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[miles]

My $.02

I don't think the nastiness is any more prevalent than it was in the past. In fact I think it's pretty tame right now.

The board just doesn't do much for me anymore. When I open the board and see the same people starting new threads on the same subjects, it gets pretty boring.

Most of the humor is gone, too. The really funny people like PC and PH are pretty scarce lately.

The fucking trolls don't even visit anymore.

 

[Juspar Emvan]

Dill - I'm with you. I give a certain amount of respect as what I consider a basic due to everyone, but you can either increase the respect I give you, or decrease it depending on your actions.

I will no - and have not - tollerated anyone lambasting my friends. It's a terrible toss up between not responding to the nameless ones, and standing up for those worthy of our respect. I choose to respond, so no one can doubt my position and then ignore.

Lets hope this board will grow towards your ideal, rather than away from it. We the community are the only control.

 

[Texan]

Dillinger..... very well said!

I am pleased that you said what you did, and I'm also pleased with the responses you are receiving.

I'm sure a lot of us will be watching to see who replies to this thread.

 

[patient1]

A long but worthwhile read.

Yes, you are a member of this community.

The members have my respect, as do you.

Unless a thread has a question in the title, I don't concern myself with ones started by non-members.

If someone repeatedly offends me & others I place them on ignore, & I don't open their threads.

I figure that like you, the offenders you may have in mind "make no apology for saying what I thought or for sticking up for those I consider to be my friends".

My approach has been less direct, quetioning folks or supporting them through PMs, trying to float some better alternatives as threads.Refusing to post to such threads & keep them afloat.

Practitioners of more agressive approaches have been ridiculed for being self-appointed LIT police by senior community members not long ago.

I generally treat everyone with respect.

 

[MissTaken]

I almost feel relieved that Dill posted and it is "out in the open."

I know I am feeling a sense of relief to find that I am not the only one who has had serious misgivings about the board.

Yes, some may say we take lit too seriously or, as I think has been said, "We have no lives." Well, we sure do have lives, real lives outside of the boards, away from the pc.

For many, Lit supplements and enriches our real lives, it does not take away from them. As such, we should all have a vested interest in the energy and vitality of the site.

 

[RhumbRunner13]

Dead on!!

You are right on all counts Dill, and we should all strive to respect each other within the bounds of this rather strange community.....strange, at least to me. I guess some have met, but not most. We can't read smiles, or eyes, or the way our friend carries himself when he is down. I think sometimes humor is injected, and taken the wrong way. The cat fight begins and before you know it someone is hurt or pissed off. I'm not sure there is a solution......maybe repost your thoughts every month or so, so we remember to be a little more careful.

Till then,

How ya doin'?

RhumbRunner

 

[Summery]

*Stands up and applauds Dillinger*

I support you completely.

This is an extremely large community. With so many diverse people. Everyday is not going to be a day full of bliss. There's good and bad and indifferent. Real people with real life ups and downs, real joy and real sorrow.
It's our community, and it is what we choose to make it! We all need to take responsibility. And, most certainly everyone deserves respect. None of have the right to stand in judgment of anyone else.
After reading what you wrote, I realized my attitude as of late has been part of the problem rather than part of the solution here on the board. I am guilty of bitching to other's in PM and in chat how I couldn't stand the fact that Lit doesn't feel like it used to, and that it wasn't as fun to me as it used to be. I bitched instead being an active member and participating and doing something about adding my own life to the board. I guess it is time to adjust my own attitude!
I really should have known better. I learned something pretty amazing back during the week of Valentine's Day. I was flooded with PM's from people who thanked me for my part in the fun and light hearted stuff I brought to the board. The biggest surprise was that most of the PM's came from long time Lit members I don't otherwise interact with. So, everybody plays a part here. And, you just never know how you may be effecting someone else.
I will do my part. I will continue to treat other's with respect. I will continue to contribute to the fun of this board. I will continue to be a friend to someone in need. I will always be there to support my friend and other's when it is needed.
Thanks again Dill for the eye opener.

SummerRose/ Renee'

*Just my .02 that I hope made some sense*

 

[Desert Amazon]

Great post and intent

 

[Siren]

I agree with CH

 

[Guest]

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Problem Child]

The only thing I want to add is Purple Haze has green pubic hair that's rough like a brillo pad, and goddamnit but my lips are chapped.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Laurel]

The only thing I want to add is Purple Haze has green pubic hair that's rough like a brillo pad, and goddamnit but my lips are chapped.

