If you had 10 rules of safely meeting

[myinnerslut]

some good tips here

how bout request an STD/HIV test before engaging in any play

 

[Netzach]

some good tips here

how bout request an STD/HIV test before engaging in any play

Not a bad idea. Alternately and in addition, I've always based my activity on the assumption that that person *has* HIV rather than that person *does not* - leading to the use of gloves and condoms as a reflexive impulse, as a "given."

Morbid thinking, but it's worked pretty well for me.

 

[WriterDom]

References are a good idea. People who have actually met this person in real life. Yes, there are flaws with it, but if they react negatively it's a big red flag.

 

[the captians wench]

References are a good idea. People who have actually met this person in real life. Yes, there are flaws with it, but if they react negatively it's a big red flag.

I'm not sure I know anyone who would be happy with the idea that I gave out their im or what ever as a refference to some one they don't know. Hell I barely give out the names of my close friends until I've met the person. Of course, now that I think about it, I don't think my mom would mind if I gave her email out to some one, but she'd be wanting to drill him as much as him her. *giggles* Hmmm....maybe I should use her as a screener, sort of like my own personal hiring manager.

I did know a guy at the old mcd's who the girls all drooled over. Eventually a few of them asked him out and he asked for each girl to fill out an aplication. They told me that I should fill out one too, and I looked at them and said "why the fuck would I fill out an application for some one to help him decide if I was worth talking to further and possibly taking out. He's by every night, so if he doesn't like what he sees while he's here he's not going to like what he sees on paper. I'm not filling out an aplication to talk to a guy, that's bull shit." Seemed to work for him tho *shrug*

 

[roomfor1more]

some good tips here

how bout request an STD/HIV test before engaging in any play

I have mixed feelings on this. From my perspective if you are not monogamous or have not been in a relationship with the same person in a monogamous relationship for a few years then you should be tested for your own safety. However relying on someone to give you their results as being accurate, I feel is foolish due to medical privacy laws. This means there is no way you can verify someone else's results due to the laws surrounding privacy of medical records and there is no way to know with 100% certainty what they are saying is correct. If you do not trust them then you should not "play" with them.

 

[roomfor1more]

Good points so far and I will not repeat them. Other points from a more broader perspective.

1) Using a pay-and-go mobile as your contact number in order to protect your privacy.

2) Consider making first meeting in public a "meet & greet" whereby no sex happens and all can have time to decide before taking things further.

3) Challenge on any deviation from previous statements and get clarification why the statement has changed.

4) Do not rush to meet and take some time to get them through other forms of contact such as email.

5) Be assertive and do not be afraid to say 'no.'

6) Know your limits and interests. Do not agree to changes at the last moment and do not change your boundaries in the heat of the moment.

7) Create an alias in order to protect your identity.

8) Clarify what will be involved with the first meeting, if it is acceptable then agree, and do not deviate from it.

9) Trust your instincts and do not let emotions rule .

10) Meet at a place that you are familiar with, in case you need to leave early.

 

[Lancecastor]

Rule #1 for cute submissives is "Trust Lance and Only Lance."