Is match.com bullshit?

[human_male]

Hi there. I've had an add up on nzmatch.com for a couple of weeks. I put it up before I noticed the extortionate price they charge you, and that you can't even read your email (or even see who it's from) until you pay. So I'm waiting and seeing before I decide to sign up. I've gotten three emails but I'd bet anything at least one is from the site itself.

I've also gotten a bunch of winks. A couple of them were from my area but most were from overseas. And some of them make me suspicious because they're rather gorgeous and what's more the photos look professionally done.

By contrast the local site I use, I've attracted no attention at all. Zip. So my gut tells me maybe a couple of these winks are legit, the rest are fakes that the site sends to people who haven't payed yet in order to entice them to do so.

So what do you think (men)? Have you used match.com. Did you get a bunch of these fake looking winks? And does the site email you regularly?

Thank you kindly.

 

[AgntSmth]

I've never gotten match.com-generated e-mails on match.com - regular e-mails are always sent directly to the e-mail address I used to sign up. I also can't say that I've gotten fake-looking winks, but the proportion of fake/spam profiles on match.com may vary depending on the region. The prices are pretty exorbitant though.

 

[somberReality]

I"m too chicken to use those sites personally.

But i hope it works out for you. Who knows? You might find someone.

 

[human_male]

I've never gotten match.com-generated e-mails on match.com - regular e-mails are always sent directly to the e-mail address I used to sign up. I also can't say that I've gotten fake-looking winks, but the proportion of fake/spam profiles on match.com may vary depending on the region. The prices are pretty exorbitant though.

Did you sign up? I get notifications sent to my email address that I've got an email. But I can't read them. It offers you a 72 hour free trial period, so you click that but all it does is take you to the sign up form. The cheapest option is 40 NZ dollarydoos a month (I think that's about 20US)! That's twice as much as any other site I've seen.

 

[AgntSmth]

Did you sign up? I get notifications sent to my email address that I've got an email. But I can't read them. It offers you a 72 hour free trial period, so you click that but all it does is take you to the sign up form.

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I've taken the 72 hour trial period before; you have to give them your billing info in the sign up form, but if you're diligent about tracking the 72 hours and cancel before they end, you won't get billed, at least if my experience is the norm.

 

[human_male]

I"m too chicken to use those sites personally.

But i hope it works out for you. Who knows? You might find someone.

Why are you chicken? You post here, AND you're brave enough to post a facepic right in your AV which hardly anyone does. I'm too chicken to do that.

Thanks. I've been trying for years and gotten nowhere but I keep trying. For some reason I keep trying.

 

[Ekserb]

Here's my experience with Match: I had a profile on there several years ago and paid for a few months (I think it was cheaper then than it is now). I rarely got any responses, but toward the end of my paid subscription I got a few winks and some emails. None of them ever panned out, but I was curious enough to renew for another few months.

I can't prove it, but I was pretty sure the interest I saw towards the end of the subscriptions was generated by the site just to whet my appetite and keep me coming back. Seemed like a scam, so I stopped paying and took down my profile.

By the way, you think Match is expensive? I looked into eHarmony and they want something like $600 a year. Fuck that!

Two things I hate: They always say how many active subscribers they have on the site, but who knows how they qualify the term "active," and they never tell you the actual percentage of people finding mates on the site. Oh, sure, they put up a few couples' testimonials, but those make up a very, very small slice of the total number of users.

Here's my testimonial: "I didn't meet anyone."

 

[human_male]

Here's my experience with Match: I had a profile on there several years ago and paid for a few months (I think it was cheaper then than it is now). I rarely got any responses, but toward the end of my paid subscription I got a few winks and some emails. None of them ever panned out, but I was curious enough to renew for another few months.

I can't prove it, but I was pretty sure the interest I saw towards the end of the subscriptions was generated by the site just to whet my appetite and keep me coming back. Seemed like a scam, so I stopped paying and took down my profile.

