Is being a male virgin at the age of 29/ 30 in May, a no go for the other person?

[Niklomenos]

Wanted some feedback in terms of virginity at the age of 30 and how other people with experiences view it.

 

[stickygirl]

Some people have had sex, some people haven't. There isn't a certificate, no outward signs. My advice is that it's not all it's cracked up to be - the only obstacle is over-thinking it.

 

[Niklomenos]

Some people have had sex, some people haven't. There isn't a certificate, no outward signs. My advice is that it's not all it's cracked up to be - the only obstacle is over-thinking it.

Thank you very much, should I mention something beforehand or it doesn't really matter?

 

[stickygirl]

Thank you very much, should I mention something beforehand or it doesn't really matter?

You're partner may work it out anyway, but the best policy is to be honest. Don't make it into a big deal, if anything treat with a little humour because that will relax both of you. Sex should be fun - you only get to frown just before you come. On that subject, if you come too early, be patient, because second helpings last longer. Did I say it should be fun?!

 

[Niklomenos]

You're partner may work it out anyway, but the best policy is to be honest. Don't make it into a big deal, if anything treat with a little humour because that will relax both of you. Sex should be fun - you only get to frown just before you come. On that subject, if you come too early, be patient, because second helpings last longer. Did I say it should be fun?!

Hahaha << you only get to frown just before you come>> pure gold! You boosted my confidence, with your wholesome message

 

[Niklomenos]

As someone who was with three different women who were "virgins" into their mid-30s, it didn't make a damn bit of difference as far as their ability or performance or anything. I just made sure to make it a positive, fun, sexy experience for them, same as I would for any partner any time. And it wasn't like they had no idea of how things worked or what they wanted, that's for sure.

And from my own experience, I did a lot of things prior, but didn't have intercourse until I was 23. Neither she nor I made a big deal out of it.

"Virginity" is kind of an unhelpful label that glosses over a lot of different mental, emotional, and physical nuance. There are things we've done, things we haven't done, and that's all.

Be honest with your partner always, and expect that from them, too. (If they can't deal, they're not the one you should be with, in my opinion.)

Thank you, sharing your story is very reassuring. I mean it's not a topic that I can comfortably discuss in a face to face conversation, neither with ny friends or dates but I got valuable feedback that that I had hoped for.

 

[el_uno77]

Thank you, sharing your story is very reassuring. I mean it's not a topic that I can comfortably discuss in a face to face conversation, neither with ny friends or dates but I got valuable feedback that that I had hoped for.

ditto to all the comments before. just relax. enjoy who you are with and if goes that route then be 100% honest and let your partner know. like msmstrokes said i didn't loose my virginity until well into my 20's and the girl i was with was also a virgin. it was nice that first time but it only gets better with practice. enjoy life and also be careful who you are with. too many diseases out there that you do not want to catch. good luck!

 

[Niklomenos]

ditto to all the comments before. just relax. enjoy who you are with and if goes that route then be 100% honest and let your partner know. like msmstrokes said i didn't loose my virginity until well into my 20's and the girl i was with was also a virgin. it was nice that first time but it only gets better with practice. enjoy life and also be careful who you are with. too many diseases out there that you do not want to catch. good luck!

Oh man this last sentence always keeps me on my toes. The feeling of the unknown as well as a danger of a disease lurking, not gonna lie it makes me a bit hesitant and then I have to really really like the girl. Anyways don't want to drag this message too long. Thank you, I truly believe in what you mentioned