Is There A Friggin Mass Exodus?

[sizzlingreekgal]

Around here or something? That's all I've seen "I'm leaving" "I won't be back" "I'm outta here." How else do you learn to deal with things than by sticking around? I don't see anybody begging these people to stay......I know...it's hard to get attention....is that it? Stick it out....ya might learn something!

 

[Dillinger]

No there isn't an exodus. One long time person has announced she's leaving. A bunch of other people are posting "I'm leaving" threads because they think its humorous for the rest of us to open it up and actually see that they're only going out for coffee...

Its funny the first time... maybe even the first 5 times... dozens and dozens of times later I'm still waiting to see someone actually come up with an original twist on it.

Am I being pissy? Maybe. I'm not actually trying to knock anyone... just calling it like I see it.

 

[riff]

It happens

The door swings both ways. People leave. People take vacations from the board. People lose interest and then rediscover it. People change identities. It happens.

Can be frustrating at times and funny as hell as others. Just watch. It's like people ice-skating on a sphere of ice.

 

[plasticman33]

Re: It happens

The door swings both ways. People leave. People take vacations from the board. People lose interest and then rediscover it. People change identities. It happens.

Can be frustrating at times and funny as hell as others. Just watch. It's like people ice-skating on a sphere of ice.

Yeah! Love the metaphor! A real visual!

 

[tn_8tiv]

The last time there was an Exodus, I believe we got the Ten Commandments, the Red Sea was parted and there was something about 40 years in exile, wandering around in the desert.

No, I don't think we have an Exodus here. Just a few people moving on with their lives.

 

[sizzlingreekgal]

See......I was too quick to judge....just seemed strange. You all gave very good explanations....thanks!

 

[Ginny]

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Originally posted by tortoise
I'd like to announce that I'm leaving lit....
...to go grab a burger. Anybody want anything?
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http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=70210



pissy is as pissy does my momma always said....

<tossing you a fucking sense of humor
so hard it knocks ya off your high horse>

get over it, dillinger....<laughing>....i kinda felt sorry for ya yesterday....but jesus...you are dragging out this whine a lil too long...


<bracing for the onslaught>

 

[Dillinger]

Actually I thought I posted with humor. Guess we have our senses in different places?

 

[Dillinger]

Actually - let me take that back. To be fair there was nothing all that humorous about my post. But it was straightforward and I was calling it like I see it. I didn't think I was whining and I certainly didn't mean for anyone to see it that way.

I do however find it interesting that you think I have been whining in other places? Apparently your concept of whining includes everything that you don't find interesting or that you can make fun of.

 

[Ginny]

Actually I thought I posted with humor. Guess we have our senses in different places?

oooohh i'd say so, Mr. Dillinger.....<nodding>

no worries though....you just made my aardvark eyes flare red...i know you're trying to keep da peace around here....certainly not criticize or inflame anyone....ya know....

as RainbowBright says.....here's a flower

 

[alexandraaah]

as RainbowBright says.....here's a flower

How dare you try to imitate my RainbowBright, s/he would never do that!

You would only get a flaowoer.
But I don't feel like giving you one so you'll have to wait for RainbowBright.

 

[Dhalgren]

Ah..an aardvark with flaming red eyes.
~what a visual~


You saw red.. why?
Because your tortoise lover made a joke that is as old as BBS, themselves?
Another reason?

Really..everybody wants everyone to be as cool to someone new around here as much as someone who’s been planted here as long as..um..say, Siren.

But try telling a “Why the chicken crossed the road” joke to a group of comedians in r/l..and see how many people roll their eyes at you.

 

[Starfish]

Am I being pissy? Maybe. I'm not actually trying to knock anyone... just calling it like I see it.

No. You weren't. Loosing Vixie is not cool, and making fun of it is pathetic, but I assume those who think it is funny are those who don't know her.

Lots of newbies around. Lots of assuming by them too. Doesn't mix well here. Ever.

 

[alexandraaah]

No. You weren't. Loosing Vixie is not cool, and making fun of it is pathetic, but I assume those who think it is funny are those who don't know her.

Lots of newbies around. Lots of assuming by them too. Doesn't mix well here. Ever.

Hey Starfish,
will you post your av as an attachment?

I wanna look at it up close; it looks cooooooooooool.

and beautiful.

Alex

Edited to add the reason I quoted you, which is that members of long standing as well as newbies are making this faux pas.

 

[Rubyfruit]

I agree, Alexandrah.

Is that a new piece, Fishie? The light is amazing.

 

[princess4u]

Lots of newbies around. Lots of assuming by them too. Doesn't mix well here. Ever.

please please please - can we not start the fucking "newbie" crap again???? - geeze ~

 

[Dhalgren]

You know..

This does happen..people do say they are leaving sometimes with legit circumstances.

And sometimes a thread titled..”I’m leaving,” by someone who is known and liked..and is simply doing it because a lot of people will indeed miss them and start threads themselves called ..

”Where did so and so, go?”

And a slew of people making fun of her doing it..just isn’t very nice.

And please answer me this, dear reader…
Why do people *think* that just because they couch their words around silly phrases and little snickers..they don’t appear just as nasty and mean spirited as anyone else saying their own malicious crap?

Miss Ruby..you, my friend.. are looking more like Bettie Page everyday.

 

[tortoise]

And please answer me this, dear reader…
Why do people *think* that just because they couch their words around silly phrases and little snickers..they don’t appear just as nasty and mean spirited as anyone else saying their own malicious crap?

I'll drop the silly phrases and snickers for the space of this post. I did not create that thread to spite anyone. The farewell posts I've seen in the last few days have been quite restrained and reasonable, and I wasn't parodying THEM at all, and I was definitely not disrespecting the people that posted them, with whom I have no beef; rather, I was lambasting the concept of the farewell in general. The people that responded to my thread took it in the spirit in which it was intended, and laughed along with it.

