is it possible to be in love with two women at the same time?

[Recidiva]

She had been in a complicated relationship for a while but its finished now. She is not after my job because we work in different areas. She also comments on how much effort I make to see her and how I go out of my way to spend time with her. She says I treat her different to other peiple have and make her feel special.

Here is not a good time to "let stuff happen."

I would say follow your heart, but only if your heart is wise. I'm with my husband now, but when we met, he was married, and then I was married when he was free. Ultimately we ended up together because we were better for each other. It was a six year odyssey of lots of pain and travail and trial.

If you're not sure about being with your wife, then maybe she'd be better off being with someone who is sure.

If you're tough and wise and you know what's best, then be honest with everyone, including yourself, and don't just watch until your life collides with someone else's and you wish you could go back and change course.

You see a problem, and if you do nothing about it, you are ultimately responsible. It's your life, do the right thing, whatever that is.

 

[NightL]

Think we are falling in love.

so your wife comes home and says "I've met this guy at work, we get along really well, flirt and cuddle whenever we get a chance. I think I am falling in love. Oh, I've already told my friends about this. You are all cool about this?" ...well would you be all cool?

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

She had been in a complicated relationship for a while but its finished now. She is not after my job because we work in different areas. She also comments on how much effort I make to see her and how I go out of my way to spend time with her. She says I treat her different to other peiple have and make her feel special.

They always want your job when you connect at work.

 

[amofiga]

Yes it is possible to be in love with more than one woman at the same time. This notion of "one perfect love" and "exclusive love" is something fostered by the elders of the tribe to keep peace among the members or by insecure women who feel that they have to keep a man in a cage to prevent him from "mating" with others. The desire for multiple mates is common in primates (including humans) for both the male and female and in certain chimp speces, it's quite common for both males and females to have multiple mates.

The problem is getting through the jealousy and insecurity that being in love with another means one can't love the original or others. Parents love more than one child. Why can't we love more than one person? Love is not the same as sexual desire even though the two "may" be linked. It's possible to have desire for someone you don't love, love someone you don't desire physically, or to have both. Pure love is not possessive. It's not jealous. It's giving rather than taking. It's sharing rather than hording.

Unfortunately, most societies have conditioned people from childhood that loving (implying physical love) more than one person at a time is somehow wrong. By the time we reach adulthood, that notion is so strongly ingrained with the notions of sin and guilt, that it's hard to shake it. What comedian used to say, "The Bible says 'love thy neighbor'.......just don't get caught at it."

I can truly say that during my life, I have loved more than one person at the same time. Ant it was not possessive. It was accepting and respectful. It was indeed more than just physical desire. Unfortunately I did get caught at it and unfortunately, our society doesn't seem to handle that notion very well. It caused enough problems that I wouldn't recommend it, and would urge those who find themselves in the position to try to be more noble and change it. If you've never watched Casablanca, do it. Then again, I AM a hopeless "romantic".

 

[mikoli5763]

Never had this experience, but

I think it is possible to love two women at the same time. As others have already commented though there are other factors to consider. Your relationship with your spouse, your ultimate goals, your relationship with your self all have to be explored.
Are you going to hurt your wife with your new found "love" for another woman? Do you not want to? Do you want to stay married or not? So many questions, outcomes, and emotions (both good and bad) will arise from this situation and you have to ask yourself if you can live with all of them.
Good luck! I feel you're going to need it!