Is there something you thought you'd love, but you don't?

[HzDomme]

Mirroring a recent thread: Is there something you were fairly certain you'd love, you tried it and decided it definetly wasn't for you?

I thought I'd love to be spanked. Found I hated it. It hurt. It was NOT pleasurable in the least. And the Domme in me screamed NO!!! It pissed me off because in my fantasies it is great. In reality it is not extreme sensation to me, it is just pain.

 

[Desdemona]

I don't know that I absolutely dislike anything that I thought I'd love. However, I have been less than impressed with wax play. I thought the sensation of the liquid heat against my skin would be a total turn-on. I don't hate it. It just seems to be a fairly neutral experience for me. It isn't a turn on or a turn off. If it pleases Him to drip melted wax on me, great. If not, that's cool too.


If I ever find something I hate, I'll let you know.

 

[His_sugar]

i thought i would love floggers. i can remember many years ago planning for my first play session, i kept saying.. "bring all Your floggers"..

*laughing*

They do absolutely nothing for me and i find myself terribly bored and unsatisfied when they are used.

 

[redelicious]

Believe it or not, butt plugs.

I LOVE anal sex, really and truly. I was given a butt plug to use and I absolutely hated it. I wanted to love it. It hurt just too damn much.

*sigh*

 

[James G 5]

i thought i would love floggers. i can remember many years ago planning for my first play session, i kept saying.. "bring all Your floggers"..

*laughing*

They do absolutely nothing for me and i find myself terribly bored and unsatisfied when they are used.

Have you genrally had wide-tailed/large number of tails, softer material floggers, or have you had a range of them?
Just curious

 

[James G 5]

Believe it or not, butt plugs.

I LOVE anal sex, really and truly. I was given a butt plug to use and I absolutely hated it. I wanted to love it. It hurt just too damn much.

*sigh*

So you need something more natural?

 

[James G 5]

Being fingered anally
I am VERY anal-erotic
Love ass play
REALLY love a good rim job
So several ladies insisted it would feel GREAT if I let them put a finger in me while they gave me head
I let 2 of them try it
It wasn't painful
Just uncomfortable & did nothing for me *shrug*
Actualy distracted from otherwise good head

 

[lark sparrow]

You just made me think of something, James. Wearing a buttplug for a long time past playing, such as overnight. One of the longest and most sleepless nights I have had was wearing a buttplug overnight and having it be too late to request any respite. Definitely in the 'punishment' rather than 'reward' category once the eroticism has worn off and an early morning approaches.

 

[BlueSugar]

anal

I try it now and then, different things, different shapes, some things are ok, others are a complete turn off. I want to submit to it, bit it still makes me feel sick most of the time. I've tried, lubes, scents, materials, sizes...nothing.

Ice- Since i use it so much and others seem to enjoy it throughly, I've noticed it isn't so awsome. Hot cold warm play is fun, but extreme cold for too long just burns- maybe I was just with people that had no idea what to do, though, that seems odd because most were pretty darn good at everything else.

Anyone have any ideas/expierences with car sex/pleasures? Besides masturbation?

 

[FungiUg]

Being fingered anally
[...]
It wasn't painful
Just uncomfortable & did nothing for me *shrug*

Interesting. I'm much the same. I like pressure and play around the outside of my anus, but penetration does nothing for me.

 

[Netzach]

Bondage.

I had this idea that it would be all sculptural neato kinetic.....ugh...it's just so much freaking work.

 

[FungiUg]

Bondage.

I had this idea that it would be all sculptural neato kinetic.....ugh...it's just so much freaking work.

*chuckle* I pretty much don't do rope bondage for this very reason! But I love leather restraints. Just put 'em on, they look soooo sexy and cute, and then you can attach the submissive in a handy dandy way to things!

 

[serijules]

hmmm, letsee...

I can relate to the flogging comment, but my mind has changed on that...it depends who does it and how they do it. If done right, I love it. If done in a wimpy way, I get bored to death. Same with a lot of things though, especially spanking. I simply can't stand a light spanking. If you are going to spank me, spank me long and hard, the harder the better.

One thing that comes to mind is Ginger Root. I was so sure I would love it, because I love anal play and the burning would just intensify it. However, my first and only time playing with Ginger Root resulted in me running to the bathroom and getting physically sick from the sensation. Definately not fun. Anal play in general pretty much fits into this category. I love it, but I rarely enjoy it because I'm so sensitive to it and can only take very little at a slow pace. Very frustrating because I really do love the sensations, just don't like the trigger on making me feel ill that goes with it :/ This doesn't apply to anal sex for some reason though....just toys. I think my own nervousness on the matter ruins this for me.

