PacificBlue
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I think I've heard this more times that I care to remember...
"You always go for the negative" Everytime I hear this, I'm left wondering "What?" One of my girlfriends, who I've known for 12 years, explained what she meant last night and I finally got it.
Apparently, I'm not supposed to take to heart what is said about what I think and/or feel. I'm just supposed to listen and then either blow it off or respond by telling the person that I think they are wrong in their opinion of me. Just because people disagree doesn't mean they are going to walk away or shut me out. If they do, they weren't friends to begin with. In her opinion, I take things entirely too personally, I usually don't respond, and then I just disappear.
She said, it isn't that people don't like you or don't want to know you...they do. But, when someone tells you they disagree with whatever it is you think or do, you think they don't like you and you proceed to beat the emotional hell out of yourself.
I'm not really sure how we got to this conversation last night, as it had nothing to do with the original phone call. She even apologized for that at the end but she wanted me to know that she missed seeing me around and she wanted to remind me that I have a lot to offer the world...I need to stop running.
What's odd...I slept better last night than I have in months.
"You always go for the negative" Everytime I hear this, I'm left wondering "What?" One of my girlfriends, who I've known for 12 years, explained what she meant last night and I finally got it.
Apparently, I'm not supposed to take to heart what is said about what I think and/or feel. I'm just supposed to listen and then either blow it off or respond by telling the person that I think they are wrong in their opinion of me. Just because people disagree doesn't mean they are going to walk away or shut me out. If they do, they weren't friends to begin with. In her opinion, I take things entirely too personally, I usually don't respond, and then I just disappear.
She said, it isn't that people don't like you or don't want to know you...they do. But, when someone tells you they disagree with whatever it is you think or do, you think they don't like you and you proceed to beat the emotional hell out of yourself.
I'm not really sure how we got to this conversation last night, as it had nothing to do with the original phone call. She even apologized for that at the end but she wanted me to know that she missed seeing me around and she wanted to remind me that I have a lot to offer the world...I need to stop running.
What's odd...I slept better last night than I have in months.
