Its all about timing.

[UC_Gav]

I um...have a friend (yeah thats it ) who has a new girlfriend. Ah to hell with it its me ok.

Basically i need some advice, from both girls and Guys.

When were getting down to business she tells me to take it slow and easy and so i do and she seems to 'enjoy' herself but after a while her attitude snaps and she's screaming "For god sake what are you waiting for, just fuck me"

Obviously im going too long with the slow gentle stuff when what she wants is a hard fuck but how the hell do u tell when she changes.

Girls, do you give off signs as hints (obviously not just verbally)
Guys, have u picked up any tricks as to knowing when shes ready for you to just 'bottom out' in her.

Id rather learn and find out rather than her having to tell me. Ive asked her to ride me so she can control it and i can learn how she likes it but she refuses to go on top, she feels exposed or something and prefers being under me. Guess i have that protective nature

 

[fgarvb1]

Well, there you have it. One of the main things that drive men crazy, females change their minds sometimes in a split second and forget that we can't read it.

However, You can learn to read their bodies to some extent in bed (thank god!)

I have always had trouble being able to tell when a woman wants it rougher because i always worry about bruising them or otherwise hurting them.

If they want a real pounding they have to tell me in plain english.

Now, as to how soon to go from foreplay to the main event that varies from one woman to another and from time to time.

Instinct my man, instinct.

Tell her to grab you and pull you up or insert it.

 

[Hello_Kitten]

Not really fair for her to expect you to read her mind. She told you to go slow, be gentle and that's what you did. I try to be as verbal as I can in what I want in bed. Even when I was younger and not so comfortable in saying what I wanted, I would try to give clues if I was enjoying it or not. I think most women will give off signs whether they realise it or not. Play close attention to the movements of her body, her breathing, the way she's touching you. Like fgarvb1 said, a lot of it is instinct. Other than that my only advice would be to discuss this with her. Let her know how much you'd like to please her but you're unsure what she wants exactly. Tell her you'd like her to be a little more vocal about what you're doing. And congrats on the new girlfriend

 

[peachykeen]

well, as has been said, you can't be enitrely expected to be a mind reader. She needs to either tell you, or...

Here's a little idea: you can make this all part of your sex-play, you know? Get her to beg you to fuck her. It could end up being wildly exciting for both of you.

For example, let's say you are doing your usual thing, starting off all nice and slow and gentle and all that. When she gets to that point where she 'snaps' and tells you to hurry it up, time to snap back and turn the tables!

I am assuming you are at least a little bit bigger/stronger than she is, plus since you're on top, you have the advantage of leverage. When she starts telling you to move it along, see if you can get her arms pinned above her head. If you move fast before she realizes what you're doing, you can get her wrists above her head and then hold them down with one hand/arm. Then start going r-e-a-l s-l-o-w. Maybe even pull all the way out and just rub the head of your cock against her clit. Now, this is the part that's going to take guts on your part, if you're not used to doing much dirty talk, but I am willing to bet you it will pay off for you bigtime if you do, okay? While you've got her pinned down and are teasing her, start asking her stuff like "You want to feel this nice hard cock slamming your pussy, baby?" Et cetera, et cetera, be creative. (For the time being I would maybe avoid using words like 'slut' and 'whore' - as you said she is not even up to being on top yet. You can work up to those eventually, once she has learned to embrace her inner hoochie )

And then, don't let her get away with just saying "Yes". Make her tell you what she wants. Don't fuck her until she is squirming and begging.

Then, bang her like there's no tomorrow.

Then the next time you try this trick, get her to where she is begging for it again, but then refuse and tell her if she wants your cock, she's going to have to sit on it, and lay back. I am willing to bet she gets over that aversion to being on top pretty damn quick once you get her in the right frame of mind...