our world, even if few others really see it. I feel honored to be able to share vicariously this path of discovery via your postings here. It gives me hope in the future.

Wishing you the best,

Stiffy...

 

[CJontherocks]

I'm running off to go skiing Eepy, but I wanted to send you a quick smile. I'll talk to you later.

-- P

 

[eepy]

All one can do in life is strive to be the change and type of person that they want to see/be/interact with in the world.

Can you expand on that?

 

[eepy]

I'm running off to go skiing Eepy, but I wanted to send you a quick smile. I'll talk to you later.

-- P

You're such a tease Have fun on the slopes!

 

[eepy]

New development (well, not really)...

I have a lesbian coming to look at my place this evening. I'm looking for a new roommate, and someone to sublease the apartment connected to this one (Don't ask -- it's a weird house). I think she's in a relationship, and I don't plan on jumping her or anything, but it's still a weird coincidence, given my recent ponderings.

Anyway, she seems nice and laidback, and she likes cats, so hopefully she likes the house.

Bah, I must be bored

 

[BigAndTall]

Go to http://groups.msn.com/ and search for bi women, bicurious women, or something similar.

As for getting yahoo, don't bother downloading the messenger. I like Easy Message ( http://www.easymessage.net/ ) because it's super small and really simple. You might need to get a Yahoo ID, but then you can just add it and all of your contacts into Easy Message and communicate with ease.

I'm looking for a new ISP for my mom, and have heard good things about Juno and PeoplePC. Even if you're using AOL as an ISP, you don't have to use their browser. Download Mozilla Firefox (another itty-bitty program), or you could even use IE if you want.

Have to agree with that. Mozilla is such a better program than IE.

 

[eepy]

The girl liked the house! I think she's going to take the apartment above mine, bc she wants to live alone but not completely alone, so it's kinda perfect for her.

1 sub-leaser down, 1 more to go.

 

[SweetErika]

Great news! I know you said she's spoken for, but is she cute?

 

[eepy]

Great news! I know you said she's spoken for, but is she cute?

It sounded like she'd broken up with GF, actually. I'm not terribly attracted to her, but I think we could get along really well and be friends, which would waaay better, actually, bc getting involved with neighbors is almost always a bad, bad idea. And I don't know a lot of people in this town, so having friendly people in my house is really important.

 

[SweetErika]

Very true.

 

[Stiffy Says...]

Can you expand on that?

Sure,

I guess what I was trying get at is that all one can do is try to "be the change" they want to see in the world. (IE - be a living example of what you would like to see.) Kind of an Eastern concept, but it really underlies any religion I would think. It is simple, but brilliant in its simplicity.

I get the impression that you found someone to chat with and laid the groundwork for a good, exploratory dialogue and in a non threatening situation. Out of this dialogue came some relevations about your past mistakes when it came to dating men.

In being a proactive, curious, thoughtful, conscientious and non-judgmental person in seeking to improve how you deal with the world, and by letting others in on the process, you are living the example of the type of person you would like to see in the world, or interact with, and when all of what we do in life is done and said, can one ask anyone to do anymore than that?

Hopefully, that helped clarify things and did not just muddle up the compliment based upon observations here on Lit that I was trying to send to you.

Stiffy...