I'm sure you've heard it a thousand times

[SouthTampaGuy]

I'm giving this a shot in hopes that this may pan out. All other attempts have been unsuccessful

I'm a married male in Tampa who fantasizes about being dominated/humiliated/controlled by a BBWDomme

My wife has tried on a number of occassions, but she says she cannot go too far, that she loves me too much and it is too hard.

If there are any Dommes in the Tampa area who would be willing to at least sit down with two of us, explain what is expected, so that she is totally in the loop (She would like to watch at some point) and then take me under their wing. I would greatly appreciate it

I am bi and into a great many interests (GS included). I just want to experience this. Test my boundaries and surpass them. I want to totally give in and submit

I hope this falls into the right and willing hands

PS If there's any information I have left out and you need more questions answered before making a decision, just let me know. I understand that a sore subject between true Dom/Sub relationships are those who are "weekend"D/Sers, and that's why I thought the 3 of us could sit down so that everyone gets what they want


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Eric

 

[NemoAlia]

Hey there STGuy! Welcome to lit BDSM. You seem very open and eager to get involved. I hope that you find our board as welcoming, informative, and entertaining as you might hope!

That being said, have you tried placing your ad in the personal ads forum? There's a BDSM personals thread there that might garner you a good-sized audience. Probably you'll have better luck than you'll have in here, since personal ads are usually discouraged in this forum.

Good luck!

 

[NemoAlia]

Hmm... it only just occurred to me that, according to your profile, you've been around lit longer than I have. I feel kind of silly welcoming you to a place where you've been for a long time. Still, it's nice to see you de-lurk!

 

[SouthTampaGuy]

NemoAlia

I wasn't so much lurking as not even using the boards at all

I was content in my little world checking out the story updates

I did place an ad on the Personals. Many views, no replies. I just assumed that people thought I was another player and not serious, so I tried the this board

I didn't know I was being offensive, not that you said I was, but that my post COULD BE and I apologize

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Eric

 

[UCE]

Post your ad in a lot of places, Mr. South Tampa, and in the really big places like alt.com. You'll get more responses, the more places you post. Also, don't neglect the swingers groups in your area. Many kinky people are part of these groups, too.

 

[HzDomme]

Read, read and read some more. Join a local group in your area and go to a munch. You will probably meet a domme who would love to share her knowledge with your wife if she is willing to accept it.
If that fails contact local pro dommes. Find one who is willing to let your wife watch. Tell her what kind of session you want and just go on from there.

Your wife is right, it can be hard work but you have to show her that the results are worth her efforts. Take it slow; she'll learn your tolerences and limits. Ask for more of what you want. When she is using you tell her that you can take more. Show her you enjoy it. Give her time to get comfortable with your limits.