I need some advice.....

[Ephesians5_22]

I'm kinda new at this. Don't get me wrong I've been a fan of this site for a long time, even shy "prudish" church mice have kinky sides. I've just never been brave enough to post on here before. But I'm in need of some help.

I want to spice things up in the bedroom. We're both big fans of BDSM (more hard core than vanilla but probably not as kinky as you guys) but I think he may be getting bored with by now after 3 years of marriage & that being pretty much all we've done this whole time. But he's even more conservative than I am so I don't want to over whelm him.

I've narrowed it down to 2 things. Role playing strangers (lonely housewife + handy man type thing) or having him walk in & catch me pleasuring myself to porn. Both scenarios I'll be in sexy lingerie & heels. I just wanted to know which one men found "hotter".
He watches porn but is a little embarrassed about it (I tell him all the time that it's nothing to be embarrassed about until it interferes with our love life) but he thinks it's hot when I read "smut" which is basically porn for bookworms right? So I think he'd find it hot. But then again, if he's bored I think pretending to be strangers might be what he needs....if it's not too weird for him. Any advice is appreciated. Thank y'all for reading

 

[pete]

I'm kinda new at this. Don't get me wrong I've been a fan of this site for a long time, even shy "prudish" church mice have kinky sides. I've just never been brave enough to post on here before. But I'm in need of some help.

I want to spice things up in the bedroom. We're both big fans of BDSM (more hard core than vanilla but probably not as kinky as you guys) but I think he may be getting bored with by now after 3 years of marriage & that being pretty much all we've done this whole time. But he's even more conservative than I am so I don't want to over whelm him.

I've narrowed it down to 2 things. Role playing strangers (lonely housewife + handy man type thing) or having him walk in & catch me pleasuring myself to porn. Both scenarios I'll be in sexy lingerie & heels. I just wanted to know which one men found "hotter".
He watches porn but is a little embarrassed about it (I tell him all the time that it's nothing to be embarrassed about until it interferes with our love life) but he thinks it's hot when I read "smut" which is basically porn for bookworms right? So I think he'd find it hot. But then again, if he's bored I think pretending to be strangers might be what he needs....if it's not too weird for him. Any advice is appreciated. Thank y'all for reading

so let's back it up here...

you're 21 now, got married when you were 18. and at 18 you were into bdsm with this dude, and i'm assuming with others before him. and yet you consider yourself to be conservative, and him to be even more so than you?
interesting.

anyways, what sort of porn does he watch? that's your first clue.

otherwise, if he likes that you read erotica, then sure try the second option.

 

[chillywilly2]

you could switch roles and let him play the woman once in a while...who has the biggest penis?

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Ever notice how folks now speak of their partners as if the people are late model used cars.

 

[neci]

how often are you sucking his dick?

 

[Lancecastor]

"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord."

Ephesians 5:22

Sounds like you should be asking your Husband this question, but I recommend you start by begging him for anal sex.

 

[Ephesians5_22]

He was my first. I saved myself for my husband. I can't say they same for him so I wanted to do something he never did with any other girl & that was what we did. I came here to ask for advice not be judged. I say I'm conservative because I am. I wear ankle length skirts. Used to teach a private Christian academy before I quit to become a stay at home mom. I homeschool so I can teach my children the bible along with their school work. I'm a VERY VERY hard core right wing voter. I just didn't want people suggesting anything like threesomes, sharing, watching, or anything too crazy so I thought it'd be a good thing to mention that while we are a couple of freaks in our circle...compared to you guys we're beginners.


Any way, I suck his cock A LOT. And I swallow. And again going back to the wanting to do stuff he hadn't done before we've done anal too. Like I said he's embarrassed about his porn so I'm not sure exactly. I know I saw hardcore porn on his browser before but nothing specific.

 

[Ephesians5_22]

Ever notice how folks now speak of their partners as if the people are late model used cars.

I'm sorry....I don't understand. I in no way disrespected my husband. I'm just trying to get an outsider's opinion but I feel like I made a mistake coming here for help. I understand men have needs & they get bored. How's that treating him like a late model car? How is me wanting to be the best wife I can be diminishing my husband? While some of you are obviously trying to be helpful & I greatly appreciate it. Others are being rather mean & judgmental. The absolute LAST thing I thought I would find here. Thank you guys any way but I decided I don't want help any more after all. How do I delete a profile?

