Primalex
Literotica Guru
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- Jul 14, 2007
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Taking someone who says "I’d never do that." and turning it into "I want this!" Pushing, reshaping, testing, breaking resistance. That is part of the appeal for many dominants who are not just service tops.
People talk about consent, but if your goal is to change someone's limits over time, are you still respecting consent if you are actively trying to rewrite it? At what point does that stop being ethical and start being manipulation with better branding?
And then there is the long term problem. Say you succeed. Your partner becomes deeply submissive, says yes to almost anything, trusts you completely, maybe even depends on you. If there is no resistance left, are you still dominating, or just maintaining control over someone who has been shaped to fit you? If your kink relies on pushing someone past their previous limits, what happens when there are no limits left to push? Do you escalate into the absurd that is bound to fail? Do you get bored? Do you realize that what you enjoyed was not the dynamic itself, but the act of changing someone and look for someone else to change?
People talk about consent, but if your goal is to change someone's limits over time, are you still respecting consent if you are actively trying to rewrite it? At what point does that stop being ethical and start being manipulation with better branding?
And then there is the long term problem. Say you succeed. Your partner becomes deeply submissive, says yes to almost anything, trusts you completely, maybe even depends on you. If there is no resistance left, are you still dominating, or just maintaining control over someone who has been shaped to fit you? If your kink relies on pushing someone past their previous limits, what happens when there are no limits left to push? Do you escalate into the absurd that is bound to fail? Do you get bored? Do you realize that what you enjoyed was not the dynamic itself, but the act of changing someone and look for someone else to change?
