I was wrong for years...

[amandaxoferrari]

For years I spent reading stories, watching porn, trying different relationships and the entire time I thought I was submissive. I thought I wanted to be the girl completely under the control of someone else. I tried several relationships, which never felt right, and I always blamed the guy or women I was with. Then the other night my friend came home from the Army and we all went out to celebrate. Being bisexual, I helped picked out a women for both of us to have a threesome with. It turns out, I loved dominating her more than someone dominating me. Controlling what she could do to me or him and watching him get off on it. It was amazing. I went back to watch some of my favorite BDSM movies and realized I might actually be dominate not submissive..

I guess my question is... have any of you ever experienced this? Where the whole time you thought you were submissive, you were really dominate?

 

[LittleSparks]

*dominant

I've always been submissive, and even when I've tried to switch it's just not the same level of enjoyment for me. However, I suspect this could be the case for a lot of people, who have no way of truly knowing where they fall until they try both ends of the spectrum. I wonder, did you ever think about switching when you were subbing for all of those years, and maybe suppressed it for whatever reason, or did you simply not consider it at all?

 

[amandaxoferrari]

Wow huge typo sorry about that! To answer your question, no I never considered it at all.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Amanda, hell yeah! I used to explain that I could not get anyone to top me the way I wanted, so I had no choice but to play out my desires on someone else.

Later I learned how to be a dominant bottom-- and also, how to find partners that fucking listen.

 

[hunnyblonde]

Amanda, hell yeah! I used to explain that I could not get anyone to top me the way I wanted, so I had no choice but to play out my desires on someone else.

Later I learned how to be a dominant bottom-- and also, how to find partners that fucking listen.

Whoa.....dominant bottom?? What is that? ....if you don't mind enlightening me?

.......nevermind...I followed your links. Wow, my mind is BLOWN right now.

 

[Netzach]

Kind of but a little different. I started out in the scene heavily leaning to the bottom and the more I did it the more I realized I wanted to be doing what the other person was doing, or I was second guessing what they were doing or thinking "no dummy, I'd do this to me" or something like that. It helped to indicate to me that I'm really much more interested in being in control, generally. The sensations are OK to me, I can take them or leave them and I don't mind sometimes being bossy about getting them, but I really like being the active party and doing stuff to the other person.

 

[amandaxoferrari]

That is amazing =)

 

[leighannste17]

Yea I always thought I was submissive too. Until I met my last boyfriend that would always worship me, he actually got off on seeing me pleasured. He always put me first, he kindof seduced me into the dominant role a little bit.

At first I didn't think it was going to work out. I had laughed at his penis awhile back and he always seemed offended by it he would say, "Your the only girl ever to laugh at it." I never understood what he meant by it. But some guys get off on younger females that embaress them. It was almost like he was enchanted by it because he never knew a younger female could dominate an older male. He would do all sorts of services for me he'd shave my pussy, he'd rub my feet, his hand became my pet. So yea i'd say i'm more dominant.

 

[VWSinger]

No. I have always been dominant, even before I knew what sex (intercourse) was. Never had a moment of doubt.