If you could do it over again

[LusciousLily]

If you could have your first time again, knowing what you know now, what would you do differently? Would you have given your virginity away sooner or later than you did? Would you have chosen a different person? What would you have done differently, and why? What advice would you give someone who is thinking about giving away their own virginity?

I figured better to post a new thread than hijack MrSneakyinPA's one about people's first times, which has had lots of interesting responses and made me wonder about the questions above.

 

[jennytwoshoes]

Definitely. I would've made sure that either we weren't drunk for starters, and maybe put it off for a bit longer. In the end, no harm done in the way it happened, but I would have liked it to be a bit more special and fulfilling.

 

[saskatuna1]

One thing I could name, probably, would be to determine somehow ahead of time that spermicidal condoms make my cock go numb. That was... less than helpful for someone with nerves already.

 

[monkeyman057]

I wouldn't have been in such a damn hurry, that's for sure. Don't get me wrong - it was OK, but in retrospect wasn't worth all the work I did to get there.

 

[othbndy]

If you could have your first time again, knowing what you know now, what would you do differently? Would you have given your virginity away sooner or later than you did? Would you have chosen a different person? What would you have done differently, and why?

I figured better to post a new thread than hijack Beck31's one about people's first times, which has had lots of interesting responses and made me wonder about the questions above.

I think if I had to do it all over again, I would pay a lot more attention to her needs as I've learned the guy virtually always gets his needs satisfied in the end. I would have liked to have made it a memorable experience for her.

 

[Sexyladykate]

The first time was utterly forgettable. without a doubt I would choose someone different. my second choice was pretty damn good though

 

[Frodo55]

Only thing that I'd do differently is make her my own wife. She's everything I'm still searching for

 

[callmeismael]

The sex itself was fantastic and I wouldn't change any of it. Ending up with a crush on an older woman who was a bit nuts is the part I'd avoid if I could redo it.

 

[gregy70]

I remember waking up the next morning, watching her sleep & having this overwhelming desire to eat her pussy.
I wish I did!

 

[Youremine]

Concert, Car sex, a guy whose name I remember but for the life of me can't remember what he looked like! Haha! Good times nope honestly wouldn't change a thing.

 

[kodos9000]

......... Sick of the Dictatorship in here! I am out of here.... To all my friends take care.

 

[LusciousLily]

These are some interesting answers. The genitals-going-numb thing would have freaked me right out, if it had been me!

I'm still curious about other people's first times and what later experience has taught you that you wish you would have known the first time around.

 

[tonethebone]

I wouldn't do it on my parents bed (They were out). That kinda freaked me out afterwards. And of course I wish I lasted longer She was really cute, but very much on the LARGE side. To this day she had the hottest pussy I have ever felt.

 

[JennyNo1]

Yes, I wish I'd waited and that it had been with someone else who was not batshit crazy. I wish it hadn't been sneaking off to one of his friend's house. I wish everything about it had NOT been, period. Memorable, just the wrong way.

 

[Que]

That's a really tough question....

In general terms I wish I hadn't waited nearly as long... I lost my virginity on my wedding night with you look lovely future mother of my children.

By that point since she was by far not a virgin she was kind of pissed that I was still holding out...

On the other hand by that point she idk on me in Doral which I enjoyed quite a bit.. giving and receiving...

I don't know when you reach a certain age you know that you are who you are because of what you've been through so it's hard to say.

My advice would probably be not to wait because there's always a way to make the first time with any particular person interesting and memorable if you take the time to feel connected first.

After the divorce... I was little shell shocked to take a while to get out there... at first I just wanted to a casual platonic date I found out it's a lot easier to get laid than to get a date. this let me to discover that it's just not really worth it to me if I can't take the time to build a connection first otherwise it's hard for me to get off anyway.

I say..find somebody that interests you, enjoy that tension leading up to whatever it leads up to and if it doesn't end up leading to something, you still had all that enjoyable tension.

 

[gabriel16]

Each

Each time is terrific - to see and learn about oneself and another

 

[Faye_Whitaker]

Confidence.

If you could have your first time again, knowing what you know now, what would you do differently? Would you have given your virginity away sooner or later than you did? Would you have chosen a different person? What would you have done differently, and why? What advice would you give someone who is thinking about giving away their own virginity?

I figured better to post a new thread than hijack MrSneakyinPA's one about people's first times, which has had lots of interesting responses and made me wonder about the questions above.

I wouldn't have done it with the person I did. He was really self-centered, and I was so hungry to be wanted that the first person who made a real, sustained effort got in, even though he didn't deserve it. I would have walked away and not given in to his drama and the then-novel feeling of being needed. I would have been more confident in myself and recognized that I deserved to choose someone I actually wanted, instead of settling for anyone who wanted me enough to pursue me. I definitely would have waited and I would have listened to that little feeling that things weren't quite right.

But then, my first guy was instrumental in developing my bullshit detector, so maybe I wouldn't have had that confidence if I hadn't been with him.

Oh: and I would have been more vocal about what I wanted in bed, that first time. I wouldn't have pretended everything he did was delightful. I would have been more assertive about what I actually liked and didn't like - "Yes, keep touching me THERE, no don't stop, that hurts, try this instead" sort of stuff. Guiding his hands and taking more responsibility for my own pleasure instead of hoping what he wanted would also please me.

 

[Treykap]

No change

It was way too fast and it was the perfect way to get that out of the way and open the door to better, more involving, experiences later. It had to get out of the way, and I wouldn't change a thing about it. It handled an urgent need for both of us, and made us realize it was more complex than we had imagined. It did what it should have done.

 

[Beck31]

Probably but would have been smarter about it

 

[fma20fma]

hi

given a chance to turn back the clock,i would prefer to do it with as many more guys, variety and kinks and variations.

 

[Beck31]

That is interesting. I wish I could go back and do some stuff that I never had the nerve to do.

 

[Beck31]

too bad there is not time travel

 

[fma20fma]

hi

if you have the mind,you can try out what u wish to even now.all it takes is guts, determination and perusal.

 

[Beck31]

That is true. Good point.

 

[fma20fma]

hi

That is true. Good point.

What stops you?