If you could do it over again

[Beck31]

Not to go into a lot of extra or unnessisary details but my cirmcumstances concerning a few things have changed. The dynamic has changed since then and perhaps I have changed a bit as well.

 

[Ozfetishguy]

I'm still curious about other people's first times and what later experience has taught you that you wish you would have known the first time around.

This is going to sound clichéd, but my first time was so disappointing I really did wonder what all the fuss was about. I really cared for the woman in question, which added to the disappointment.

One thing that a little bit more experience taught me is that sex should be fun, and you shouldn’t get embarrassed or take it too seriously.

 

[NeverWinterNite]

If you could have your first time again, knowing what you know now, what would you do differently? Would you have given your virginity away sooner or later than you did? Would you have chosen a different person? What would you have done differently, and why? What advice would you give someone who is thinking about giving away their own virginity?

I figured better to post a new thread than hijack MrSneakyinPA's one about people's first times, which has had lots of interesting responses and made me wonder about the questions above.

If I was to have my first time again, I wouldn't have sex with that guy. He didn't know what he was doing even though he was older than me. I should have picked a different person who was more experienced and could meet my needs. I think I should have waited for someone who at least I cared about.

I lost my virginity at a late age and I shouldn't have waited that long. It was a mistake but I believe everything happens for a reason.

My advice is to wait for someone that at least cares about you to lose your virginity.

 

[Eve_xo]

Its threads like this that make me too scared to lose it...

 

[NICEGUY74]

I wouldn't have been so gentle.......

 

[stucknut]

Unfortunately, if I get an opportunity to do go back and do over my first time I would probably not want to stop there. There are a number of periods in my life I'd like to take another whack at. Sad to say.

 

[Beck31]

I can relate to a degree.

 

[ice6869]

I wouldn't change a thing except made her my wife. It was awesome. Still remember everything like it happened yesterday and that was 25 yrs ago. Unfortunately we lost contact after we left high school.

 

[IARainman]

First time was pretty good, just way too late. I missed out on a lot of care-free 80's sex.

 

[BBW_T&A_Lover]

I think if I had to do it all over again, I would pay a lot more attention to her needs as I've learned the guy virtually always gets his needs satisfied in the end. I would have liked to have made it a memorable experience for her.

I made sure she got her's first, usually by my tongue or hand/fingers. I couldn't rely on the little guy to hold out long enough for her to come from sex. It took her forever.

 

[DarkRefuge]

I wouldn't change a damn thing. That first-time-clumsiness was priceless.

 

[Reshbod]

I'd be more flexible in that I wouldn't limit myself to just women.

 

[Beck31]

I'd take things a little more seriously when needed and go with the flow when needed too.
Probably would also change some of my approach techniques. They were akward back then.

 

[martinca2b]

The only thing I would change is where it happened. My first time was at a party, we were in a bedroom with the door closed and could hear our friends outside the door carrying on. It only made us more nervous about an awkward and clumsy first time.

On more thing, had I known we were going to go all the way that night, I would have masturbated 30 minutes prior so I would have maybe had a chance to last more than a couple of minutes. Although, i was so excited and nervous I don't know if even that would have helped all that much, lol.