No, the offending thread wasn't very original, and you were not amused. Who the fuck cares? I wasn't hurting or DISRESPECTING anybody. Does every newby post and/or thread have to be scrutinized with a fucking fine tooth comb? Do I need to carefully outline the intentions of every ironic statement I make? Perhaps you should set up a moderated board, in which every post by someone with less than 500 posts has to be approved before it appears...? No, that's not a joke, I'm dead fucking serious.

You and your ilk (okay, so I had to put ONE snicker in; I'm only human, and a newby at that) clearly don't like me. I don't care. I'm enjoying myself, and will continue to do so. Respect is a two way street.

 

[cymbidia]

And please answer me this, dear reader…
Why do people *think* that just because they couch their words around silly phrases and little snickers..they don’t appear just as nasty and mean spirited as anyone else saying their own malicious crap?

From my perspective, it's just more gutter-level meaness wrapped up to look like intelligence (they wish) or sassiness (they hope) or some kinda fucking cooler-than-thou attitude (they try so hard for this one).

I've seen a lot of it around here in the last week or so, too, and mostly from those who are not yet known well to most to of us.

It's ugly.
It's alarming.
It's unsettling.

However, attitudes like that don't fit Lit. Therefore, almost by definition, the people spewing such garbage will go away when they get tired of no one talking to them but themselves.

Ignore the assholes, whatever flavor they come in, however shiny are thier wrappings. Assholes like to cozy into places where they can flame at will and get lots of reaction. If they don't get that reaction, they move on.

They're reaction-sluts, these kinda people.
Hold back and they'll go wandering in search of the reaction-fix they need.

It's that simple.
It's always been that simple.
It's always gonna be that simple.

 

[tortoise]

No. You weren't. Loosing Vixie is not cool, and making fun of it is pathetic, but I assume those who think it is funny are those who don't know her.

Lots of newbies around. Lots of assuming by them too. Doesn't mix well here. Ever.

Ahem. I wasn't making fun of losing TNVixen (see previous rant). I did not know her well at all, but the impression she made on me was a very favorable one. I found her quite funny and down to earth, and her farewell statement was completely devoid of histrionics, very succinct and to the point.

Seems to me that newbies aren't the only ones making assumptions?

[note: strike that last sentence; it was made in the assumption that Starfish was referring to me personally with her newby dig, an assumption which proved false; it turns out that she hadn't even read the thread in question, and in fact didn't know me from Adam. Ah, the sting of obscurity. ]

 

[tortoise]

From my perspective, it's just more gutter-level meaness wrapped up to look like intelligence (they wish) or sassiness (they hope) or some kinda fucking cooler-than-thou attitude (they try so hard for this one).

Jesus Christ. Go back and read the start my thread. It was silly, and stupid, and inane, and goofy, and it has probably been done before here, ad nauseum. But does it really warrant this level of hysteria?

You people REALLY need to fucking unclench.






(edited cuz my typing sucks even worse when I'm annoyed)

 

[tortoise]

You saw red.. why?
Because your tortoise lover made a joke that is as old as BBS, themselves?

Yes. She was defending me, because she knew there were no ill intentions behind my silly joke. She loves me, I love her.

Do you not defend those you love?

 

[Starfish]

I don't know what each person that is upset is feeling about your thread tortise, but I don't see it as anything more than a joke.

I was referring to a different thread. One I posted to, and I thought it might be partly what had my friend Dillinger was so frustrated and upset, which he has the right to be. I just wanted to reassure him that he has reason to be edgy and that it is okay. I then made a generalized comment about assuming Newbies. I shouldn't have said that. It isn't right. Not all of the people I have frustration with are 'newbies'. They just act like they have no clue of how this board works, which in my mind makes them 'rusty newbies'.

Because I am not wanting a fight, I'll just say that I am sorry that my post was interpreted as an insult or assumption about you and your joke thread. Your thread is one of a million of those types, and are a regular occurance on the bb. Many people have grown weary of them, but those who do should just move on to find what they like to read, and not bother with interacting in them. That doesn't mean that they can't say what they think about them, without being attacked either. You have to remember this if you want to keep the peace and try and make friends here.

 

[Dhalgren]

Ginny got a little mad because Dill said threads *such* as yours are getting a tad tiring.


Personally..I don’t believe you should defend people you like/love just because others don’t agree with their sentiments.

If my lover backed me up every time someone wasn’t amused by me..I’d begin to wonder if he thinks I’m not a fully formed human who can defend themself…right or wrong.

I have many friends here..
If I defended everyone I care for...people would indeed begin to wonder if my defense only comes from my emotions…and not the truth.

I don’t dislike you..Tortoise
I always accept new concepts, music and people on a daily basis.

The thing is..
There are ways to conduct yourself in a public forum.

Just as there are in real life.
Just as we all know and you’ll look like an asshole if you don’t...whether you care that appear like one..or not.


Sorry about you getting annoyed and all clenched up, like that..but it was really was a general statement.
(should I add a snicker here?)

 

[Dillinger]

" I was lambasting the concept of the farewell in general. " - Yes you were tortoise - and perhaps this will surprise you but it doesn't bother me. I have no problem with it. All I was doing was answering the question on THIS THREAD! I didn't go into your thread and say anything. I answered a question that was asked on THIS THREAD. Your thread is perfectly fine for you and anyone who is interested in it. As far as I'm concerned, been there done that. Don't need to do it again. Don't have any problem with you doing it. And, again - I didn't go into your thread and knock it. I answered a question that was asked on THIS THREAD.

I also stated my opinion. Which is no more valid than yours, nor any less valid.

Everyone could use to calm down a bit here. And I'm not excluding myself from that.