is this cheating???

[bi_theway]

i got a question and i just want some feedback please...

my sisters friends boyfriend kissed another girl...she got mad but didn't break up with him because she said he didn't cheat
i think kissing is a form of intimacy and i consider it cheating...can you please tell me what you think of this....
thanks

 

[sexy-girl]

yes i think it is cheating but theres different forms of cheating

i think cybersex could be considored cheating

i dont think kissing is as bad as sleeping with someone so i can understand why your sister didnt dump the bf but i'd still be very worried and want to make sure he didnt do anything like that again ... did the boyfriend admit he did this or was he found out ?

 

[SexyChele]

Depends on a lot of factors, I would think. Who was the girl he was kissed? Some one he had been friends with for a long time? Recent romantic interest? And what kind of kiss? Kissing an old friend on the cheek as you say good bye would not, in my opinion, consistute cheating. Serious tongue action with a romantic interest might be in the cheating realm.

I'm curious why/how you would get involved - the whole situation seems very remote from you. Simply out of curiousity?

 

[bi_theway]

it wasn't my sisters boyfriend..its her friends
he got caught by his girlfriend's friends...
i think cybering is cheating too
i think she should dump him but she says he only did it once and he said he won't do it again and she loves him to much to leave him...the girl is 16 she has a whole life ahead of her i wouldn't waste my time...

 

[bi_theway]

it was a girl he just meet at a party and it was a french kiss...
i got involved because my sister an her friend brought it to me and i have to hear about it (my sister complaing how stupid her friend is and her friend saying he won't do it again etc)
its one of them situation that you don't want to be involved but are pulled into...

 

[GuyJD]

it was a girl he just meet at a party and it was a french kiss...
i got involved because my sister an her friend brought it to me and i have to hear about it (my sister complaing how stupid her friend is and her friend saying he won't do it again etc)
its one of them situation that you don't want to be involved but are pulled into...

BI_THEWAY: First & foremost, cute name
Secondly and lastly, you already answered a question that I was going to ask. If it had been a friendly pecker kiss, I would have said that it was not cheating. But to french a friend, that is definately cheating. We all know that french kissing could lead to more if permissible.

 

[Calamity Jane]

We all know that french kissing could lead to more if permissible.

and smoking pot leads to heroin abuse.

i don't necessarily think that a drunken kiss among strangers is the same as sleeping with someone else. sure, it's a breach of trust... but we don't know any of the circumstances leading up to it... did the couple have an argument before hand? has he ever cheated before? who was the aggressor... was he kissing or kissing back? did he have his hand on her ass?

i'm not saying the guy is an angel... but sometimes a kiss IS just a kiss.

 

[bi_theway]

from what i know he has never cheated before, i'm not really sure who started the kiss becuz i wasn't at the party but from what my sister said he had the girl pushed against the wall, i don't think they had a fight...i just feel bad for her she is young and naive...

 

[nasty]

Any type of intamacy is cheating.

 

[shadowsource]

Kissing, mmm!

A great way to "cheat" without really cheating.... I don't think it's bad, though a gf almost killed me once over this issue.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Any type of intamacy is cheating.

Is it cheating on your sf to tell us about your fetish and not her? that's pretty damned intimate

 

[Willing and Unsure]

i think the cheating issue is something that should be determined by the people involved, not by someone on the outside.. you may get yourself pulled into it somehow, but your opinions on what (s)he should do when they find that their significant other has done something like that are yours.. and as much as you think that they should break up or whatever like that, its still thier decision on that, not yours.. and it may bother you that things did not get done the way you would want them to and what not like that, but it isnt your decision on that..

 

[SimplySouthern]

I think now is the appropriate time to say....

Eating ain't cheating.


Alright....it's a joke. I find it funny. So sue me. (and bless my heart)

 

[nasty]

LOL

Is it cheating on your sf to tell us about your fetish and not her? that's pretty damned intimate

I don't have a gf, but I don't consider that cheating. INtamate, meaning human contact.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Re: LOL

I don't have a gf, but I don't consider that cheating. INtamate, meaning human contact.

ohhhh, ok. some would say that 'emotional intimacy' is cheating... or cybersex... or even being close friends with someone besides your SO

 

[Thumper]

Would this have taken palce at the Sock Hop?

Out of the watchful eyes of the 8th grade teachers?

 

[nasty]

Not exactly

If you have a gf, it's NEVER appropriate to have any type of sexual intimacy with someone. As well as cybersex. If you hug a close friend, that would be ok,(who happens to be a woman,)that would be ok. Sorry if I didn't make myself totally clear.

 

[nasty]

DAMN IT!!!!!!

I think I see double in that last post.