For the last few months, I've needed something that my relationship wasn't giving me: I needed to be submissive, and I needed a man (or woman) to be dominant. I began to experiment with dom/sub online, and found myself an online Master, and really enjoyed being a sub.... a friend of mine from Lit recently sat my bf down and told him that he should give some thought to the lifestyle, for me. And my bf, who I never thought would be into it, agreed. I couldn't believe it, when he and I began that conversation.. he's gonna go do some reading up, and I'll be doing likewise, but he admitted that he knew I was a sub, and just doesn't know how to be dominant (he's a VERY easygoing guy). But he's willing to do this for me, with me. I've called things off with my online Master, as I'm no fool... the love of my life wants to learn with me... and I'm excited.. but I'm terrified.. I, like many others out there, have had some terrible times with men, and I'm scared of giving up full control.. which is why I think this would be a good thing for me to try.. and I look forward to trusting him so completely. I burst into tears during that conversation, and I hardly know why, except that I'm so grateful to my SO for being so open to this, and because I'm so scared of the challenge. This will be so hard for me.
Now, you all know that I'm just beginning... and my SO and I need some help. What kind of things did you do when you began the lifestyle? What kind of things do you dom/mes and subs want from your SO's, and what kinds of things do you do for them? Can you suggest any first steps for us? Thank you in advance...
Vix
Now, you all know that I'm just beginning... and my SO and I need some help. What kind of things did you do when you began the lifestyle? What kind of things do you dom/mes and subs want from your SO's, and what kinds of things do you do for them? Can you suggest any first steps for us? Thank you in advance...
Vix