"Its not the wrapper, its the gift inside"

[Rubyfruit]

To quote Draco.

How many of you truly feel this way? I know from my life experience that women seem to be much more interested in who the man is, rather than how he looks.

Of course, we all have traits that we find desirable in a mate, but I find in general women are willing to overlook looks in favor of personality, intelligence, humor, confidence, experience, etc. in a man.

Most everybody took offense to nasty's "fat" thread, but how many of you men are really willing to date a chubby chick (besides Marxist)?

How many women are willing to date a short man? A fat man? Balding?

For me, I actually find bald men sexy as hell. Fat doesn't bother me. I do appreciate some height though. Makes me feel protected to be with a tall man for some reason.

What are your thoughts?

 

[InnesLane]

My wife is overweight. She was overweight when i dated her in high school and she's more overweight now. By any standard other than mine she's not very attractive, but we connect on every level. She's the perfect mate for me.

After more than a quarter century we still hold hands walking down the street.

 

[AStormyOne]

Good thread Ruby

I can overlook physical attributes. Very rarely, once I get to know someone, do I really notice the physicality (is that a word??) of their bodies anymore. I do admit to wanting a man taller than me (come on.. I am only 5'3.... thats not hard to find! ). I also like broad shoulders, and a nice chest. But if he doesn't have that, so what? If he is nice, gentle, caring, all that good stuff that makes a good mate, who cares what he looks like.

Though looks DO help.

Storm

 

[Ree]

The men I have dated run the spectrum: they have been short - 5'4, tall - 6'4, they have been fat, they have been muscular, they wear cowboy hats, they are loosing their hair, they are older then me, they are younger then me but the one thing these men all have in common is their egos weren't as big as their hearts.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

I am not going to lie ... I am attracted to a man because of his personality , sense of humor ... etc ... but he also has to catch my eye. In the sense that he is to my liking when it comes to physical apperance.

I enjoy all types of men and have gone out with different men but the one thing I look for in a man is height. I have gone out with a short man but the reason I went out with him was because I simply saw him as a friend & that was all on my part.

I know that is shallow of me ... but I know what I want in a man and what I don't ....

 

[erosman]

That's what I like about on-line relationships, the wrapper is out of sight and you get to know the gift first, without any distractions.

 

[ohiobbw]

How many women are willing to date a short man? A fat man? Balding?

I like fat men! Because I'm a fat girl. I want a guy (or woman for that matter) that I'm not going to crush in bed. Mostly looks don't matter to me. But of course there are people that I find more attractive than others. It all boils down to what the person is like inside. Short, it doesn't matter (height has never been issue for me). And as for bald men, I used to love long hair men and not baldies. But have you seen Micheal Rosenbaum from Smallville (Lex) he proves bald is very, very sexy!

 

[Lusciousladyf]

In total agreement Ruby!

I have read the posts so far, and I do agree with all!!

I want a man that is honest, intelligent, witty, kind, attentive, loyal....well you get the idea...LOL

Of course there is a certain physical attraction that has to be there....but I believe that what you find on the inside enhances or decreases those looks.

If a man is very self centered, egotistical, mean, rude, dumb, etc... his physical appearance wouldn't turn me on no matter what!! Even if he was every woman's idea of perfection....let them have him!!

In the end...looks can and usually do fade...then what? You are left a bitter person living in misery because you can't relate to the person inside!


I also agree the net is a wonderful place to allow us to free our minds...and see that person inside. Chances are ..when you do see that person...it will only make it better!

Great thread Ruby!!

 

[Rubyfruit]

Interesting responses. Thank you, Timothy, Stormy, Ree, Aphrodisiac, erosman and ohiobbw.

erosman, I agree completely. I fell in love with my husband online before we met and he is a handsome man. Before him, I also fell in love with a man online. He wasn't very handsome by normal standards, but I never saw anything but his big heart and sweet soul when we were together.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

How many of you truly feel this way?

What are your thoughts?

For once since I came to this site I am not going to answer this question; I have adressed this issue numerous times here, and most people already think they know how I feel on the subject, a few actually know how I feel, but everytime I voice my feelings I eventually get attacked by people who misunderstand me.

 

[Draco]

Hey Ruby...stop stealing my best lines!!

Just kidding. I love bigger women. My ex-wife is a BBW but thats not the reason why we divorced. My partner is a large girl too, and I wouldn't change her for anything.

I met Mel on ICQ, knew her for about 3-4 weekd before we even traded pictures. I didn't really care what she looked like, we had already formed the connection. She could have a wooden leg and a hump, I would still be here with her today. Looks are nothing, I have dated good-looking women and found them (generally) to be shallow "clothes-horses". Give me a REAL woman anytime.

 

[Draco]

That's what I like about on-line relationships, the wrapper is out of sight and you get to know the gift first, without any distractions.

*clapping hands*
Give it up for EROSMAN -

The man speaks with wisdom and taste. I salute you.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Hey Draco, I'll have to keep quoting you if you keep saying fascinating things. Live with it.

 

[Draco]

Hey Draco, I'll have to keep quoting you if you keep saying fascinating things. Live with it.

Now quit that right this minute. I'm about 50 shades of red right now. Thank you Ruby. You are and continue to be one of my favourite BBW's.

May your union be long and "Fruitfull" Muhahha

 

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[Rubyfruit]

Draco, can you post a picture with you being 50 shades of red? And no, I'm not talking about you being covered with Cherry's hair.

Although, on second thought, I wouldn't turn that picture down either.

 

[Rambling Rose]

My grandmother always saved the wrapping. I just tear mine right off.

 

[Draco]

Just for you Ruby.

http://www.literotica.com/forum/attachment.php?postid=1082077

 

[privy2u]

Okay I know everyone has heard all this before:

Online you must learn about a person and discover whether you are attracted to them, or not, based on the package and not the wrapper.
In R/L most judgements are made based in what each of us finds appealing visually before we learn who the person really is.

The point is I met my wife 30 years ago when I got out of the Army - we were only friends for the first year - she was overweight then and I wasn't - she had two kids and I had one - then we lived together a year - then we married- then we had a child together - she's still overweight and I am a little bit - At no time in her life would she have been a centerfold and neither would I-

I could go on and on, but , the point is - we became best friends and in learning about each other is was the package we both fell in love with. And she's still my best friend!


privy

 

[Rubyfruit]

...I could go on and on, but , the point is - we became best friends and in learning about each other is was the package we both fell in love with. And she's still my best friend!


privy [/B]

privy, I always knew you were a cool guy, this just proves it.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

That's what I like about on-line relationships, the wrapper is out of sight and you get to know the gift first, without any distractions.

I definitely agree with this answer, Erosman. I fell in love with my guy months before I ever saw his picture. When I did see the photo, I recognized him right away! Then came hearing his voice, and the whole package fits together so well for me. I think I was more concered with his opinions on what I looked like, but I was wrong. After warning him that I was really a toothless, hairy legged, butterball of a grumpy old lady, he's still heading to NYC to visit me!

 

[phrodeau]

The bigger they are, the harder they ball.

Who was it that said, "you can't drive a spike with a tack hammer"?

 

[SweetCherry]

Ruby, I see you're discovering how wonderful a partner I hve. And people wonder why I stick with a long distance relationship for this long. There's an example.

 

[Draco]

And this is why I love her so.
Aint she purty??

 

[JennyOmanHill]

And this is why I love her so.
Aint she purty??

You certainly are a wonderful pair you two! That was a nice shot of you two "together"!