 

[neci]

He was my first. I saved myself for my husband. I can't say they same for him so I wanted to do something he never did with any other girl & that was what we did. I came here to ask for advice not be judged. I say I'm conservative because I am. I wear ankle length skirts. Used to teach a private Christian academy before I quit to become a stay at home mom. I homeschool so I can teach my children the bible along with their school work. I'm a VERY VERY hard core right wing voter. I just didn't want people suggesting anything like threesomes, sharing, watching, or anything too crazy so I thought it'd be a good thing to mention that while we are a couple of freaks in our circle...compared to you guys we're beginners.


Any way, I suck his cock A LOT. And I swallow. And again going back to the wanting to do stuff he hadn't done before we've done anal too. Like I said he's embarrassed about his porn so I'm not sure exactly. I know I saw hardcore porn on his browser before but nothing specific.

they let you teach at a private christian academy with only a high school diploma?

anyways. maybe he just wants some alone wanking time. have you gone to church wearing no underwear, letting him know about it during the sermon?

 

[neci]

I'm sorry....I don't understand. I in no way disrespected my husband. I'm just trying to get an outsider's opinion but I feel like I made a mistake coming here for help. I understand men have needs & they get bored. How's that treating him like a late model car? How is me wanting to be the best wife I can be diminishing my husband? While some of you are obviously trying to be helpful & I greatly appreciate it. Others are being rather mean & judgmental. The absolute LAST thing I thought I would find here. Thank you guys any way but I decided I don't want help any more after all. How do I delete a profile?

 

[SkAoUt]

You must not have checked out this forum before you signed up if you think those ^^^ posts are judgmental.

And you can't delete your profile. Just don't come back. Only the NSA (and Got) will ever know who you really are and how freaky you get online. Ya kinky sumbitches.

 

[Lancecastor]

I'm kinda new at this. Don't get me wrong I've been a fan of this site for a long time, even shy "prudish" church mice have kinky sides. I've just never been brave enough to post on here before. But I'm in need of some help.

I want to spice things up in the bedroom. We're both big fans of BDSM (more hard core than vanilla but probably not as kinky as you guys) but I think he may be getting bored with by now after 3 years of marriage & that being pretty much all we've done this whole time. But he's even more conservative than I am so I don't want to over whelm him.

I've narrowed it down to 2 things. Role playing strangers (lonely housewife + handy man type thing) or having him walk in & catch me pleasuring myself to porn. Both scenarios I'll be in sexy lingerie & heels. I just wanted to know which one men found "hotter".
He watches porn but is a little embarrassed about it (I tell him all the time that it's nothing to be embarrassed about until it interferes with our love life) but he thinks it's hot when I read "smut" which is basically porn for bookworms right? So I think he'd find it hot. But then again, if he's bored I think pretending to be strangers might be what he needs....if it's not too weird for him. Any advice is appreciated. Thank y'all for reading

I think when you said " I've narrowed it down to 2 things" you answered your own question.

 

[richard_daily]

He was my first. I saved myself for my husband. I can't say they same for him so I wanted to do something he never did with any other girl & that was what we did. I came here to ask for advice not be judged. I say I'm conservative because I am. I wear ankle length skirts. Used to teach a private Christian academy before I quit to become a stay at home mom. I homeschool so I can teach my children the bible along with their school work. I'm a VERY VERY hard core right wing voter. I just didn't want people suggesting anything like threesomes, sharing, watching, or anything too crazy so I thought it'd be a good thing to mention that while we are a couple of freaks in our circle...compared to you guys we're beginners.


Any way, I suck his cock A LOT. And I swallow. And again going back to the wanting to do stuff he hadn't done before we've done anal too. Like I said he's embarrassed about his porn so I'm not sure exactly. I know I saw hardcore porn on his browser before but nothing specific.

None of this sounds very christian to me.

 

[richard_daily]

I'm sorry....I don't understand. I in no way disrespected my husband. I'm just trying to get an outsider's opinion but I feel like I made a mistake coming here for help. I understand men have needs & they get bored. How's that treating him like a late model car? How is me wanting to be the best wife I can be diminishing my husband? While some of you are obviously trying to be helpful & I greatly appreciate it. Others are being rather mean & judgmental. The absolute LAST thing I thought I would find here. Thank you guys any way but I decided I don't want help any more after all. How do I delete a profile?

God wants you to cuckold him.

 

[lovetoread]

God wants you to cuckold him.

Ah so He does

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Wow. That was some really good advice.