intensity or intimacy

[jdmct]

Open question: Which does BDSM give you?

 

[laurel-marie]

Both.

 

[graceanne]

Open question: Which does BDSM give you?

Both. Sometimes at the same time, sometimes not.

 

[jdmct]

ladies

Thank you.
Both

James

 

[Rubyb]

Both.

Variety is the spice of life.

 

[laurel-marie]

Thank you.
Both

James

Your welcome.
I know you were probably looking for more of an explanation, but I was leaving that up to the more articulate ones.

 

[jdmct]

explanations

Was looking to promote discussion since everyone's experience is different.
Dom/Dommes and subs welcome.

James

 

[jdmct]

so far

all female subs so far........interesting

 

[Xelebes]

Typical GB response: This poll needs a poll with the obligatory "I love porn" option.

My response: Both.

 

[YinandYang]

Open question: Which does BDSM give you?

yep...Both.

The intimacy comes from the actual sharing of an act that requires alot of trust. The building up of trust, letting the other person take the lead as it were. IMO there is a different level of trust and intimacy in a D/s relationship. Being in this situation with someone else comfortably, requires that person to see my mind on a deeper level than any nilla relationship I have had. So far there have been times where he has dragged certain things out of my psyche that has scared me, or surprised me...thats a form of intimacy for me ref the mind. On a physical level, he has took me to my limits by asking me to do things I would not normally do. For example be completely naked and at ease (after two large babies my confidence died lol). To me thats intimacy also, kind of like bungee jumping and having that person with you both physically and mentally, once you jump (hopefully) your fears subside. Intimacy is knowing that the next morning when my arse is hurting and I go to sit down, he recognises the flash across my eyes and comes over to hold me, communicating without speaking. Its when he takes me to subspace, or when I cry with emotion and he wraps his arms around me without saying a word. Its the unwritten feelings and emotions that pass between us.

Intensity....thats the part when I can hardly breathe because of the emotions I am feeling, from the light to the extreme. Its the aspect of my personality that craves to go deeper, that bit of me that is only open to him. Its the time when my submission makes me want to climb inside him and reside there, and knowing that no one in my life but him can make me feel that way.

 

[cinnamonstick]

both......