By the way, you think Match is expensive? I looked into eHarmony and they want something like $600 a year. Fuck that!

Two things I hate: They always say how many active subscribers they have on the site, but who knows how they qualify the term "active," and they never tell you the actual percentage of people finding mates on the site. Oh, sure, they put up a few couples' testimonials, but those make up a very, very small slice of the total number of users.

Here's my testimonial: "I didn't meet anyone."

I'm just as unimpressed and suspicious as you were so I took my profile down too. I'm almost positive those winks were fake. I mean talk about fucking underhanded.

I had a quick look at ehormony. What struck me was you can't get off the front page unless you subscribe. It doesn't tell you how much it is (no wonder, $600, fuck) and it won't let you search to even see if there are ads in your area. I mean what a fucking jip.

 

[Ekserb]

I had a quick look at ehormony. What struck me was you can't get off the front page unless you subscribe. It doesn't tell you how much it is (no wonder, $600, fuck) and it won't let you search to even see if there are ads in your area. I mean what a fucking jip.

No, you don't get to look around because they do the looking for you.

When I looked into it, I had to fill out a long and very tedious personal profile to which they would apply their super-secret eHarmony match-making software. Filling out the profile was free and I think that seeing the results of their search were free, but initiating any kind of contact with any one of those matches was most definitely not free.

I guess I was too honest in my profile because their system told me that I was going to have to loosen up or else I'd find it hard to meet someone. Hah! Or maybe I could just be myself and see what happens? Fuckers!

Even worse, if you do subscribe, you're expected to follow their seven-step plan for meeting and getting know your matches, even before you get to see a picture! They actually want you to find a match based solely on personality! Getthefuckouttahere!

This is how they soak you for money and why I figured the total cost was about $600 a year. If you follow their guidelines, you'd have to wade through months of prologue just to get to the part where you exchange email addresses. At $50 a month it was just too fucking expensive.

Elaine: "So, you're saying that ninety-eight percent of the population is un-dateable?"
Jerry: "Un-dateable!"
Elaine: "So, how are all these people getting together?"
Jerry: "Alcohol."

 

[somberReality]

Why are you chicken? You post here, AND you're brave enough to post a facepic right in your AV which hardly anyone does. I'm too chicken to do that.

Thanks. I've been trying for years and gotten nowhere but I keep trying. For some reason I keep trying.

I guess cause i'm not good at the whole dating thing....but here i don't have to worry with that.

 

[human_male]

I guess cause i'm not good at the whole dating thing....but here i don't have to worry with that.

I've had more luck here than on the actual dating sites. I've even had a couple of meets, although saddly neither of them went anywhere. Also, for some reason, most of the people that show interest in me are from overseas, which is odd and eternally confounding.

 

[somberReality]

I've had more luck here than on the actual dating sites. I've even had a couple of meets, although saddly neither of them went anywhere. Also, for some reason, most of the people that show interest in me are from overseas, which is odd and eternally confounding.

It must be the accent

 

[boo56]

match

HM:

I've had fair luck there.

I dated one woman I met through m*.com for a couple of months before she dropped me. It was her, though, not me. She said so herself. Whatever that means.

I met one woman for coffee and breakfast. Then we had a second date. But after a pizza, a pint of beer and a movie, she provided me with her psychological diagnosis of me. We didn't go out again. I didn't care how accurate the diagnosis was.

Then the woman I've been seeing for the last couple of years I met there, too. We're doing okay. It's not perfect. But it's no more haphazard than any other way of meeting potential romantic partners.

Your mileage may vary -

 

[MsTexas]

I'll throw this out there ....

Match.com Rapist

 

[AgntSmth]

I'll throw this out there ....

Match.com Rapist

Heh... the part where he claimed he was a spy should've been some sort of red flag. But still, pretty creepy.

 

[Noctame]

Xd.......

 

[tandoor]

I'll throw this out there ....

Match.com Rapist

Totally Off Topic, but WOW - that is a hot avatar...

