is she unsatisfied or looking ?

[parker106]

my fiancee keeps going to sites such as this and others, when we first got together she asked me to delete mine, so i did, now she is going back to these sites. I asked her to also delete these sites and she got defensive, she did have some posts on here w/someone else before me.now she is being here in secret, thinking i dont know about it.we are very sexuall and it does not bother me that she is here, but why is she doing it secretly and keep looking at the pics her and the other guy posted, while they have been edited, she still looks at her attachments. she says she wants to get married, but i dont know, if we went to these sites together it would be different, but it is always when i am gone.An i worried over nothing?

 

[ima6uldv8]

If it doesn't bother you, as you have stated, then why are you asking her to delete the site/her account? Sounds like you don't trust her. It also sounds like she might still be hung up on the previous man. Either that or she's fondly remembering old times.

 

[KokopelliRises]

It doesn't seem like it's really a problem. If she wants to explore her sexuality in this way, good for her.

 

[parker106]

trust has been a issue, she has been with a couple before we met and i dont really know if she wants to be w/ just one man.I also wanted her to do the same as she asked me to do and delete my accounts, this is my worry. She says she wants only to be with me, but after you have been in open relationships is it hard for that person to be monogamous. when we first were together we talked about it, but as we grew to love each other i could not see sharing.I just wanted some advise as to whether she is still looking or does she really want to with more than one person.

 

[virgin_not]

First,there is trust issue as you have stated,so it would be really hard then for both of you.Whatever her past or your past,should be leave behind,you couldn't leave with the past,it won't do anything good in your relationship. But if you two have compromise that will just be monogamous then,you both have to stick with that.Plus she is the one that asked you to delete your account in here or in any other site,right? So why is she coming back here again and even keeping it a secret? That's something else.

I am not judging her,cause I dont even know her,whatever Im saying here right now is Im judging from your posts.It's you who knows your fiance other than anyone in this site.Best thing to do is sits with her and have a heart to heart talk,if ever she just keep coming here just to explore some sexuality that can't she do it in r/l or just having simply fun..as long as its only in here and not having a private affair in here and seeing anyone in peson..I dont see anything wrong with it.

But again,it is all up to you both.Everyone have different point of views and outlook in life.In one relationship it has to be give and take..trust,faith and respect are the important ingredients in one relationship to work it out. Lastly,its just simple *what goes around,comes around*

 

[parker106]

thank you for your input, our pasts are just that, pasts. do you think it is difficult for someone to be i a one person relationship after they have been open? she was married for 12 yrs prior to her exploring. and i do agree what goes aroud definitly comes around.I have asked her about these things, and she says no.it is the secrecy that bothers me and the fact she is still looking at pics of her and someone else that she has been with. I have been with plenty of woman and i dont relive them while i am with her, i do think of other woman i dont know,i just think we could enjoy fantasising together more, maybe its just a guy thing.

 

[mrtnmoon]

I'd let her catch you looking around lit... maybe looking at pics or exchanging PM's with someone. see what she has to say about that. it's not right of her to want you to delete your account if she's not willing to do the same thing.

of course, now that you know she's willing to keep secrets from you, even if she deleted her old account there's nothing to stop her from creating another one. only she knows what's in her heart, but I would proceed very much with caution towards marriage if I were you.

 

[virgin_not]

People have different views,I myself and my man..whatever pics we got with our past relationship its,just remain in our storage room where it belongs,there is no reason to look at it very now and then,its normal to keep those pics,part of our memories whether we like it or not it hapenned..some people are burning it,some not...in my case I never ask my man to burn it or throw it away,and same thing for him,just we don't look at it out of respect and one thing is sure for us..*its just part of our past and it has to be stay that way.

Again,if your girl is still looking at those pics and reviving those memories,that's another story,looks like you two have do some serious evaluating the relationship you got now and speaking of getting marry,like the poster above said (mrtnmoon)..you have to think about it again and again before you really get into that lifetime commitment,with these issues happening..*sigh* think about it 100x.

 

[koalabear]

Cheating on line or off, it's all the same. If she is sneaking around expect the worst.