"I seek like minded individuals"

[SweetDommes]

I feel sorry for him. You're right you can see the desperation, he must be so lonely.

For the record, I pointed him (rather politely, considering my earlier messages) towards some threads on how to approach people and what common mistakes to avoid (like calling me "Mistress" without my permission *growl*) - hopefully he'll have better luck with the next Dominant that he messages.

 

[graceanne]

For the record, I pointed him (rather politely, considering my earlier messages) towards some threads on how to approach people and what common mistakes to avoid (like calling me "Mistress" without my permission *growl*) - hopefully he'll have better luck with the next Dominant that he messages.

Ok. I hope so.

 

[SweetDommes]

Ok. I hope so.

Honestly, so do I. He seems like a nice enough guy, just way too desparate and more than a few clues short.

 

[graceanne]

Honestly, so do I. He seems like a nice enough guy, just way too desparate and more than a few clues short.

Yeah. I wasn't saying that you should have showed interest, when their was none. I would probably have brushed him off, too. But I still feel sorry for him.

Unfortunately, pity is a bad reason to start a new relationship.

 

[SweetDommes]

Yeah. I wasn't saying that you should have showed interest, when their was none. I would probably have brushed him off, too. But I still feel sorry for him.

Unfortunately, pity is a bad reason to start a new relationship.

I know - just saying that I'm not totally cruel and heartless

 

[Aeroil]

I know - just saying that I'm not totally cruel and heartless

You're not????

 

[graceanne]

I know - just saying that I'm not totally cruel and heartless

You know you just broke the heart of every malesub on this forum. lol

 

[SweetDommes]

You know you just broke the heart of every malesub on this forum. lol

No I didn't - first, I said "not TOTALLY" which obviously means that I have my moments, and second, *taps on your forehead* hello!! we are the "Sweet" Dommes, so they should already know

 

[graceanne]

No I didn't - first, I said "not TOTALLY" which obviously means that I have my moments, and second, *taps on your forehead* hello!! we are the "Sweet" Dommes, so they should already know

LOL *prepares to kiss ass* I thought you were talking about your looks!

 

[SweetDommes]

LOL *prepares to kiss ass* I thought you were talking about your looks!

 

[ghosst_K&H]

You know you just broke the heart of every malesub on this forum. lol

I guess I am an exceptional sub, seeing that the other male subs here can't compare to yours truely

 

[graceanne]

I guess I am an exceptional sub, seeing that the other male subs here can't compare to yours truely

And so modest, too!

 

[SweetDommes]

And so modest, too!

LOL, I know, isn't he cute? I think he's just trying to get spanked ... too bad being rotten doesn't get him a spanking, huh?

 

[Bandit58]

*grins* Remember when I mentioned that my new lady was probably a switch?? Well after the last couple of weeks or so it's become obvious that she is more Domme than sub.....I've had both her and Master working on me, it's incredible

 

[snowy ciara]

I guess I am an exceptional sub, seeing that the other male subs here can't compare to yours truely

a-HEM....


After being allowed to borrow bronntanas for a day or so when he was being mariposa's house slave, I'd say you have some competition.

 

[TaintedB]

For the record, I pointed him (rather politely, considering my earlier messages) towards some threads on how to approach people and what common mistakes to avoid (like calling me "Mistress" without my permission *growl*) - hopefully he'll have better luck with the next Dominant that he messages.

Having read collarme for a while now, I don't see how you or anybody else can bear being on those personal-ad sites for any length of time. I admire your preservation and continuing sense of humor about all of this. Collarme, bondage.com and the others are supposed to be about finding someone to connect with, but they seem so hostile and alienating to me. I wonder how much happy connection ever goes on in them? From what I understand, you already have at least one person in your life, and maybe more, so maybe the emotional stakes aren't as high for you, but man, how do all the single lonely people, no matter what their gender and orientation, stand that auction-hall atmosphere? In my way of thinking, which may of course be old-fashioned and that would explain why I don't like online dating sites, courtship and even connection require an informal atmosphere where people can just bump into each other randomly and slowly get to know each other, and if they don't click, it's no big deal. Nothing's at stake, no egos have been crushed. You're both in this place because you enjoy being there or doing what they do there, not because you're explictly soliciting for a mate.

Online personals have the desperate contrived feel of a single's bar half an hour before closing--actually it seems much worse than that because people are trying to "sell" themselves to others, in profiles and in profile responses, in the arid and limited medium of writing and still photos. The majority of people, those who are not talented writers, must find this sort of thing horribly daunting. But even for the good writers or the individuals who can envision the person behind the words, it must be quite difficult, I imagine, to make a connection with a stranger with just text, especially if you only get one shot at them. Human connections are usually built over time, through watching how somebody behaves, through learning their personality slowly and gradually, not by putting up a bunch of words on a webpage that say "I am this--buy me" or replying to someone's webpage with "I am that--buy me." How do you manage to work up any sort of feeling at all for a total stranger, no matter how pretty their words or photos are?

Ok, what am I missing here? Where is the fun or joy in these kinds of places? I know Killi met Marquis on collarme and they had an almost instant and powerful connection, but I wonder how common that sort of thing is?

 

[SweetDommes]

another one ...

First message:

I'm a single, submissive male who seeks a Domme to serve real time. I wish to be the loyal, humble servant of an intelligent and creative Domme. I have no real time experience, and have not yet found a Domme to serve on a long-term basis. I enjoy many aspects of submission and have few limits. I'm willing to submit to most activities for the pleasure and amusement of a woman. If you'd like to meet a quality sub male with a true desire to serve, please send me a message.

