I'm I just REALLY nieve?

[nasty]

ok. As you all know, I asked a girl out, about a month ago, AND, I flirt DAILY with her. She SEEMS to appreciate it. Today, she asked me if I was ok,(since she saw someone else pushing me.) I told her I was fine. He was just being polite. I even bought a "Thank You" card,(because it was the highlight of my day.) She STILL hasn't said "Yes," yet. Should I just take the hint, and move on? Or, should I keep trying?

 

[lilminx]

I really could be wrong, but it seems as if she just wants to be your friend. She seems to genuinely care about you, but if she hasn't given you an answer yet, she probably feels funny telling you that she only wants to be friends. It seems that she doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

Again, I could be wrong.

 

[Angel]

Don't wait for her. Go on with your life. If she comes to you, so be it. If not at least you didn't waste your time.

I should follow my own fucking advice.

 

[Laurel]

Angel's on the money, as usual. It's a helluva lot easier said than done, though.

 

[Angel]

Angel's on the money, as usual. It's a helluva lot easier said than done, though.

It is. Definitely.

 

[nasty]

Again, you say it best, Laurel. It does seem a bit odd that she'd spare my feelings. This girl told me she "had to pee," so, quite outspoken.

 

[nasty]

Sorry. I didn't want to leave out Angel.

 

[Angel]

Sorry. I didn't want to leave out Angel.

LOL, it's okay Nasty.

 

[lilminx]

I guess I'm just chopped liver then

 

[Dillinger]

I assume you mean névé - and yes, in fact, you are just a partially compacted granular snow that forms the surface part of the upper end of a glacier.

 

[Laurel]

She maybe actually interested, yet be a game player. She may not be interested. I don't know her, so I can't judge. I can say that if you do allow her to string you along - in the name of proving what a loyal and caring person you are - you will not endear yourself to her. If she's not interested, you may annoy her. The best strategy - easier said than done, by far! - is to go on about your life. Don't be mean to her, but don't hover over her. Be polite and friendly, but not doting. Show her - and yourself - that you're a busy, interesting person with a full life. If she's interested, she'll come around. If not, you're more likely to find a girl who is if you're not spending your time on her.

 

[nasty]

LOL. I responded to you in a roundabout way. You said she's probably just sparing my feelings. I said, well, she said, "I have to pee." So, it's not like she doesn't say what she's thinking.

 

[Laurel]

I assume you mean névé - and yes, in fact, you are just a partially compacted granular snow that forms the surface part of the upper end of a glacier.

Nasty the Snowman?

 

[nasty]

I don't know what to think. DAMN IT!!!!!!!!! I feel like HKBJ in this situation. I appreciate all your advice. But, it's SO HARD moving on.

 

[fgarvb1]

Nasty, i don't know. She may not know.

now having said that, most of the time they know if your on their date list before you ever thought of the question.

then.again i've had some very good ladyfriends and we have screwed ourselves silly over many years...but date? a real date?
boyfriend/girfriend date? why you would have to hold a gun on us!

relationships are what you make out of them.

sometimes ya win, some times ya lose, and sometimes ya can't tell between the two!

i do know this, if you don't try you will never have a relationship that you are happy with.

Hang I There Bud.!

 

[horny_giraffe]

You never know. You could wait for years for some kind of resolution. Honestly.

In my experience, most people have no idea what the hell they want, and that probably applies to this girl, too. If you like waiting, wait. If you don't like waiting, don't wait.

Do you really want to live your life trying to figure out these "hints?" I hate those damm mind games, myself. I say: speak your mind, and expect her to do the same.

On the other hand, I've never had a relationship that was particularly well-defined. I'm still not sure if my ex "girlfriend" was my girlfriend, or just a fuck-buddy, or a friend, or what. We don't have any legal relationship, that's all I know.

 

[Thomas Paine]

Dude, I hate to be the one that pricks the balloon for you, but you did ask for opinions.

When a man asks a woman out on a date, there are really only two acceptable answers: "Yes" and "No, thank you." The negative reply can be and often is couched in conciliatory terms to spare the guy's feelings.

If you asked somebody out and she said anything other than "yes," she meant "no," but didn't have the courage to say so. That doesn't mean she doesn't like you, it doesn't necessarily mean that she wouldn't go out with you at some future time, but for now, consider yourself turned down.

As to whether you should ask again, you're going to have to decide that, but if you're waiting around for her to fully consider your first invitation, you've wasted a lot of precious time. Better to find someone else who won't pull your chain.

Oh, and if you REALLY bought a "Thank You" card for her because she inquired into your general state of wellbeing, please don't send it. If I were a woman, it would creep me out...

 

[nasty]

Yeah. I thought about not giving it to her. But, it's too late. I thought I was being sweet, but, now that you said that, I'm not so sure.

 

[Styphon]

I assume you mean névé - and yes, in fact, you are just a partially compacted granular snow that forms the surface part of the upper end of a glacier.

You'd be naive to think that




Styphon