Is sexual liberation for women just a dream?

[espressolover]

I hope you didn't misconstrue what I said back there-
Women who love sex and share the joy with who they choose are not sluts, or any manner of name that has been given us in the past.

You're right..there is no one on this board or a part of Lit that would say such a thing about someone.

We are all comfortable with our sexuality, or we probably would'nt be here.

 

[daughter]

a perspective on who gives a fuck

Sorry, folks but I don't see this as a issue about sexual freedom. It's a matter of acceptance and morality, two things I don't think should be imposed on anybody.

A woman is free to fuck who she pleases. If she's labeled it matters only if she cares. If someone chooses to judge me for what I do or don't do, it is inconsequential unless I value their opinion.

A bigger issue for me is how women define their sexuality. It bothers me if a woman think she has to gain the same reception as a man. That isn't freedom. That's a question of acceptance. Why are we modeling our successes and identification after men? I have a problem with that paradigm.

A real paradigm shift is for women to stop trying to redefine labels. Create news ones. Reject old ones. Being overtly sexual doesn't necessarily mean you're sexually liberated. It means your rejecting stereotypes. Is a woman who prefers a conservative stance less liberated than the one who is flamboyant? I don't think so.

Sexual liberation is better defined by a woman's comfort level with her own sexual expression and views. It's not contigent on reception. Only approval a woman needs is her own and her lover's.

Sexual liberation is about self-acceptance. How comfortable am I with my behavior? I'm not fucking a community. I'm sleeping with another human being. Does he see me and my behavior as positive? Fuck what everybody else thinks. Sexual liberation means I'm not seeking group consensus on the matter of my sexual behaviors and views.

Peace,

daughter

 

[sigh]

sigh, ack! Nobody is attracted to that sort.

That's not what I'm talking about here.

Is it all black and white?

no, no ruby, that's not what i meant...i just over-stereotyped my example of a stud man out looking for women

if i see ANY man playing the singles game, picking up girls for a one night fling, i think of him in pretty much the same way i see women who do likewise...you put your woman in a tight dress...i put my man in gold chains...both are only to illustrate a point

i shouldn't look at either with my catty eyes...maybe i should give it a try myself

 

[sigh]

now that i've read daughter's response, never mind what i said

i agree with her

 

[bluespoke]

Yeah scratch mine too. I think daughter's answer is bang on the nose.

And her new AV is sensational.

 

[daughter]

thanks, ladies

Just a personal reflection. Self-acceptance was(is) a biggie.

Peace,

daughter

 

[bluespoke]

Think I should tell daughter that unless something was cut off in the night, I aint no lady.

 

[daughter]

oh, my

forgive me, bluespoke.

I think it's apparent that I have not read you enough to know better.

And thanks for the compliment. She is pretty. I think she represents another facet for me. I favor dark-skinned women. Growing up, I always thought they were beautiful.

Peace,

daughter

 

[bluespoke]

Its not a problem. I forgot to add one of these little chaps at the end of my post

I didn't feel slighted in the least.

 

[espressolover]

daughter:

Beautiful thoughts...

beautiful av.