(again, with our "we're taking a break from looking" profile up - which I have now altered ... again).

My reply:

What part of "we're taking a break from looking" gave you trouble?

His reply:

Real Dommes never take a break..What part of that don't you understand?

Does anyone else see a problem with his logic? First off, had he read the profile, he would know that - as I stated - we are only taking a break from looking for our second boy. Second, had he read the profile and journal entries, he would know that we already have a live-in boy (thus aren't taking a break from D/s - just the search for a second boy). Third, everyone takes a break sometimes - for whatever reason, everyone does. Fourth, since our profile specifically states not to message us unless they are only looking for friendship, exactly who does he think he is impressing with his "submission"? Someone who can't follow directions is not what we are looking for.

 

[DVS]

First message:

I'm a single, submissive male who seeks a Domme to serve real time. I wish to be the loyal, humble servant of an intelligent and creative Domme. I have no real time experience, and have not yet found a Domme to serve on a long-term basis. I enjoy many aspects of submission and have few limits. I'm willing to submit to most activities for the pleasure and amusement of a woman. If you'd like to meet a quality sub male with a true desire to serve, please send me a message.

(again, with our "we're taking a break from looking" profile up - which I have now altered ... again).

My reply:

What part of "we're taking a break from looking" gave you trouble?

His reply:

Real Dommes never take a break..What part of that don't you understand?

Does anyone else see a problem with his logic? First off, had he read the profile, he would know that - as I stated - we are only taking a break from looking for our second boy. Second, had he read the profile and journal entries, he would know that we already have a live-in boy (thus aren't taking a break from D/s - just the search for a second boy). Third, everyone takes a break sometimes - for whatever reason, everyone does. Fourth, since our profile specifically states not to message us unless they are only looking for friendship, exactly who does he think he is impressing with his "submission"? Someone who can't follow directions is not what we are looking for.

Temper, temper.

 

[SweetDommes]

Temper, temper.

Yeah? And?

 

[Krinaia]

So I've left this thread far too long to the clutches of our favorite sugary Domme's rants on the idiocy of the men they date..... mwahaha... and i'm redirecting the attention of this thread where it belongs: laughing at the foibles of anyone who posts an idiotic personal's ad .... oh and me, and anyone who sends me a pm.

okay, just kidding on the later.

Sort of.

So here is one I have to share:

"Transgendered male, wishing to be female, who is looking for the right Domme or sub woman to explore not only the lifestyle with, but to help me become more the woman I am inside."

The picture with it is priceless for many reasons - it strikes me as oddly male and female and creepy all at once AND was enough for me to be able to recognize him as the guy who arrived two hours early to a job interview at the firm I work at.

Ho ho ho.... lol, his pm was however polite, completely without come-on's and filled only with helpful hints. Still, I'm closeted and professionally want it to stay that way so I will tread carefully around this one and use this from henceforth as reason why I use only my eyes as my identifying photograph.

 

[Krinaia]

Oh you Rhode Islanders, how I desire to be in your midst....


"I offer a rare opportunity, for beautiful submissive/slave who genuinely seeks the physical, emotional and psychological security, only a real Master can bring you. ONLY respond if you are able to relocate, bi or poly, and desire to live in a polyamorous setting as owned property."

- a very handsome black dominant



"you must be on the small/petite/slim physical build - breast size is unimportant to Me. you must be serious, genuine, able to relocate*in the near future, able to share a pic or two and able to prove yourself as a worthy contender."

geez, can I just say WTF? I feel like I would be trying out to be a small boxer,.... contender? Puh-lease playa!



"I am looking for new submissives to play with and eventually keep as my own. I have a few subs I play with now but family commitments make meeting and keeping control of them dificult. I want a M or F to want nothing more than to please me. They will get theres in return* ) :

There are so many issues with this ad, I'm not sure where to begin.

 

[SweetDommes]

So I've left this thread far too long to the clutches of our favorite sugary Domme's rants on the idiocy of the men they date.....

Oh, come on, you know you love it and anyway, it's definitely NOT the men we date ... these are the ones that want to date us, not the ones we have any interest in at all

 

[Krinaia]

Oh, come on, you know you love it and anyway, it's definitely NOT the men we date ... these are the ones that want to date us, not the ones we have any interest in at all

Whatever, you need some time off from being the only one to whine... so there

And now you can't drive over and spank me because I'm sooooo far away now. Har har. It's a shame too, I had a really vivid lesbian daydream recently.

Seriously though, I have a date with a college educated male switch on friday.

 

[SweetDommes]

woohoo! yay for you

We've started over entirely, again *sigh* ... not quite ready to 'reopen' the search, but probably will shortly.

 

[SweetDommes]

OMG, you all have got to read this *falls out of chair laughing*

I ABSOLUTLY LOVE YOUR BEAUTIFUL PALE WHITE WHITE WHITE SKIN YOUR-MAJESTY-!
I am looking for a WOMAN TO PAMPER WITH FOOT-MASSAGES AND PEDICURES-!
I am also looking FOR A LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP THAT COULD POSSIBLY LEAD TO MARRIAGE ONE DAY-!

You can always e-mail me back directly at:

*email removed to protect the ignorant*


My yahoo instant messanger is: *removed*

or by phone at:

*omg, yes he really did give us 2 phone numbers*

-NEIL OR KNEEL AT YOUR PERFECTLY PEDICURED PALE WHITE WHITE WHITE FEET ALWAYS-!!!

Now, I know I'm about as white as it gets, but really ... I'm not that damned pale LOL