I used to be exclusively Chat, but I'm now almost 100% Forum

In my mind the chat is for getting to know people and the forum is for exploring ideas. In the forums the people connections evolve slowly and naturally.

I'm glad to hear that someone is moving in this direction. Chat reminds me of the problems our society faces as people get less and less able to deal with slow, long things.

Edit: I went to look at your posts and realized that I was actually talking about the AH forum. I see that you frequent forums like Playground that are actually more toward the people end of the spectrum rather than ideas. So I have to modify my reply to refer to AH, mostly.
Yeah I'd agree with "meeting people" vs exploring ideas.
 
Chat is mostly for quick real-time RPs. Which sometimes I like to do, although few have good etiquette. When they get their needs met, they often make a quick exit. And I always try to put in good effort, to make it unique or unexpected--rarely is this reciprocated. So it often isn't worth my time unless I just like the idea of getting someone off.

I haven't done much in the forums yet. I'm currently exploring.
Yeah. Etiquette is a BIG issue in chat. There are some rude MF's sometimes πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ€£
 
I wouldn't say the responses are faster in chat but you don't have to hit the refresh button like you have to do constantly on the forum.

Sometimes in chat you join a room and no pms come your way and other times a dozen pms come your way and you end up trying to have several conversations at the same time.

Lit chat seems more like a quickie than trying to form a long lasting online relationship.

Quickies can be fun, but for me ultimately not fulfilling
Pacing is very different. There are pluses and minuses to that I guess.
 
I like the anonymity & privacy of chat. Next day no one knows what’s been said. Whereas in the forum you can get notifications for things I said months ago & had long forgotten about.

But someone of your humour and wit is wasted in the chat
Very true. "Chat has No Memory."

And the pacing is so fast. A few days feels like a month.
 
Yeah. Etiquette is a BIG issue in chat. There are some rude MF's sometimes πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ€£

I'm sure that's a bigger problem for women than men. Women generally aren't rude to me, but they don't always put much effort into the RPs or else take off when they finish. Not always tho, I'm glad to say.
 
I tried chat a few times. Felt like most chats, you either get seen or you don't, either way they won't interact because your new. In chat you have to pop up frequently and often forums not so much you can post everything you want to say and if people feel it they will chime in
 
I'm sure that's a bigger problem for women than men. Women generally aren't rude to me, but they don't always put much effort into the RPs or else take off when they finish. Not always tho, I'm glad to say.
You get a few people that are intentionally rude, quite a few that say offensive stuff maybe without meaning to. Some that are just too pushy and won't leave you alone. This is mostly in pm's, mind you. But there are some people that are rude in public as well.
 
You get a few people that are intentionally rude, quite a few that say offensive stuff maybe without meaning to. Some that are just too pushy and won't leave you alone. This is mostly in pm's, mind you. But there are some people that are rude in public as well.

Yeah, they're always out there. You seem cool. You ever want to PM about anything, I promise not to be one of those guys...
 
I tried chat a few times. Felt like most chats, you either get seen or you don't, either way they won't interact because your new. In chat you have to pop up frequently and often forums not so much you can post everything you want to say and if people feel it they will chime in
Yes. It's really hard to break into chat when first show up.

i think "Reactions" in Forum make a big difference. In Chat, you say something and nobody replies. Does that mean they're ignoring you, or they think your comment was stupid, or did people just quietly apprecate it?
 
I’ve only been in Lit a short while. Looked at chat originally and it seemed very β€œquick” and random. I was seeking more substantial β€œconversations β€œ on a few topics so searching the Forum and then engaging in private messages from there has proven more satisfying. However, I became chagrined then ultimately amused by a large number of individuals in a forum that indicate they want to chat about a specific topic and then when I attempt to start a conversation, they ghost or respond in very short sentences and don’t really have much to say or just β€œlike” my comments.
It confused me at first but then I learned to lower my expectations.😭😭
"VERY SHORT SENTENCES" yeah that's Chat. If it goes more than 3 lines, it stands out.
 
I started with reading the stories then jumped into chat. Plenty of kinks to chose from but not much said. 5-30 people in the room crickets, no one saying anything
Yeah, other than Lobby, most of the Rooms are pretty dead. I think they're mostly there to find RP partners for private chat. Only a ouple, like Playful Questions, are good for group chat.

I'm just not much of a private chat person I guess. Not that into RP's. I like an audience: more of an attention whore than a real whore 🀣
 
I've had some good conversations in chat, but it's really hit and miss. It's kind of like walking into a crowded bar, and maybe some of your friends are there and maybe not. Maybe you meet someone, maybe you don't. And it's really loud so you can get drowned out.

And if the first bar you go to (Lobby) isn't working for you, you can go to other bars (Rooms) but they're usually quiet and boring, or else full of weird loners who keep hitting on you.
Why do I have the feeling that, in a real bar, you get hit on constantly.
You ARE a horn dog 🌭🌭🌭

But you're MY horndog πŸ₯°
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Oh lookit me losing my shit 🀣🀣🀣

Sorry. Drama Queen moment.
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Chat is terrible on a phone.
You can't even look at someone's profile as it will boot you off when chat isn't your 100% focus.

They know this but refuse to do anything about it. I wonder when was the last time they updated the chat software. Guessing around 2000
YES YES YES. ffs!

I chat exclusively on phone and yeah it's a pain in the ass. Very unstable, you get disconnected all the time, and the profile thing SUCKS. You LITERALLY cannot look at a profile there without getting bounced, and sometimes you can't get back in right away.
 
I'm in the process of what seems to be a complete transition from Chat to Forum.

There are advantages and disadvantages to both. Most of my reasons, though, are more specific to me than systemic.

I suppose right now I just feel that Forum suits me better. It allows me to express myself better and show more of my sexuality and sense of humor.

I tried to talk to people about it in open chat. Nobody seemed to really care, they're Chatters and many don't even know what Forum is. I never saw many who did both.

I don't have a question. I'm just talking. Jump in if you want.
Hello, I do both, started out in Forum for years before going into chat, it seemed like the messages scrolled so fast in the Lobby, until I found the rooms. I've had ongoing connections from both chat and forum, which I desire, not just one offs!
 
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