You should introduce him to Magic (TM).

 

[Problem Child]

You should introduce him to Magic (TM).

I like the green pubes, they're sorta mossy-like.

 

[JazzManJim]

Hear, Hear, Dillinger!

Yeah..I bailed for a shockingly short few days a couple of weeks ago, and it really was much of this silliness that brought me to it.

Pretty much I post to the places that interest me and I've done more than my share of frivolous posting. I stand by all that. Hell...I"m a frivolous guy a hell of a lot of the time.

What I won't stand for is someone bashing my friends. Not I've been lucky in that my friends haven't been bashed where I've seen it. I've seen some other bashing and it rightly pissed me off. I said my ever-so-brief piece to the person, albeit in PM, and that's where it rested. Matter settled, as far as I'm concerned.

Everything else is, with me, copacetic.

My big gripe is that the threads are running rampant. Threads aren't a bad idea, and hell, I post my own shit surely enough. For an example of that check out my Migraine thread or the thread where I enumerate why I'm such a complete idiot at times. But the point of those is good, clean fun, pretty much at my own expense, or just to gripe in the hopes that someone will gripe with me and make me feel better. Yeah..it's all about ego-stroking. I admit it. I'm a whore for it.

But, having said that, there isn't even enough of that kind of stuff - the meaty stuff that either tackles an issue or just shows us what someone is going through during their day. It's the threads of "community" that I've been missing lately.

Or maybe I"m just being a grump. Hard to tell.

Oh, but I got an A- on my first ever Literature test, so Yay for me!

 

[thumbs2_ca]

Well put Dillinger. I have an awful lot of respect for many people on this board and I have made what I feel are some very close friends.
I stick up for my friends and always will and I do not respond to trolls or any unregistered posters.
I come here to relax and enjoy myself and generally stay clear of posting to some threads that will just end up getting my blood pressure up.
I agree with your post 100%

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Thank you for opening this thread, Dillinger.

One should be able to debate or argue a subject matter which can become a challenge in itself. But there is never a reason for name-calling and other theatrical and insulting behaviour.

I have always felt comfortable posting here at LIT, and will not take part in any personal insults. I'm not sure if sticking up for those who get "trolled" or "flamed" is an answer, but I respect those who will try and stand up for their friends. However, this appears to just trigger off more trolling and insults, and those particular threads should just be left to die. (Perhaps that is why I usually remain silent during these outbursts.)

Take care of yourself Dillinger; many of us are suffering with personal and health issues "behind the scenes", but that only makes a site like this more important for us since we can channel our worries and fears and get it out of our systems. Plus have a lot of fun which definitely is a good thing.

I enjoy your posts and agree with this thread very strongly.

 

[fgarvb1]

count me in.

 

[Tyrael]

I usually try not to get pissy and mouth off at people, but on occasion I've been known to be a worthless whiny little bitch.

I'll try harder to control myself though.

 

[Lady_Sam]

I'm new to these boards. In fact they were the first boards where I felt comfortable posting about sexual matters. But I have found in the short time I"ve been here that there are a lot of threads that I wont touch, simply because they are nothing more than anonymous namecalling. I thought this board was full of adults. Now I realize that we can all be childish at times, but there comes a time when we have to realize that our actions have consequences.

I'm with you Dill. For what my input is worth.

 

[cuz cracker]

YO, me too Dillinger. although some days i do get up on the wrong side of the bed.

 

[The_old_man]

I'm in!

I normaly post only when I feel that I can contribute something positive.

Tonight has been unusual...this is my third post in one night.

As in the military - Salute the uniform, follow the man.

You have a follower.

 

[cymbidia]

I think you're wonderful, Robert, a thing you already know.
I admire and respect you for the character you so consistently display as well as the morals to which you hold, no matter the provocation.

What you've said needed saying.

We're coming out of a protracted nasty time here at Lit and it's time to open some windows and air out the place. Time to lift rugs and beat the winter doldrums out of them. Time to shake the accumulated bad stuff off like a dog coming out of the river shakes off water.

Consider your words heard, my friend.
We shall all see if they're acted upon or not.

In any case, should you decide to go, all of Lit would be a far poorer place without you, surely you know that, and some of us would miss you sharply. (Some of us wouldn't lose you, even if you left Lit, not as long as email works.)

b.

 

[The_old_man]

bump