I'm considering having a lezzy-type experience and I'd like some suggestions.

[alexandraaah]

What should I do?

There's this one woman who gave me her number at a bar last week. She told me she had been watching me all night and thought I was beautiful and that she wanted me to model for her in the clothes she sells in her store. I was completely flattered and thought nothing else of it. My friend said "obviously, she was hitting on you."

I didn't see it. I'm just not that sharp.

Should I call her? I guess she was cute...I don't know if she'd really by my fancy or anything. I just want someone else who is curious, not someone who's going to make things all complicated.


What's a bi-curious girl to do?

 

[tswyk]

Call her.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. It's not like she's going to force you to do something you're not comfortable with. So....give her a call....check it out.....

and get back to us with the details!

 

[alexandraaah]

Yeah...I'll probably call her. I'll let you know as well.

What about in general though? Is it best to try hooking up with an established lesbian for experimentation? That sounds exploitative to me for some reason.

 

[kotori]

I'd at least ask to see her union card, or some credentials. You wouldn't want to go off all half cocked. Wait, wrong simile.

 

[just pet]

What establishes a lesbian? If you decide to "hook up" or experiment, do it with someone you like that turns you on. As with anyone you play with communication is key. Call her if you're in the mood...

pet

 

[alexandraaah]

What establishes a lesbian? If you decide to "hook up" orexperiment, do it with someone you like that turns you on. As with anyone you play with communication is key.

pet

Hmm...good call. So, I should just go about it as I would if I was picking up a guy. I think I remember what that's like.

 

[tswyk]

What about in general though? Is it best to try hooking up with an established lesbian for experimentation? That sounds exploitative to me for some reason.

I'm with Just Pet on this one - it won't matter if she's experienced or not if you're not attracted to her.

You'll know when it's right, don't worry.

 

[Laurel]

Be sure to take lots of pictures for your good friends here at Lit.

 

[alexandraaah]

I'm with Just Pet on this one - it won't matter if she's experienced or not if you're not attracted to her.

You'll know when it's right, don't worry.

Thanks...I think I got a handle on the situation with this woman, but I'm still curious just in general. Short of wearing a sandwich board sign that says, "Looking for a woman to satisfy my curiosity, apply within," I'm kind of at a loss.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Hamletmaschine]

Call her.

If it turns out she's not hitting on you, you can get a job out of it, right?

What's to lose?

You're sharp enough to know how to read a situation, Alex.

 

[DustyWolfe]

If you don't call you will someday regret it.
Just make things casual, if you are stressed out then it makes things awkward.

Try to just go with the flow if you can. I know it is easier said than done of course.

 

[Zamdrist]

I for one encourage bi-sexuality in women.

But then, I'm a horn dog.

 

[perks]

sugah... just some advice

be careful not to be with someone just because you're curious about the experience. Remeber there is a human being on the other end of your curiosity and they might actually want more than a passing flirtation.

wondahtwin2

 

[Gnufi Poppets]

It is being that I am the suggesting that it is the best lezzy thing to be the doing that you are the inviting the big cock stud man to be with the two of you to be making it the most happy of all lezzie experiences there is the ever being.

 

[alexandraaah]

sugah... just some advice

be careful not to be with someone just because you're curious about the experience. Remeber there is a human being on the other end of your curiosity and they might actually want more than a passing flirtation.

wondahtwin2

This is precisely why I'm posing the question.

With the above being said, now what's the advice?

Clearly, anyone who gets in my pants or even has one date with me is sure to be smitten for life; of that, I can guarantee you.

 

[perks]

This is precisely why I'm posing the question.

With the above being said, now what's the advice?

Clearly, anyone who gets in my pants or even has one date with me is sure to be smitten for life; of that, I can guarantee you.

okay, after having said the above perkyismpearl of wisdom. I too am not positive that you've been hit on. Secondly, do you want to model her clothes? Thirdly, it never hurts to meet new people and start relationships, even though it may only be a friendship. Fourthly, you already think of her in a sexual manner, can you just be in the moment or do you now have an agenda? Fifthly...I am liking this counting thing, I almost spelled that last one, filthy.

 

[heterotic]

This is precisely why I'm posing the question.

With the above being said, now what's the advice?

Clearly, anyone who gets in my pants or even has one date with me is sure to be smitten for life; of that, I can guarantee you.

I'd have to tell you to go for it. If she really is looking for a bit of fun, she'll probably ask you if you've ever done anything like it before. Tell her you haven't, and I really doubt that she'd expect you to commit to a serious relationship based on an experiment.

I'd also have to tell you to go for it because that's what I did recently in a similar situation, other gender, and I'm glad I had the experience.

 

[Cara_f_32]

I can relate.....

Perky gives some excellent advice......

At a wedding a year ago there was a beautiful woman originally from Poland and now living in Canada.....She was one of those women that makes us normally confident women go on diets, get our hair done and wear sexier clothes and the only woman I've ever found sexually arousing to my male loving self.

I was surprised when i was approached by the bride ( a very close friend of mine) of this wedding in the bathroom who told me that this particular woman was bisexual. It was hard not to take my eyes off of her after that. We exchanged words throughout the nite and that was the end of that.....(I could write a book on how I find this woman attractive)

Until New Years Eve when she was at the same club I was. It was her who said to me " I'm bisexual and I find you attractive" I dang near fell off of my hetreo sitting bar stool. She knew my shock, and handed me her phone number before she left.

Now I find myself in your predictment...4 months later....I have been half expecting to run into her since we hang with the same people. My thoughts are exactly what Perky said...she is a woman with feelings.....and i'm a man loving woman. Is it correct to go through with it just because I have her as my first bi experience fantasy about? Probably not, but i think about it alot.

 

[alexandraaah]

Okay all you fabulous people...I will say again, only annoyingly loudly: FORGET ABOUT THE GIRL WHO GAVE ME HER NUMBER. I would never not be up front with her, but she was just a launching point for the question.

How does a hetero girl go about having a non-hetero experience?

 

[seXieleXie]

go to a queer bar. i'm sure you've got those in chicago. it's a good place to meet queer women who just wanna hook up.

.... or so i've heard

 

[perks]

How does a hetero girl go about having a non-hetero experience?

<grin> I so knew this was the real question.

 

[alexandraaah]

<grin> I so knew this was the real question.

No fair. You started it.

I gotta run out for a bit. Will someone help while I'm gone?

 

[heterotic]

I'm tellin' ya, that's the way to do it. I can't tell you how to find lesbians, because if I could I'd be out setting up video cameras in their rooms, not in here posting on a message board.

But if you do happen to find one, go for the experiment, as long as she knows it's an experiment. She can't reasonably expect a relationship to form when you don't even know if she fits your sexual orientation.

 

[Gnufi Poppets]

It is being that the idea I am the having is the not the helping at all in the any way? I am the sorry I am!