 

[James G 5]

One thing that comes to mind is Ginger Root. I was so sure I would love it, because I love anal play and the burning would just intensify it. However, my first and only time playing with Ginger Root resulted in me running to the bathroom and getting physically sick from the sensation. Definately not fun. Anal play in general pretty much fits into this category. I love it, but I rarely enjoy it because I'm so sensitive to it and can only take very little at a slow pace. Very frustrating because I really do love the sensations, just don't like the trigger on making me feel ill that goes with it :/ This doesn't apply to anal sex for some reason though....just toys. I think my own nervousness on the matter ruins this for me.

You should post this over in the Figging thread on the How To forum

 

[redelicious]

Anal play in general pretty much fits into this category. I love it, but I rarely enjoy it because I'm so sensitive to it and can only take very little at a slow pace. Very frustrating because I really do love the sensations, just don't like the trigger on making me feel ill that goes with it :/ This doesn't apply to anal sex for some reason though....just toys. I think my own nervousness on the matter ruins this for me.

Hmm, maybe that is it for me as well. I do have a tendancy to tense up at the wrong times.

 

[sunfox]

Swallowing.

I have such a total oral fixation, and I love to give
head, but I -cannot- swallow. I've tried and tried, and
I just hate it, can't make myself enjoy it. Just ends up
ruining my enjoyment of giving him head, and makes
me avoid it for a while until the unpleasant memory
subsides.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Bump anyone?!

 

[Ebonyfire]

This is an old chestnut! Actually everything I like I still like. However I am not the one doing the suffering, lol.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

<Snip> can't make myself enjoy it. </Snip>

I'm primarily a Sadist, so my first thought on this was: "So who said you were supposed to enjoy it? Just do it!"

ETA: My second thought, of course, was that I'm kind of a wimpy Sadist I do want my target to enjoy - or at least tolerate without gag reflex - what I do to her.

 

[yukiyubi]

Anal sex is one of those things.
I actually enjoy toys there while other things are going on, but something being moved in and out makes me feel ill.

Certain types of bondage too, because of my sensitive skin and back problems are a no-go even though in my mind it's really arousing.

And there is that being killed fantasy I have, I'm sure that it wouldn't be too hot in real life.

 

[BiBunny]

I have a whole list of things, it seems. I guess I don't absolutely hate anything, but there are a lot of things I just tolerate if I have to, rather than enjoy.

~Anal anything--fingers, toys, real live penises. I can actually really enjoy it if someone's willing to spend a lot of time working with me, but that's really frustrating for the other person, and I know it. Anything used too roughly, pushed in too fast, or left in too long makes me incredibly nauseated. No fun at all, especially since I turn into a huge baby when I'm sick.

~Bondage--ho hum. I can take it or leave it. I'd really rather you tie me up in a hurry and spend the rest of the time doing other things than spend 3 hours getting me tied up "just right." Yawn.

~"Forced" to be naked. I have mild Reynaud's. When I get too cold, my whole body just feels like it shuts down. If I'm told I can't put on clothes, get under a blanket, or whatever...it gets ugly fast.

~Wax play. Oh, this sounds so nice and lovely, but it just hurts, dammit. And even when it doesn't hurt, the sensation's just annoying.

~Whippings. Floggers are about the only impact toy I like. I could go the rest of my life without being hit by anything else.

 

[NotsoJollyRoger]

If it caze da pain, its all good.

 

[Netzach]

LOL, I can't believe I have a post disparaging bondage. I was an impatient little thing back then.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

LOL, I can't believe I have a post disparaging bondage. I was an impatient little thing back then.

One of the things I really like about bondage is the anticipation as I work the ropes into place....

 

[Kierae]

LOL, I can't believe I have a post disparaging bondage. I was an impatient little thing back then.

Yeah I had to double take and check the date of the post of your bondage comment - it made me chuckle considering the lovely pics of the bondage you have posted in the past.

I think the only thing I just haven't found any joy out of is the violet wand. D isn't really fond of it and maybe because of all the electric stim I have had to do with retraining muscles after surgery, I just can't find any joy out of it. So my wand sits here and I ponder selling it...

~kierae