 

[coastal-boy]

does it matter? think of it as entertainment instead of finding your "soul mate".

 

[baddog007]

i've met several lovely people on match in the last few years, some i dated for quite awhile. like any time your dealing with a large group of people, there's also a lot of bullsh*t to contend with, including the company.

 

[rydia57]

I hate that they've changed. I used to love the site myself. You could search for guys anyway you wanted. Instead of going by pics I went by profiles so I could see if we had stuff in common. Now you have to have a pic, and that's what comes up first... and yeah I can't check email without one. MatchDoctor is nice tho. They've got a forum too so you can talk instead of email.

 

[tystic]

Whats up with this Fling.com thing its everywhere you go. Anyone try it or is a scam. Its a pay site, I sign up and I had to stuff in Yahoo spam box. Sorry not trying to highjack.

 

[No_Boundaries]

My own story. . . . .

I've used a couple of dating sites. I used EHarmony about two years ago, before they changed their program. I emailed two men, one of whom I thought I'd hit it off with and who seemed promising.

You can imagine my disappointment when he called me and told me about his pathetic life. He was 34 and living in his parents basement. He also had an illegitimate son. He worked part time at a Target store. Not exactly a promising interest!

Match.com always confused me and I just cancelled my account this morning.

I'm using chemistry.com, which is okay. I've made a couple of connections, but nothing turned out romantic. That's just life, I guess.

I take the dating sites with a grain of salt. They make money from shy single people like me. And Dr. Phil can kiss my ass!

 

[human_male]

My own story. . . . .

I've used a couple of dating sites. I used EHarmony about two years ago, before they changed their program. I emailed two men, one of whom I thought I'd hit it off with and who seemed promising.

You can imagine my disappointment when he called me and told me about his pathetic life. He was 34 and living in his parents basement. He also had an illegitimate son. He worked part time at a Target store. Not exactly a promising interest!

Match.com always confused me and I just cancelled my account this morning.

I'm using chemistry.com, which is okay. I've made a couple of connections, but nothing turned out romantic. That's just life, I guess.

I take the dating sites with a grain of salt. They make money from shy single people like me. And Dr. Phil can kiss my ass!

It's sad that you threw away someone that you had a genuine connection with just because you thought his life was pathetic. He might have been a terrifuc guy who'd just fallen on hard times.

 

[IllLickItClean]

I tried Yahoo personals and Match.com for awhile, met some men, but ultimately it seemed no different than meeting anyone online. It seemed like people talk about wanting to find a real relationship, and say all the right things in the first initial conversations and then you meet and it becomes evident what they most want is a piece of ass. Then some of them get REALLY ugly when you're not down for that.

My Dad urged me to try eHarmony, but I never did. I stopped using the dating sites and just sort of took a break from seeking a relationship.

I ended up meeting my now fiancee via myspace. We frequented the same forum elsewhere and a thread was there sharing myspace pages and that led me to send him a friends request because we were local to each other. We ended up really hitting it off, obviously, but I wouldn't say either of us was looking for what we found in each other, but we're glad we did.

I wish you luck with it though!!

 

[human_male]

I tried Yahoo personals and Match.com for awhile, met some men, but ultimately it seemed no different than meeting anyone online. It seemed like people talk about wanting to find a real relationship, and say all the right things in the first initial conversations and then you meet and it becomes evident what they most want is a piece of ass. Then some of them get REALLY ugly when you're not down for that.

What I find so incredibly disheartening, depressing and confusing about all the times I've heard women say this, is here's a guy who's so NOT just looking for a piece of ass, and is actually genuinely interested in getting to know someone and hopefully leading on to a relationship (and I can't be the only one either) and yet women more often than not won't give me the time of day. Just completely ignore me. I've been on and off these sites for literally years and got absolutely nowhere. Zippo. I had one date and she went off me when she met me. So what the fuck?!

Congrats on your engagement and thank you most kindly.